Kuvutika kwa chikumbumtima ndikumva kupweteka kwa maganizo komwe munthu amamva za zovuta zake. Malingana ndi buku lina, chikumbumtima chimakulira mu ubwana: pamene zochita zabwino za mwanayo zimatamandidwa, komanso kwa olakwika - amalanga. Chotsatira chake, kumverera kwa kuyembekezera chilango chifukwa cha ntchito zoipa ndi ngakhale maganizo, otchedwa chizunzo cha chikumbumtima, amakhalabe kwa moyo wonse. Malingana ndi buku lina, chikumbumtima ndi chida chimene chimayesa zinthu zenizeni. Izi ndi zomwe zimapangitsa munthu ngati iye kukhala ndi mphamvu zoposa. Pazochita zabwino ndi malingaliro, chida ichi chimapereka mwayi wokhutira, chifukwa ntchito zosalungama za munthu zimazunza chikumbumtima chake.
N'chifukwa chiyani munthu amafunikira chikumbumtima?
Funso limeneli limayendera ndi munthu pamene chikumbumtima chiri panjira yopita ku zolinga zomwe mukufuna. Pamene zikuwoneka kuti ndi bwino kudutsa chikumbumtima, ndipo moyo udzasintha. Kapena mu nthawi ina: pamene zolinga zikukwaniritsidwa, zofunidwa zimalandira, ndipo mawu a chikumbumtima amazunza, mosalekeza.
Chikumbumtima chimapangidwa mwa munthu wamng'ono aliyense watsopano malinga ndi zikhalidwe za anthu omwe anabadwira. Amalola anthu kukhala pamodzi, kuthandizana ndi kukhazikitsa. Kuperewera kwa chikumbumtima kudzachotsa zifukwa zonse zomwe zimagwirizanitsa zachibadwa, ndipo moyo waumunthu udzakhala wopulumuka. Pambuyo pake, kodi kumatanthauza kuchita chiyani motsatira chikumbumtima? Awa ndiwo malamulo akulu omwewo: Osati kupha, osati kuba, osati kufuna wina ndi zina zotero. Ngati aliyense amatsatira mfundo izi - timakhala pamodzi ndikukula. Ngati tikuyembekeza aliyense kupha, chiwawa, kuba - timakhala kokha kuti tipeze chitetezo kapena kuyambitsa poyamba. Kuti phindu la gulu lonse - ndicho chifukwa chake munthu ali ndi chikumbumtima. Ndipo chifukwa cha chitukuko chaumwini, chomwe chiri chofunikira kwambiri.
Kodi ndiyenera kuchita chiyani pamene chikumbumtima chimazunza?
N'zoona kuti sikuti chikumbumtima chonse chili ndi nkhawa padziko lonse lapansi. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti munthu wolimba amazunzidwa ndi chikumbumtima chifukwa cha zovuta za unyamata. Kapena munthu adakula mwauzimu mu moyo wake wonse, ndipo m'kupita kwa nthawi makhalidwe ake anakhala okhwima, ndipo ululu wa chikumbumtima cha zinthu zakale unapeza mtolo wosalemetsa.
Pali malingaliro angapo a momwe mungachotsere chisoni.
- Musathamangitse kumverera uku, musawapange iwo nokha. Konzani msonkhano waumwini pamalo abwino, mudziwe yemwe ndikutaya mtendere wamaganizo. Nthawi zina khalidwe loipa lingakhale kulakwitsa kovomerezeka, komwe kunathandiza kumvetsa zinthu zofunika.
- Kuwoneka mozama kuchokera ku msinkhu wa moyo kukumana ndi malingaliro awo: mwinamwake zimapweteka makhalidwe osayenera kwambiri. Zinthu zina zimasuliridwa mobwerezabwereza m'moyo wonse, malamulo amakhala ngati apindula okha, osati chiyambi cha ubwana. Pamapeto pake, n'chifukwa chiyani munthu ayenera kukhala ndi chikumbumtima, ngati sichikulimbikitsanso kudzipangira yekha?
- Njira yabwino kwambiri ndiyo kulapa ndi chiwombolo. Ndipo si za malamulo a mpingo. Nthawi zina munthu amavutikira kwa zaka zambiri kuti ali ndi chilakolako chodziimba mlandu, moyenera chifukwa cha zochitika zake, samadzizindikira yekha kuti ali ndi mlandu.
Panthawi ina, mphamvu zake mukumenyana kumeneku zimatha. Ndipo lingaliro likubwera - ndine wolakwa ndipo ndithudi ndilo vuto langa, osati zochitika zomwe sizingazungulire anthu. Pambuyo pake, zimangopeza njira yothetsera ntchito yanu. Nthawi zina sizingatheke kwenikweni, koma liwu la chikumbumtima lidzakuuzani njira yopulumukira.
Chikumbumtima chokhazikika ndi mfundo ziwiri. Ndi mbali imodzi, ndi bwino kugona popanda kumva ululu wa chikumbumtima. Ndiwo moyo wokongola, osati wolemedwa ndi katundu wolakwa. Chifukwa cha ichi ndi koyenera kuchita mwachikumbumtima.
Kumbali ina, monga kuyenda kwa mtima kuli kofunikira pa moyo, kotero liwu la chikumbumtima ndilofunikira kuti kukula kwauzimu. Ikhoza kutchulidwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana: mau amkati, mphamvu yachisanu ndi chimodzi, mfundo za mngelo wothandizira. Mfundo yaikulu ndi yakuti chikumbumtima chimasunga makhalidwe abwino a munthu. Ndipo kuchokera pa mfundo iyi, kukhala ndi moyo mogwirizana ndi chikumbumtima kumatanthauza kuti muyenera kuchita, kulakwitsa, kuphunzira kuchokera ku zolakwa ndikukhalabe.