Phobi iliyonse imatilepheretsa ife ku chirichonse. Kuopa kuthawa pa ndege kumatipangitsa ife kukhala ndi mwayi wopambana komanso kuthana mwamsanga. Kuwopa zam'mwamba sikudzakulolani kuti mukhale ndi chikondi ndi ubwino wokwera ndege. Pali zitsanzo zambiri zofanana, komaliza ndi chimodzi: mantha amapangitsa munthu wolumala. Ngati chiyembekezo choterocho sichikugwirizana ndi inu, ndiye ndi phobias anu muyenera kulimbana. Lero tikambirana za momwe tingachotse mantha a anthu.
Kodi tikukamba za chiyani?
Kuopa kulankhulana ndi anthu si vuto lachidziwikire m'mawu ake owonetseredwa bwino. Chisangalalo chisanafike munthu watsopano amayamba pafupifupi pafupifupi aliyense. Ndipo ochepa chabe amadwala matenda aakulu - mantha a anthu ena osadziŵa.
Zifukwa zawonetsedwe ili ndi izi:
- kuzunzidwa kwa ana muubwana. Phobia iliyonse imayambira ali mwana, m'banja. Kawirikawiri ndi makolo omwe ali ndi udindo pa izi kapena kuopa mwana wawo. Kusasamala, kusasamala komanso kusadziŵa malamulo oyenera kulera kungapangitse kukhumudwa kwambiri kwa mwana. M'tsogolomu ayenera kukhala ndi izi;
- zochitika zachiwawa ndi kuzunza anzawo. Mwana yemwe wawona chithunzi chomwecho kapena, choipa kwambiri, atawona chigamulo choterowo, adzakonzekera kwamuyaya nkhanza za anthu. Ali ndi zaka, amawopa ena, amawachitira osakhulupilira, kapena amawononga anthu ena;
- kudzipatula pakakula. Kuwopsya koteroko monga kuopa khamu lalikulu la anthu, kuyankhulana nawo kumachitika mwa munthu wamkulu. Chifukwa chake ndi kupanikizika kwakukulu, komwe kunayambitsa matenda osokonezeka maganizo. Imfa ya wokondedwa, mkazi kapena mwana ndi chimodzimodzi. Munthu amangotseka yekha, amachoka kwa anthu, zenizeni, amachokera yekha. Akusowa thandizo, chifukwa nkutheka kuti sungathe kuchoka mu dziko lino popanda;
- zovuta, kudzichepetsa. Ngati wina amangokhalira kumukakamiza, kumudetsa ulemu, kumunyoza ulemu wake ndi ulemu, ndiye kuti akhoza kumusokoneza. Kuwopa anthu kudzawonjezeka pang'onopang'ono ndipo kumapangitsa kuti munthu asadziwe.
Kodi zikuwonetseredwa m'njira yotani?
Kuopa anthu (social phobia) kuli ndi zizindikiro zotsatirazi:
- chikhumbo chopewa kusonkhana ndi gulu;
- kusafuna kudziwana ndi anthu atsopano;
- kusakhulupirika kwa ena;
- kuwopa kudzudzula;
- kumverera kosasangalatsa mu kampani;
- kudzipatula ndi kusagwirizana;
- nkhawa ndi nkhawa;
- malungo: kunyoza, chizungulire, thukuta, mantha wamitsi;
- Kuvuta kulankhulana;
- kusamvetsetsa kwa anthu ena;
- kufunafuna kuthawa, kuchoka pantchito, kubisala kwa aliyense.
Kuchiza chithandizo chotere, chifukwa mantha a anthu ayenera kuchitidwa, choyamba, ndi njira za psychotherapeutic. Mukawona khalidwe ili, muzimverera ngati mutachotsa mantha anu, kenako funsani thandizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Yesani kuyang'ana mu zinthu zonse zabwino. Khulupirirani anthu ambiri, yesetsani kuwona mwa iwo zabwino, ulemu wawo. Pambuyo pake, aliyense ali ndi zovuta, ngakhale inu.