Kutsekedwa ndi kuuma sichiwonjezera kudzidalira poyankhulana ndi anthu. Kuti tikwanitse kuthandizira zokambirana, kukhala okondweretsa othandizira - ambiri sangazitamande ndi izi. Kusagwirizanitsa monga khalidwe la munthu ndikofunika kuti ukhale payekha. Izi ndizotheka, chinthu chachikulu ndikukhazikitsa cholinga ichi.
Anthu amagawanika kukhala mitundu iwiri: extroverts ndi introverts. Mtundu woyamba ndi womasuka kwa anthu, kulankhulana. Awa ndi omwe amadzilembera okha. Iwo amatsekedwa kuchokera kudziko lakunja. Izi ziyenera kuganiziridwa ndikudzichepetsa kwambiri kwa wothandizana nawo.
Kusagwirizanitsa ndi kukhazikitsidwa ndi malingaliro awiri osiyana pang'ono. Timatanthauzira matanthauzo otsatirawa:
- Kukhala ndi chibwenzi ndizofunikira kwa munthu kuti aziyankhulana ndi anthu ena;
- Kuyankhulana ndi luso la munthu kuti akhazikitse ndi kukhazikitsa oyanjana mu gulu lirilonse kwa nthawi yochepa.
Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale wosangalala?
Ndi zophweka kutengedwera ndi kulankhula ndi munthu yemwe angathe kukhala ndi chinachake choti anene. Anthu achidwi, ophunzira, anthu odziwa kuwerenga sadzasungidwa mosasamala. Mukulankhulana kulikonse, munthu woteroyo amalandiridwa. Ndikofunika kuti timve maganizo a wina pafunso ili kapena funsoli, kuti tipeze malingaliro a wina. Ndicho chizolowezi choyamba cha kukula kwa chisankho:
- zambiri zoti muwerenge, penyani ndi kumvetsera mapulogalamu a chitukuko, khalani "odzikongoletsa" ku zatsopano.
- Anthu olankhulana saopa kudziwana ndi anthu atsopano. Kwa iwo, izi ndi zosangalatsa kwambiri. Pofuna kuti ukhale ndi chiyanjano, chitani zotsatirazi:
- mutangotenga malo odzaza (chipinda chamalonda, malo osangalatsa, mafilimu, masewera), musaphonye mwayi woti mubwere ndikuyankhula ndi mlendo. Mukamacheza kwambiri "ozizira," mumakhala olimba mtima komanso okhudzika kwambiri. Mutuwu ukhoza kukhala wophweka kwambiri: nyengo, kusankhidwa kwa kanema, kutengera pambuyo poyang'ana ntchito, etc;
- Dzilimbikitseni kuti "muzisangalala" ndipo muwonetsenso chidwi china pazokambirana kulikonse. Khalani ndi chizolowezi cholankhulana, musati muziima pambali.
Nthawi zambiri timakhumudwitsidwa kwambiri pamene, pokhala pa intaneti ndi munthu wokondweretsa m'malingaliro athu, pamsonkhano weniweni, iye mwadzidzidzi amakhala laconic. Chowonadi ndi chakuti kulankhulana kwabwino kumaperekedwa mosavuta kuposa kukambirana kwenikweni. Anthu oterewa alibe maulendo apamwamba. Iwo amawopa anthu, kapena amakhala otetezeka mwa iwoeni, otchuka, kapena onse mu "botolo limodzi". Kumbukirani kuti kulankhulana kokha ndiko kukuthandizani zotsatira zomwe mukufunira kuthetsa vuto lanu.