Ubale waumunthu ndi wovuta kwambiri komanso wosokoneza. Nthaŵi zina amawombera mumtambo wotere, womwe sungathe kuwombera. Chimene chinkawoneka cholondola, m'kupita kwanthawi amapeza mtundu woipa. Ndipo, mosiyana, zolakwitsa zikhoza kukhala dalitso.
Poganizira ndondomekoyi kuti kutanthawuza kumunyoza munthu, timakumana ndi chidziwitso kuti phindu lenileni likusiyana ndi zomwe zidalipo kale. Tsamba la Ushakov limanena kuti kunyoza munthu - kumatanthauza kutamanda munthu chifukwa cha cholinga chake . Ndipo phindu, monga tikulidziwira, silili chabe, koma m'maganizo kapena m'maganizo. Ndinawauza abwana anga mosangalala kuti pambuyo pake ndingapemphe kuti achoke msanga. Kapena akunena kuti mkazi wake ndi wokongola bwanji lerolino, kuti asamuchotse zonyansa. Kutamanda ndi chinyengo kumanyenga ndikutamanda kumatanthauza.
Nthawi zina kulankhula mokondweretsa kungatanthauze makhalidwe omwe munthuyo alibe, koma amafuna kuwona yekha. Sitikulimbikitsana ndi kumuthandiza munthuyo poyesera kukwaniritsa chinachake. Timamvetsetsa tanthauzo lachisomo pamene tikumva kutamandidwa chifukwa cha makhalidwe omwe munthu alibe nawo dzina lake.
Kutamanda kapena kunyalanyaza?
Kuyamika ndi kunyengerera ndizosiyana ndi chilengedwe. Kuthokozedwa kungatchedwe kuti ndi mphatso yauzimu yaulere komanso yopanda dyera. Zimapangidwa ngati munthu akufuna kupanga zabwino, kupereka maonekedwe ake, mawonekedwe ake, zochita zake. Kuyamikirika kumakhala kosangalatsa kuposa kukondweretsa. Kawirikawiri amatchulidwa molimba mtima komanso momasuka.
Kupyolera mwachisomo, kuonekera kwabodza kumawoneka, anthu anzeru samakonda izo. Imawononga chiyanjano ndikupha chidaliro mwa munthuyo. Mawu omwewo m'madera osiyanasiyana akhoza kukhala akunyoza ndi kuyamika. Kuthokoza kumamuthandiza munthu kumvetsetsa kuti ali m'njira yoyenera, pamene kunyengerera kumasokoneza, kupereka zomwe munthu amafuna kuti zikhale zenizeni.