Munthu nthawi zonse amakhala pagulu, ndipo izi zimatanthauza kulankhulana nthawi zonse. Ndipo kuti izi zisakhale mikangano, pali luso la kuyankhulana, kuzinthu zomwe ziyenera kumvedwa.
Makhalidwe abwino olankhulana ndi anthu
Pa mutu uwu, palibe mabuku khumi ndi awiri omwe athandizidwa, omwe muli ndi mfundo za pafupifupi chochitika chilichonse. Ndipo kuchokera m'mabuku onse a zolemba ndizofunikira kuti mudziwe mfundo zazikuluzikulu zothandiza pakuyankhulana ndi anthu:
1. Dale Carnegie, yemwe amapanga chiphunzitso cha kulankhulana, amaphunzitsa kuti chinsinsi chachikulu cha ubale wabwino ndikumasuka kumwetulira. Pambuyo pake, izo zingayambitse otsogolera abwino kuchokera kwa interlocutor, kupanga malingaliro abwino. Mwa njira iyi, mudzatha kudzipezera nokha anthu.
2. Kunyengerera poyamba. Lamuloli liyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngakhale mutayankhula ndi munthu yemwe ali pansi pa chikhalidwe chanu.
3. Yesetsani kufotokozera momveka bwino malingaliro anu, kuti mupewe kusamvetsetsa kwa mnzanuyo pokambirana, ndipo, motero, chiyambi cha mkangano. Choyamba ndizomwe, uphungu uwu umakhudzana ndi kukambirana za mtundu wamalonda.
4. Ana ndiwonso, koma ndi ochepa, choncho, pakuchita nawo, malamulo ambiri ayenera kukumbukiridwa:
- mulole mwanayo ayankhule. Iye ali ndi ufulu ku lingaliro lake lomwe;
- ganizirani musananene. Moyo wa mwana suli wovuta kwambiri kusiyana ndi akulu;
- yesetsani kupeza chinenero chofanana ndi iwo. Kumbukirani kuti vuto lililonse liri ndi malo;
- mukamayankhula ndi ana a anthu ena, gwiritsani ntchito "inu". Izi zidzawathandiza kuwonjezera kudzidalira kwawo.
5. Nthawi ndi nthawi, imuzani munthuyo dzina lake. Pambuyo pa zonse, kwa munthu palibe phokoso lokoma kuposa liwu la dzina lake.
6. Chitani monga womvera. Nthaŵi zambiri, anthu amafuna kumva. Musasokoneze wokamba nkhaniyo. Musiyeni iye aziyankhula.
Makhalidwe abwino olankhulana pa intaneti
Pakalipano palibe malamulo ovomerezeka olankhulana m'mabwalo ochezera a pa Intaneti, maofesi, ndi zina zotero, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti mukhoza kuchita ngati nyama. Chifukwa chake, timakuuzani maumboni angapo omwe amathandiza kuwunikira malingaliro anu kumudziwa, kupanga chiyanjano:
- Musalowe mudziko la kudziwika. Dzikumbutseni kuti pamapeto ena a waya ndi ofanana ndi inu, munthu wamoyo. Choncho, polemba uthenga, tangoganizani kuti mukuyankhula pamaso pa interlocutor yanu. Kodi mumachita manyazi ndi mawu anu?
- Malingaliro a khalidwe pa intaneti ndi kuyankhulana kumaphatikizapo kutsatira malamulo onse omwe mumatsatira pa nthawi yolankhulana. Pankhani iyi, kumbukirani kuti muli pa intaneti, m'madera osiyanasiyana omwe muli malamulo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mukakhala ndi njira yatsopano yolankhulirana, phunzirani mosamala malamulo ake kuti musakhale ndi chiwawa. Izi zikutanthauza kuti, pakukambirana pa mawonekedwe, kubwereza ku gulu lina, mudzidziwe nokha ndi zofunikira zawo.
- Khalani olemekezeka nthawi ndi maganizo a interlocutor wanu.
Musasokoneze ogwiritsa ntchito chifukwa cha zopusa. Kwa ambiri, nthawi yamagetsi ndi yokwera mtengo kwambiri. Ndipo munthu aliyense ali ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana. - Yesetsani kupanga chifaniziro choyenera pamaso pa mnzanuyo. Susowa kusunga nthawi yonyalanyaza malamulo a galamala. Phunzirani kufotokoza maganizo anu mwachidziwikire.
- Kulowa mu zokambirana zokambirana, musapite ku mlingo wokhalapo wokhayokha pokhapokha mutagwiritsa ntchito matemberero mungathe kumuthandizira kuti adzikhululukire.
- Ngati wina sakusunga malingaliro a chilankhulo, izi sizikutanthauza kuti munthu sayenera kulekerera zofooka zake, kunyalanyaza khalidwe lomwelo.