Nthawi zina mumayenera kuganizira momwe mungatchulire mnyamata amene mumawakonda, chifukwa mukufuna kumutchula mwachikondi komanso mwachikondi, ndikuti adakondwera. Ndipotu, musafanane ndi ankhondo a American melodramas, omwe akulankhulana kwa wina ndi mzake monga "wokondedwa, wokondedwa", ngati kuti ena sadziwa. Ndipo sindikufuna njira zina, monga "kalulu" ndi "kat". Ndiye chochita, mungamuitane bwanji wokondedwa, kuti mnyamatayo akonde?
"Ndiyitane ine mwakachetechete ndi dzina ..."
Akatswiri a zamaganizo omwe amaphunzitsa pakulankhulana kolondola amanena kuti palibe chosangalatsa kwa munthu kusiyana ndi kumveka kwa dzina lake. Ndiye n'chifukwa chiyani wokondedwa wanu ayenera kukhala wosiyana? Pambuyo pake, mungatchule mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya chikondi m'malo mwa mnyamata, zidzakhala zokongola ndipo sizikutanthauza kuti, monga, "zokoma zokoma". Ndipo ena, makamaka anthu odzikuza sangayankhe konse ku kuyesera kwanu kufanizitsa iwo ndi oimira zinyama ndi mayina ena, iwo samadziwa zofuula zina kupatula dzina lawo. Mnyamata woteroyo pa "appeal" ya "kotya", wodalirika, kapena wodandaula kapena akufunsa kuti: "Kodi mwaiwala dzina langa?" - osati chidwi chokhumba kwambiri ndi chowonadi? Kotero ngati mwamuna wanu ali wa gulu ili, ndiye kuti mumayesetsa kukonza malingaliro anu ndikumuitanitsa okondedwa anu, monga momwe amachitira, monga, zolembera zabwino m'malo mwake.
Ndiyimbireni ine "fluff"!
Sindikudziwa kuti ndiwe mawu ati omwe mungamuyitane mwachikondi ndi mnyamata, ndikukhulupirira kuti dzina lake likhoza kumudziwa ndi aliyense, koma mukufuna wina aliyense? Ndipo ndani adanena kuti n'kosatheka kupeza kuchokera pa chinthu chomwecho chokhalira wachifundo? Muloleni iye awulule chinsinsi, ndi mayina amodzi otani omwe adzasangalala kwambiri kumva kuchokera pakamwa panu. Chinthu chachikulu ndikupeza kuti ichi si funso kuchokera kumalo, "pamphumi," koma molondola, pambuyo podikirira mkhalidwe woyenera. Ndiyeno mnyamatayo akhoza kuchita molakwika ngati mumamukakamiza ndi funso lakuti "Chabwino, ndingakuitane bwanji?" Mmalo mwa chizoloŵezi chachizolowezi ndi mawu oti "Moni!".
Chabwino, nanga bwanji ngati muli ndi kulimba mtima kuti mudziwe zomwe amakonda, kapena simunayambe nthawi yabwino? Ndiye yesetsani kutsatira mfundo yakuti "muzichitira ena zomwe mukufuna kuti akuchitireni." Yesani kuganizira zachikondi chomwe chimatchula nokha kuti mumakonda, mankhwala omwe angakhale abwino kwa inu. Watsimikizika? Chabwino, tsopano zikungosintha chabe mapeto molondola, ndikuwona zomwe zinachitika. Ngati mumakonda zotsatirazi, yesetsani zomwe mumazikonda, mukuzitcha zomwe mukuziwona. Kodi iye ankakonda izo? Ndiye palibe mavuto. Ndipo ngati mwamunayo sakufuna, pepesani ndipo mupitirize kuyesa. Pamapeto pake, payenera kukhala mawu omwe amawakwanira onse awiri, kapena, kapena wokondedwa sangapulumutse kutentha koteroko ndipo iye mwiniyo adzanena mawu omwe iye amakonda kwambiri. Chinthu chachikulu, kupita kudziko la maloto, osati kutulukira mawu omwe angaonedwe ngati achipongwe kapena onyoza - sakonda aliyense.
Ndizoletsedwa, koma, zabwino bwanji
Atsikana ena, atengedwera ndi ziwonetsero za momwe kukongola kumatchulira mnyamata, kumayiwala za iye kapena kubwera ndi mayina ena osakanizika. Taganizirani izi, kodi ndizofunikira kwambiri pankhaniyi? Ndipotu, zedi, palibe chilichonse chatsopano m'dziko lapansi, zonsezi zinakhalapo ndi wina, choncho ndibwino kuti tipewe nthawi yolemba mawu osasangalatsa, mmalo mokondwera wina ndi mzake? Ndipo mawu olondola adzabwera poyankha kumverera, mwaokha. Ndipo aloleni kuti akhale okalamba monga dziko lapansi, ngakhale mabiliyoni okonda atembenukira wina ndi mnzake, koma mawu awa adzachokera mumtima, adzakhala oona mtima, ndipo ichi ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri.