Pali lingaliro lakuti munthu woledzera amamuyitana mtsikana amene amasamala komanso sasamala za iye, ambiri omwe amaledzera pa ntchentche amazunzidwa ndi mayitanidwe "pansi pa ntchentche," akufuna kudziwa chimene chimapangitsa iwo kuti achite ndi momwe angachitire. Ngati munthu aitana woledzera, ndiye kuti zikutanthauzanji ponena za maganizo - m'nkhaniyi.
Nchifukwa chiyani munthu amaitana kokha pamene amamwa?
Ngati munthu wochenjera sakhala ndi chilakolako chotere, makamaka mkazi samamuwona ndipo samakumana naye mkhalidwe wamba, koma amangomva mawu pa "mabenchi oledzera", ndiye ichi ndi nthawi yoti muganizire. Mwinamwake, mwamuna samamuyamikira iye ndipo samamulemekeza, ngati angakhoze kudzuka ndi kuitana usiku ndikudzipangitsa yekha kumvetsera. Mowa umapangitsa munthu kumasulidwa ndi kulimba mtima, amachotsa maburashi onse ndipo nthawi zambiri tsiku lotsatira mwamuna samamva bwino komanso amadandaula za zomwe anachita. Anthu omwe akudabwa chifukwa chake munthu amamwa moledzeretsa, mukhoza kuyankha kuti zifukwa izi zingakhale zosiyana: amasungulumwa, amafuna kulankhula ndipo akuyembekeza kuti pamapeto pake chubu adzamumvera chisoni ndi kumvetsera.
Nthawi zina amafuna kupeza chinachake, koma mulimonsemo ali otsimikiza kuti adzatenga wolandirayo pamapeto pake, chifukwa amafunanso kulankhula za vutoli, kuthetsa chiyanjano kapena kuyembekezera wokondedwa kuti afotokoze mwachikondi. Inde, mowa mwauchidakwa, mwamuna ali wokonzeka kufuula kumanja kwake ndi kumanzere za maganizo ake, koma ngati amamukhulupirira, kuti asankhe yekha mkazi. Ngati izi zikhonza kukhala chimodzi mwa zifukwa zovuta, mukhoza kungodandaula, chifukwa chikondi chenicheni sichimangotchula kuti ali woledzera, komanso chimabwera mozama, komanso chimakhudza moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku chilichonse chomwe chiyenera kuchitidwa kwa wokonda - chisamaliro, chisamaliro, Amathera nthawi ndi wokondedwa wake ndikukonzekera zam'tsogolo. Ngati munthu aitana woledzera, wokhumudwa ndi kulankhula za chirichonse ndikupita ku phwando lotsatila lakumwa, ndiye kuti tikhoza kutaya moyo wake mosatha ndipo tilibe chiyembekezo chilichonse.