Mu nthawi ya chikondi, pamene mwamuna "akugonjetsa" mkazi, makhalidwe abwino okha ndi zolinga zabwino zimapezeka mu khalidwe lake. Inde, tikukamba za munthu wachikondi. Koma ngakhale munthu wotereyo akhoza kukhala mwini wake komanso wogwiritsira ntchito polingana ndi mkazi. Ndipo m'kupita kwa nthawi, khalidweli ndilokhazikika.
Zizindikiro za mtsogoleri wamwamuna
Nthawi yomweyo kuti mumvetsetse, kuti pamaso panu munthu wotsogolera - sizinali zosavuta. Ayi, amuna samadzibisa okha, samadzipangitsa. Iwo angakhale okondweretsedwa ndi mkazi ndipo amamuwonetsa iye wachikondi, wachifundo ndi wokonda kwambiri. Komabe, mkazi ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti munthu aliyense pokhala pachibwenzi nthawi zonse amakhala "mphunzitsi". Koma chomwe chiri chenicheni, momwe tingamudziwire munthu wogwiritsira ntchito - izi ziyenera kuphunzitsidwa.
Mkazi wokondwa (womvera) samazimva mawu amalingaliro kapena kunja, akutsogoleredwa ndi kumverera kwake. Izi ndi zabwino ndi zoipa. Ndi bwino kulowerera mu chidzalo cha malingaliro ndi zochitika, koma ndizolakwika kuti musaganize za zotsatira zake konse. Chifukwa chake, msungwana aliyense ayenera kuphunzira kuzindikira anthu abwino ndi oyenerera kuchokera kwa manipulators (ngakhale okonda).
Zizindikiro za kusokoneza chikumbumtima ndi malingaliro a munthu wina zimakhala zofanana m'njira zambiri.
- Kugonjetsa kudzipangitsa kudzidzimvera . Wotsogolera anthu mwanjira iliyonse (nthawi zambiri mwa njira zobisika) amayesera kusokoneza mkaziyo, kumulimbikitsa iye ndi lingaliro la kudzikonda kwake ndi kupambana kwake. Atataya maso, mkazi akugwa mosavuta pansi pa mphamvu ya wina. Amadzikayikira kale, zomwe akufuna, kumene amalingalira, kumene anthu sakudziwa. Mkaziyo amayamba kukayikira, amakhala wosatetezeka, koma samvetsa zomwe zikuchitika kwa nthawi yaitali. Ndikofunika kuti munthu apereke zofuna zake molimba mtima, pamene akukhala mwanawankhosa womvera, ataya chifuniro chake. Mkazi woteroyo ndi ovuta kusamalira, kulamulira, kulimbikitsa mantha , kuchita mphamvu pa iye.
- Chisokonezo chobisika . Wogwiritsira ntchito munthu nthawi zonse sizimasuka. Kawirikawiri mkazi sangamvetse yemwe ali pafupi naye, chifukwa mwamunayo pafunso lirilonse "pamphumi" amayankha mobwerezabwereza komanso mosadziwika. Komanso, mofulumira mwamuna ndi mkazi amasintha malo, ndipo kale munthu akufunsa mafunso (pogwiritsa ntchito njira "chitetezo chabwino - kuukira"), ndipo mkaziyo amayamba kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa, samvetsa chifukwa chake. Kugonana koteroko kumakhala ndi malingaliro oipa. Ndipo amayi ambiri amatha kukhala nawo nthawi yaitali.
- Kusinthasintha kwamasinthasintha komanso kusintha kwa maganizo . Chizindikiro china cha manipulator - machitidwe omwe mkazi amamva kuti amamukonda kwambiri, ndiye amamva udani wamwamuna. Nthawi yake yonse, mphamvu zonse zimamvetsetsa izi - zimamumvera bwanji. Koma amuna amatha kusewera masewerawa kwa nthawi yaitali ngati awona zotsatira. Mwamuna adzalumbira kuti alonjeza chikondi chake ndi kukhulupirika kwake panthawi imodzimodziyo. Momwemo, mkazi, wosokonezeka, nthawi zonse sadzakhala wovuta kumalo ake.
Mayiyo akuyamba kuthamanga mu ubale umenewu - amawakumbukira ena, abwino ndi omvetsera, maloto kuti awathetse, kapena asankha kuyembekezera kuti zonse zisinthe "monga kale." Mkaziyo, motere, sadziwa kuti akudziponyera kuphompho. Ngati wogwira ntchitoyo akuphatikiza mgwirizano kuyambira pachiyambi, ndiye kuti moyo wa mkazi udzakhala wosasimbika. Ndipo musakhale mu zisonyezo. Koma kuti mutenge mayesero, kuti muteteze nokha, kuyembekezera zomwe mukufunikira. Pazimenezi muyenera kuphunzira kuzindikira mtsogoleri wamwamuna mu chiyanjano ndi zizindikiro zake, pendani zochitika zomwe zingatheke.
Momwe mungatsogolere munthu wogwira ntchito?
Monga ndi chiwawa chilichonse chodziwika bwino kapena chobisika:
- Musalole "kulowa" mu malo anu;
- musataye kudziletsa ndipo mutero;
- osadziimba mlandu;
- Musamange mapulani ena ndi munthu uyu.