Chiwawa ndi kugwiritsidwa ntchito

Nthaŵi zonse m'mabungwe onse a anthu panali chiwawa chogonana ndi mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kuumiriza ndi kuzunza. Ndipo chidziwitso chenichenicho chimaposa chiwerengerochi, chifukwa ambiri omwe amazunzidwa samakonda kugwiritsa ntchito mabungwe alamulo, chifukwa sakhulupirira chilungamo ndipo amaopa kuwononga mbiri yawo.

Zifukwa za Chiwawa

Kusiyanitsa kwakukulu kwa ntchito za kugonana pakati pa anthu ndizo zimayambitsa chiwawa cha kugonana. Kuchokera ku mbiri yakale ndi mtundu wa anthu amadziwika kuti chiwawa cha kugonana chimapezeka pakati pa anthu omwe ali ndi maudindo osiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi. Amuna akazoloŵera kulamulira ndi kuthetsa mavuto awo, kudalira mphamvu, ndiye chiwawa, kuphatikizapo kugonana, akukumana nawo. M'madera amasiku ano, izi zowonongeka zafooka kwambiri, koma ozunzidwa ndi chiwawa cha kugonana akuwonekera mobwerezabwereza. Chifukwa chiyani?

Zonsezi ndi zotsutsana ndi chikhalidwe chawo. Mwamuna ndi mkazi akamakula kwambiri, amayamba kuchepa. Psycholoji ya chiwawa cha kugonana ndi yotero kuti mavuto alionse pakati pa anthu amachititsa nkhanza. Kutseguka kwa kunja ndi kupezeka kwa chiwerewere mu kuya kwa chidziwitso kumakhala chinthu chodetsedwa ndi choletsedwa.

Zizindikiro za kugwiriridwa

Pakati pa anthu, kugwiriridwa, kutanthauza kugonana, kunachitika pangozi kapena kugwiritsidwa ntchito kwa mphamvu ya thupi ndi mwambo wa chiwawa cha kugonana. Koma chodabwitsa ichi ndi chovuta komanso chophatikizapo, chifukwa kuzunzidwa ndi kukanikizidwa kumagonjetsedwa pansi pa nkhani ya malamulo a chigawenga, chinthu china ndi chakuti ndi zovuta kutsimikizira. Azimayi nthawi zambiri amazunzidwa kuntchito, pamsewu komanso kusukulu, koma samazoloŵera kudandaula, chifukwa n'kosatheka kutsimikizira kuti vutoli ndi loipa.

Kusiyana pakati pa kuumiriza kugonana ndi ubwenzi wapamtima ndizosavuta, chifukwa abambo ndi amai nthawi zambiri amatanthauzira mosiyana mofanana. Oyamba amaganiza kuti mtsikanayo "akuswa" ndipo akudzipiritsa ndi mtengo wake, pamene womalizirayo akuwona kuti kukanidwa ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri pakuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi , masewera achiwawa. Chiwawa chogonana m'banja ndipo sichilango, chifukwa anthu saloledwa kuti agone ndi okwatirana awo ndi chirichonse chomwe chatsalira kumbuyo kwa zitseko zatsekedwa chimaonedwa ngati bizinesi yawo.

Mitundu ya nkhanza za kugonana

Chiwerewere chilichonse chokakamizidwa kuti mupeze chisangalalo cha kugonana ndi zina zabwino ndi chiwawa chogonana. Mitundu yotsatira ikusiyana:

1. Ndemanga ndizokhumudwitsa, maonekedwe, maonekedwe, manja.
2. Zosakaniza. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa zachipatala, chiwawa cha pachiwerewere cha kugonana si chachilendo. Mkazi aliyense wachisanu, yemwe anakulira ndi abambo ake opeza, anagonjetsedwa. Kukhala ndi amayi apabanja 17%, opanda abambo - 11%.
3. Kunyenga mwa kugonana. Zimaphatikizapo chiwonetsero cha mawere, maonekedwe.
4. Kukhudza kosakondedwa ndi ziwalo za thupi.
5. Kusunga.
6. Kulimbikitsana, chinyengo, kunyalanyaza, njira zina zoyesayesa kuti ukhale pachibwenzi.
7. Anakakamizidwa kuchita uhule.
8. Kusonyeza zolaula.
9. Kubwezera ngati chiopsezo chokwanira.

Chiwawa chogonana ndi mkazi

Nthawi zambiri, chinthu chomwecho ndizo akazi. Lingaliro lenileni la chiwawa cha kugonana likugwiritsidwa ntchito ku gawo ili la anthu. Malinga ndi zofukufuku, mmodzi mwa ana atatu adakhumudwitsidwa ndi kholo, gawo limodzi mwa magawo atatu aliwonse analikuzunzidwa ndi atsogoleri, ndipo 29% ankayenera kukwaniritsa zofuna zawo zaumunthu. Pa nthawi imodzimodziyo, 28% adagwiriridwa ndi anthu osapitilira, ndipo mmodzi mwa asanu ali ndi zodandaula kwa anzake ogwira nawo ntchito, ndipo 7% adakakamizika kuyanjana ndi anzawo.

Chiwawa cha akazi chimagwirizanitsidwa ndi nthano zambiri ndi zikhulupiliro. Kuwonjezera pa kuti zomwe zimachitika patsiku, pamene mkazi sakanatha kuyankhulana momveka bwino, ndipo amamvetsetsa bwino, nthawi zambiri amatchulidwa kuti kugonana kofooka kumapangitsa amuna kuvala zovala zakuda, kuyenda m'misewu yamdima yokha komanso osayesa mlingo mowa. Koma chiwawa chogonana chimakhudzidwa kwambiri ndipo sikutheka kunena kuti wina wanyengerera wina ndikuchita molakwika.

Chiwawa chogonana ndi amuna

Izi sizichitika kawirikawiri, koma zimachitika, ndipo zimakhala zofunikira makamaka ku ndende, m'misasa ndi m'madera ena otsekedwa, kumene kugwirizana kwa mphamvu, ulamuliro ndi kugonjera zimakhazikitsidwa. Nkhanza za kugonana kwa mwamuna sizongokwaniritsa zokhumba zake osati chifukwa palibe akazi, koma kukhazikitsa ndi kusunga mphamvu. Pachifukwa ichi, wozunzidwayo "amatsikira", amatsika pansi pa ulamuliro, ndipo kutchuka kwa wakuba kumakula.

Kugonana kwa ana

Mlanduwu ukuonedwa kuti ndiwopweteka kwambiri chifukwa cha mphamvu ya maganizo. Kugwiriridwa kwa ana kumabweretsa chitukuko, mantha, mantha. Mwanayo amatseka yekha, amasiya kukhulupirira anthu ndipo m'tsogolomu akhoza kudzipha. Nthawi zambiri anthu omwe amachitiridwa nkhanza amakula ngati omwe akuwombera, omwe amabwezera kubwezeretsa anawo. Kuzizira ndi kuchitirana nkhanza kwa amayi kumapangitsa kuti apandukire akazi ambiri, ndipo amayamba kuzindikira kuti iwo ndi amphamvu komanso amphamvu.

Kuteteza ana ku chiwawa cha kugonana kumapereka:

1. Kulamulira mwanayo . Muyenera kukhala okhudzana ndi iye nthaŵi zonse, mudziwe kumene ali panthawi ino.
2. Kusunga malingaliro a makolo . Mwanayo ayenera kudziwa kuti akuyandikira anthu ena, kutenga chinachake kuchokera kwa iwo, kuwasiya iwo saloledwa.
3. Kukambirana ndi mwana pa nkhani ya chiwawa . Ayenera kudziwa kuti pali zolinga zabwino, koma ndizoipa komanso "zachibwenzi".
4. Kukonda ana . Muyenera kumvetsera ndikumva mwana wanu, kulankhula naye, kuphunzira nkhani, kumuthandiza.

Bwanji kuti musayambe kuzunzidwa ndi kugonana?

Ndi nthano kuti akazi okongola ndi osungunuka okha ndi omwe amachititsidwa manyazi. Aliyense akhoza kugwa mu chigololo, mosasamala kanthu maonekedwe ndi msinkhu. Chiwawa ndi kutetezedwa kwa iwo zimatanthauza kufotokoza momveka bwino, kosagwirizana ndi panthaŵi yake ya chifuniro cha munthu pamsonkhano ndi zina zotero. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, sizomwe zimadziwika kuti ndidziwe njira yodzitetezera ndikukhala ndi gasi yamtundu wanu mu thumba lanu. Osapuma pantchito ndi amuna osadziwika, ndipo ngakhale kupita ku phwando ndi abwenzi, auzeni achibale za kumene mukupita ndi amene mukupita.

Mabuku okhudza kugwiriridwa

Pakati pa ntchito zotchuka zokhudzana ndi mutu uwu ndi:

1. "Achinyamata Ochedwa" ndi Kenzaburo Oe . Bukuli limadzutsa mutu wa maganizo osaganizira za amuna ogwiriridwa, kuchepa kwa kudzidalira, kudzidalira komanso kupatukana kwa ena.
2. "Kunong'oneza bondo" Somalia Mam . Chogulitsacho chikukweza vuto la chiwawa cha kugonana. Mwini wamkulu pambuyo pa zomwe zinamuchitikira anali pafupi kudzipha, koma anaganiza kuti azikhala ndi moyo kubwezera kwa olakwira ndikuthandiza atsikana ndi atsikana ena kugulitsidwa ku ukapolo.

Mafilimu okhudza kugwiriridwa

Mafilimu ndi chiwawa chogonana akuwonetsa tsogolo la anthu omwe akuvutika, zowawa ndi zopweteka, pochititsidwa manyazi. Zithunzi izi zikuphatikizapo:

1. "Ukapolo" wotsogoleredwa ndi Marco Kreuzpaintner . Munthu wamkulu wa filimuyo, pamodzi ndi mnzake wodwalayo, akuyesera kukana gulu lonse la anthu ochita zigawenga, zomwe anawo aakazi awo adagonjetsedwa.
2. "Sabina Rivas zaka zoyambirira ndi zochepa . " Wachifumu wamkulu amagwira ntchito mu nyumba yachibwana, koma maloto oti akhale woimba. Msungwanayo amayesetsa kuthana ndi mavuto onse omwe amadza mu njira yake ndikuzindikira maloto ake.