Chikondi ndi chilakolako ndizo malingaliro ndi umunthu womveka bwino. Choncho, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kumvetsetsa zomwe tikukumana nazo nthawi imodzi. Chikoka choyambirira chikhoza kukhala chizoloŵezi chovomerezeka chifukwa cha kukhudzika kwakukulu. Nthawi zina zimatha kukhala chikondi , koma n'zotheka kuti izi zikhoza kukhumudwitsa china. Aliyense amadziwa kuti maonekedwe ndi ofunikira kwambiri, kotero mutha kugwa mofulumira kwambiri, koma kodi izi zingakhale zomverera kwenikweni? Ndipotu simunamudziwe munthu weniweniyo.
Mu chofunikira kwambiri cha chilakolako
Chikhumbo chimaphatikizapo chisangalalo, chimwemwe, nkhawa, chiyembekezero. Zitha kukhala ndi zowonjezera zambiri, koma zambiri zimakhala zabwino. Choncho, maganizo amenewa nthawi zambiri amasokonezeka ndi chikondi. Pakati pa chilakolako chokhumba, munthu amakhudzidwa ndi uzimu, amafuna nthawi zonse kuchita chinachake (mwachitsanzo, kuthamanga m'mawa, kupita kusambira, kuvina, etc.) Pa nthawi yomweyi maganizo okhudzidwa musachoke kwachiwiri. Ndikufuna kukhala pafupi ndi munthu uyu, kumkhudza, kukhala gawo la moyo wake. Koma nkofunika kuzindikira kuti chilakolako chimenechi chikhoza kufika pamtunda.
Monga akatswiri a zamaganizo amavomereza, chilakolako ndikumangirira, ndipo china chirichonse ndi mithunzi yake. Thupi limatuluka mu mpumulo, anthu amalephera kulamulira khalidwe lawo lomwe nthawi zambiri limabweretsa mavuto. Koma posachedwa izi zidzatha kapena kusiya, chifukwa zili ndi malire.
Dziko lapansi likulamulidwa ndi chikondi
Chikondi chimaphatikizidwa ndi zizindikiro zina. Monga lamulo, pali chibwenzi cholimba pakati pa okonda. Mukamasangalala ndi kuyankhulana, khalani ndi nthawi limodzi, kumbukirani mwachimwemwe nthawi zosangalatsa izi - pazifukwa zotere munthu angathe kukonda ndi mtima wake wonse. Mukhoza kulingalira mosavuta tsogolo loyanjana ndi mnzanuyo, yambani kukula chifukwa cha munthu uyu, mukufuna kumupatsa chimwemwe pobwerera. Mumamukhulupirira kwambiri kuti simukuwopa kusonyeza zolakwa zanu, zofooka, pamaso pake.
Choncho, malinga ndi Dr. Fischer, chilakolako sichitha mpaka kalekale, mwinamwake anthu ambiri amafa chifukwa cha kutopa, sangathe kugwira ntchito kapena kupita kuchipatala cha maganizo. Ndi bwino kukhalabe ndi chibwenzi ndikuwonetsa zachilendo mwa iwo. Pankhani iyi, chikondi ndi chilakolako cholamulidwa zimatha kufanana.
Mtsinje "wowawa"
Ngati mukumva kuti muli mumsampha wamoto, muyenera kudziwa zotsatirazi:
- Aliyense amadziwa kuti ngati mukumvetsa momwe chozizwitsa chikuchitikira, icho chimatha kukhalapo. Mahomoni a serotonin ndi dopamine amachititsa chidwi, mphamvu ndi chisangalalo . Ndipo, ngati mumamverera chisoni, malingaliro angakhoze kuwonjezeka. Adrenaline ndi norepinephrine zimabweretsa nkhaŵa, kunjenjemera ndi kugunda mwamsanga. Kuonjezera apo, ndi chikhumbo cholimba, enkephalin ndi endorphin zimayamba kupangidwa, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti zikhale zovuta. Choncho, ngati mumvetsetsa kuti chilakolakocho chiyamba kumangotenga, musamachiritsire. Poyamba, izi ndi zovuta, koma mutatsatira zotsatirazi, zonse zidzakhala zophweka kusiyana ndi momwe mungaganizire.
- Ngati mukufuna kukwaniritsa chikondi chanu chenicheni, musachedwe mwamsanga mu dziwe ndi mutu wanu pa wokondedwa wanu wokongola.
Zinapezeka kuti maubwenzi amphamvu ndi enieni amabadwa popanda abwenzi. Dziweruzireni nokha: nthawi zambiri mumalankhula ndi kumangopatula nthawi, kuphunzira munthu, makhalidwe ake, makhalidwe ake, momwe amachitira ndi anthu ena ndi zina zambiri. Choncho, ngati simukufuna kulakwitsa, perekani kanthawi kwa nonse awiri. Chisoni chikhoza kudutsa mofulumira kwambiri ndipo chiwonongeko chochepa chidzayamba, kapena chikhoza kukula. Mu manja a luso lachilakolako, ngati zonunkhira, kuchokera kuzinthu zowonongeka, zingakhale zenizeni zophimba. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuti musamachite zinthu mopitirira malire. Sungani ubale wanu mogwirizana. Ndipo kaya apitilira kapena sakadalira awiri wokondedwa.