Nthawi zambiri timapereka malemba kwa anthu, kunena kuti "ndinu osowa mtendere, simungapeze chilichonse" kapena "muli ndi chiyembekezo chachikulu, mukuwona dziko lonse lapansi m'magalasi a pinki". Ndipo kodi kutanthauzanji kwenikweni kukhala wosakayika komanso amene ali ndi chiyembekezo chotani?
Wodalirika komanso wosayenerera
Wokhulupirira ndi wokhumudwa ndi mawu omwe anthu amawauza kuti adziwe munthu wina. Koma nthawi zambiri sitimasokoneza malingaliro, osati nthawi zonse kumvetsa tanthauzo la izi kapena liwu. Mwachitsanzo, anthu ambiri amakhulupirira kuti munthu amene ali ndi vuto lalikulu ndiye kuti ali ndi nzeru zambiri. Kodi izi ndi zoona, kapena kodi pali kusiyana pakati pa munthu wokonda kuganiza bwino komanso wosaganizira zinthu zokha osati kungokhala ndi chidziwitso?
Kuti mumvetse zomwe munthu wosayenerera amasiyana ndi munthu wokhala ndi chiyembekezo, nkofunika kupereka tanthawuzo pazinthu zonse ziwiri. Tiyeni tiyambe kuganizira za zomwe mawu osokoneza amatanthauza. Malinga ndi dikalatolo ya Dal, lingaliro limeneli limatanthauza munthu amene amaona chirichonse muzoipa, kuyembekezera kuchokera ku moyo zokha ndi zovuta. Munthu yemwe sazindikira chisangalalo cha moyo, mungangodandaula basi, ndizovuta kwambiri kukhala ndi moyo.
Wopatsa chiyembekezo ndi munthu yemwe angathe kuona zinthu zabwino pamoyo uliwonse. Koma musaganize kuti opindula saliwona dzikoli moonekera - onse amawona, ndipo aliyense akuzindikira, amangochichitira mosiyana ndi momwe amayembekezera. Ndinagwidwa ndi galimoto, ndinathyola mwendo wanga, ndinalowa kuchipatala, koma ndinakhala ndi matenda othawa, mwayi wotsitsimula ndikuwona banja langa ndi ana ambiri. Pachifukwa ichi, "sungunulani chinyontho" ndikudandaula za moyo, ndithudi, mosavuta, osayimirira akanachita chomwecho. Koma kuti munthu akhale ndi chiyembekezo chabwino (anthu ena, makamaka ake) - ngati mpeni wakuthwa. Choncho, muzovuta zonse za moyo, adzapeza njira yopezera ndalama kapena kulemekeza ena kapena kutonthozedwa ndi kupeza zinthu zatsopano.
Kotero, kusiyana kotani pakati pa munthu wofooka ndi woyembekezera? Kusiyana kungapezeke misala, koma chinthu chachikulu chidzakhala ndi malo ofunika kwambiri (amphamvu) ofunikira kwambiri.
Bwanji ngati ndiri wovuta?
Sikofunika kuyamba kung'ung'udza za moyo mwanjira yomwe mumakonda ndikuzinena kuti palibe chomwe chidzachitike tsopano. Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, vuto lamantha lingathe kukhala ndi chiyembekezo. Koma choyamba, ganizirani ngati izi n'zofunikira kwambiri kwa inu. Zochita zowombola ziyenera kutengedwa ngati kudandaula kwanu kwafika pachimake, mumakhala mukuvutika maganizo, mukudandaula, palibe chomwe chimakusangalatsani. Koma chiwerengero chochepa cha thanzi labwino chimapangitsa munthuyo kukhala wabwino. Optimists sangapereke zochitika zoipitsitsa, koma pessimists adzachita izo. Kotero, ngati inu mukuyembekeza zabwino, koma mwakonzekera choipitsitsa, ndiye chiwerengero ichi cha kukhumudwa sikuyenera kukonzedwa.
Kodi mungatani kuti musayambe kukhala okhumudwa?
Ngati msinkhu wanu wamantha uli pavuto lalikulu, ndiye kuti ndibwino kuti mutenge masitepe kuti musinthe. Choncho, mungatani kuti mukhale osakayikira?
- Lekani kukonzekera zochitika zovuta kwambiri. Ngati mukuganiza kuti "palibe chabwino chingandichitikire" komanso "Sindinapite kanthu," ndi choncho. Kusiya kuganiza mochuluka, kuposa momwe iwe uliri woipitsitsa kuposa wogwira mtima wokondwa kwambiri?
- Lekani kudzidzudzula pazinthu zonse, kuiwala za chizoloŵezi chodzikonda. Inde, mwinamwake mwalakwitsa, koma inu mukhoza kulikonza nthawi zonse. Kulephera kumachitika kwa aliyense, koma akuyenera kukumana ndi kumwetulira ndipo nthawi yomweyo amayang'ana njira zothetsera vuto, osati kuponyera kuphompho kwa kudzipangira yekha ndi kudandaula za zofooka zawo.
- Yesani kuzungulirana ndi chiyembekezo.
Ngati mutayankhula ndi umunthu womwewo, simungakhale ndi funso labwino. - Phunzirani kudzitamandira, zindikirani zabwino zanu, ntchito yanu ndi ntchito zanu. Onetsetsani mozama mkhalidwe uliwonse, onani zomwe mwachita bwino, ndi zomwe ziyenera kuchitidwa kuti zikhale bwinoko.
- Pezani nokha zokhutira nokha ndipo musaiwale kuzipereka nokha. Zosangalatsa, kumvetsera nyimbo zabwino, kusinkhasinkha, chakudya chokoma, zovala zabwino, ma buku atsopano kapena kutentha komwe mumapatsa munthu wokondedwa. Phunzirani kusangalala ndi moyo.