Ndani ali wamwano?

Masiku ano, anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito mawu ndi ziganizo zosiyanasiyana, zomwe anthu ambiri amazindikira molakwika kapena sadziwika kwathunthu. Pachifukwa ichi, timapereka chidziwitso kuti timvetse yemwe ali wamwano ndi momwe munthu amachitira.

Anthu ambiri, akukumana ndi moyo ndi zolepheretsa zosiyana, amadzimangira okha zolepheretsa zomwe zingachitidwe komanso kudandaula. Lero, munthu wamwano ndi munthu amene amasiya makhalidwe abwino ndi makhalidwe ake, ndipo samakhulupirira kuti chilungamo cha anthu chimakhala cholungama. Chifukwa cha kupanduka kumeneku kungakhale, malo ake enieni, ndi kukhumudwa m'magulu a anthu. Amadziwika ndi kudzipatula, kusakhutira ndi kukhumudwa.

Kodi wamwano amatanthauzanji?

Amatsenga amaonedwa ngati osatsutsika, chifukwa amadziwa zochitika ngati alibe popanda kuwapatsa mtundu wabwino kapena woipa.

Mfundo zazikulu:

1. Chifukwa chokhumudwa pamoyo wawo, amadziwika kuti ndi okhwima komanso osamala.
2. Kwa anthu amatsenga zonse kuzungulira ndi zinthu zakuthupi, ndipo zinthu zosasinthika, monga mukudziwa, siziripo, ndipo izi zimagwira ntchito kwa anthu.
3. Kuti mumvetse zomwe zida zankhanza, ndiyeneranso kuzindikira kuti anthu oterewa ali ndi maonekedwe abwino a dziko lapansi ndipo dongosolo lawo labwino ndi losiyana ndi kachitidwe ka chikhalidwe.
4. Anthu achinyengo amatsimikiza kuti chirichonse padziko lapansi chili ndi mtengo wake, ndipo makhalidwe abwino ndi auzimu amapangidwa ndi anthu kuti apange moyo wabwino.
5. Sagwiritsanso ntchito mawu awo ndipo saopa kuoneka ngati kolakwika, choncho nthawi zambiri amakhumudwitsa anthu, omwe pamapeto pake amachititsa kusungulumwa .
6. Makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe a munthu wamatsenga angakhalenso chifukwa cha chikhumbo chake chofuna kukwaniritsa zomwe akufuna, ngakhale njira zonyansa.
7. Anthu oterewa ndi amwano komanso amwano.

Makhalidwe abwino

Kumvetsetsa yemwe munthu wamwano, sangathe koma kuzindikira kukhalapo kwa makhalidwe abwino. Choyamba, tiyenera kuzindikira bata lake, ndiko kuti, sangakhumudwitse chifukwa cha zolephera, koma samva chisangalalo cha zochitika zabwino. Kwa zinthu zabwino zomwe zili zothandiza m'masiku ano, munthu anganene kuti kuŵerengeka kumazizira, ndiko, kuntchito ndi zinthu zina zomwe sizikusokonezeka ndi zochitika zomwe zimasokoneza lingaliro lofunikira.

Momwe mungakhalire wamwano?

Anthu ambiri omwe adakhumudwitsidwa zambiri, mwa anthu komanso m'moyo wawo wonse, akuyesera kudziteteza okha, choncho iwo akuyesetsa kukhala otsutsa. Pali mfundo zingapo zomwe zili zosiyana ndi anthu otere:

1. Khalani nokha ndikusiya kusinthasintha kumoyo. Amatsenga amachita zonse zomwe akufuna, popanda kuganizira zomwe anthu ena amaganiza. Kwa iwo, ndine ndine yemwe ali wamkulu.
2. Pitani ku cholinga chanu ziribe kanthu. Amatsenga, mopanda kukayikira, akuyendetsa pamitu ya anthu ena, ochenjera, olowa mmalo mwa ena, ambiri, kugwiritsa ntchito njira zonse zotheka kupeza zomwe akufuna. Kuwerengera kozizira ndi dongosolo lokonzedwa bwino kwa iwo lomwe liri lofunika.
3. Kumbukirani kuti amatsenga amatsutsa, ndiko kuti, iwo ali achilendo kwa iwo, kotero muiwale za chisangalalo, chisoni, chifundo, ndi zina zotero. Zochitika zonse ziyenera kuwonedwa ngati zenizeni.
4. Musaope kulankhula maganizo anu mwaokha, ndipo musankhe mawu kuti wina asakhumudwitse. Anthu achinyengo, podziwa zofooka za munthu, adzakakamiza kuti apindule.
5. Chitani "kuyeretsa" pakati pa anthu oyandikana nawo, ngakhale anthu ambiri omwe amadziwana nawo amachoka pa moyo wanu pamene mutayamba kugwiritsa ntchito malamulo a moyo wa amatsenga. Kuwonjezera apo, wochuluka kwambiri ndi wosungulumwa amene angathe kukhulupirira kwathunthu yekha.
6. Musati mudzikane nokha chirichonse, chifukwa chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndicho kusangalala, osati malingana ndi zofuna za anthu ena.