Munthu aliyense m'moyo wake anali ndi mantha ndipo amadziwa bwino momwe kumverera kotopetsa kumakulepheretsani kulingalira mwachidziwikire panthawi ya ngozi ndikupanga zisankho zoyenera zomwe ziri zovuta muvuto, mofulumira komanso panthawi yomweyo. Mwachidziwikire, mantha amalinganizidwa kuti atiteteze ku zoopseza zosiyanasiyana, koma nthawi zina zimakhala zofunika kuti tigonjetse, choncho ife tonse tifunika kukhala ndi njira zina zamaganizo ndi nzeru zina kuti tidziwe momwe tingadzipangire mantha, omwe amatchedwa "nthawi yamtendere" .
Kuthana ndi Chinjokacho
Pali njira zambiri zothandizira kuthana ndi "chinjoka" ichi, kuchokera ku kusinkhasinkha ndi kupuma kwa mpweya, ku njira zowonongeka kwambiri zomwe zimamukakamiza kuti mwadala mwadzidzidzi aloĊµe kumalo omwe ali pafupi pafupi ndi kuthekera kweniyeni. Izi zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pophunzitsa anticemen ndi ogwira ntchito zalamulo.
Koma, ndithudi, palinso chomwe chimatchedwa njira yowonjezera, yomwe imalola kumvetsetsa momwe tingaphere mantha, mwachindunji panthawi ya ngozi. Choyamba, muyenera kuchotsa malingaliro. N'zachidziwikire kuti kuti muchite izi mukamawotcha khungu lanu ndipo mtima wanu ukugwedezeka ngati kuti muthamanga marathon ndi zovuta kwambiri. Chinthu choyamba kuchita ndikutembenuza chidwi chanu. Yesetsani kuganizira mozama zazing'ono, mwachitsanzo pa chingwe pamakoma kapena pa malaya anu. Masekondi angapo amaganiza za mawonekedwe ndi mtundu wa "chinthu" chomwe mwasankha. Taganizirani izi mwatsatanetsatane. Mudzadabwa, koma kawirikawiri zimagwira ntchito, kotero mukabwerera ku "zowawa" mu mphindi zingapo, mudzapeza kuti mutha kuyesa mozama mkhalidwewo.
Njira inanso yolepheretsa mantha ndikumveka. Tangoganizani kuti mukuyang'ana chirichonse kuchokera kumwamba kapena kuchokera kunja, komanso kuti munthu wakufa tsopano ali ndi mantha, koma munthu wina amakhala mthupi mwathu kwa kanthawi. Inu, pokhala otetezeka kwathunthu mu mawonekedwe opangidwa ndi thupi, mukhoza kuyang'ana zomwe zikuchitika ndi mtendere wa Buddha ndikuwona njira yothetsera vutoli. Mukangomvetsetsa zomwe zikuyenera kuchitika, "bwererani ku thupi" ndipo mutenge mipando ya boma m'manja mwanu. Kuchotsa mantha sikovuta kwambiri, mumangoyang'ana m'maso mwake. Pambuyo pake, malingaliro amakhala ozizira, kutentha kumakhala kozolowereka, ndipo malingaliro amveka bwino.
Kulimbana ndi nkhondo?
Koma bwanji ngati mantha akukuvutitsani ngakhale pamene palibe vuto? Mmene mungachotsere mantha oopsya m'maganizo olemba zolemba zonse. Pazigawo zoyamba, ngati phobia siinayambe kukhala yodetsa nkhawa, ndizotheka kuthana ndi vutoli palokha. Yesani kusokoneza mantha anu a "screws ndi screws." Ndipo ziribe kanthu kaya ndizoopa mantha a madzi, kapena za momwe anthu amantha angayendere pozungulira inu pa ngodya iliyonse. Yankhani funso: Kodi mukuopa chiyani kwenikweni? Kodi chenichenicho ndi chotani? Kodi mungatsutsane ndi chiyani? Ngati munapatsidwa chisankho chodziletsa, mungasankhe chiyani? Ndipo chifukwa cha kuukira? Kodi ndi malo otani a thupi lomwe ndibwino kuligwiritsa ntchito? Pendekani pamutu mutu zingapo za "nkhondo." Mukuona, mukuganiza kale za ndondomeko yowononga, ndipo mwakhala mutatembenukira ku nkhope ya "mdani" ndipo mantha akuwongolera pang'onopang'ono, kupereka njira zowonongeka. Posakhalitsa mudzawona kuti choopsacho ndi nthano komanso ngakhale chikukula mwakuya, mudzakonzekera kuti mutha kuchita nawo "ziwonongeko" zonse popanda kuswa khungu.
Ngati simungathe kuthetsa vutoli nokha, funsani katswiri wodziwa bwino ndipo adzakusankhirani njira imodzi yomwe ingakuthandizeni kumvetsa momwe mungachotsere mantha amkati. Zotsatira zabwino zimabweretsedwa ndi hypnotherapy, ndipo nthawi zina zimagwira ntchito
Psychology ya momwe angachotse mantha ili ndi zambiri. Ndipo izo zingathe kuthandizira kwenikweni, koma kokha ngati mukufuna izo ndikupanga sitepe yoyamba. Komanso, monga akunena, nkhani ya teknoloji ndipo pakapita kanthawi mantha anu ayamba kukuopani.