Ndikofunika kuti mzimayi aliyense adziwe momwe angadzikondere yekha, chifukwa mtsikana yemwe samadzikonda yekha komanso sangadzikweza yekha sangafune kupeza mnzanu amene amamulemekeza, kumanga ntchito komanso kumanga ubale wolimba ndi ana ake.
Kodi kumatanthauza kudzikonda nokha kwa mkazi?
Akatswiri a zamaganizo nthawi zambiri amatiuza kuti chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kukhala moyo mogwirizana ndi inu nokha, mwinamwake munthu adzatsogoleredwa ndi maganizo a wina, kumanga moyo wake, komanso sangakhale wosangalala. Psychology ikupereka yankho ku funso la momwe mungagwirizane ndi mkazi, akatswiri amanena kuti nkofunikira kuchita izi:
- Pangani mndandanda wa zofunikira zanu ndipo nthawi zonse muzisunga. Kotero msungwanayo akhoza kuika maganizo pa zofunikira zake, m'malo molephera, zoganiza kapena zenizeni.
- Podzipangira nokha mphatso zazing'ono, osati za mtengo wapatali, chofunika kwambiri cha ntchitoyi nthawi zonse kukumbukira kuti mumayenera kulandira mphotho zokha zomwe muli, osati zopindulitsa zina.
- Yesetsani kuganiziranso zomwe zochitika pamoyo wanu zimakupangitsani kuyamba kumverera manyazi. Chinthuchi ndizovuta kuti muzichita nokha, choncho ngati zingatheke, funsani katswiri. Chabwino, mukakhala kuti simungapeze katswiri wabwino wa maganizo kapena kupita ku phunziro la maphunziro, mukhoza kukambirana izi ndi wokondedwa, mwachitsanzo, mnzanu. Zoonadi, izi sizili zofanana ndi kupeza aphunzitsi, koma ndizotheka kukwaniritsa.
- Onetsetsani kuti muwerenge mabuku a amayi momwe mungadzikondere nokha, ndemanga zabwino adapatsidwa ntchito zotsatirazi - E. Mikhailov "Ndili ndekha", M. Litvak "Ngati mukufuna kukhala osangalala," S. Mamontov
"Kufuna kukhala wodzikonda," G. Moore "Dzikondere wekha."
Funso lina lomwe limadetsa nkhaŵa amuna ambiri ndi momwe angapangire mkazi kudzikonda okha. Kawirikawiri nkhaniyi ndi yakuti akatswiri a maganizo amatembenukira kwa anyamata omwe safuna kupirira mchitidwe wa nsanje wa chibwenzi chawo, omwe samamukhulupirira nthawi zonse chifukwa chodzikayikira. Ngati mtsikanayo safuna kusintha mkhalidwewo, pali chinthu chimodzi chokha, kumangomulangiza nthawi zonse, kuyesera kuchita zinthu zosangalatsa komanso kumutsimikizira tsiku ndi tsiku kuti ali wokongola momwe alili. Zowonjezera, mwatsoka, mwamuna popanda thandizo la mtsikanayo sangakwanitse, koma ngakhale zosavuta zomwe zingathandize kuti zinthu zikhale bwino.