Mosakayika, munthu aliyense amalota kuti ndi woyamba kugonana naye womasankhidwa, koma sikuti mkazi aliyense adzasangalala kudziwa kuti chibwenzi chake ndi namwali . N'chifukwa chiyani kupanda chilungamo kumeneko? Chowonadi ndi chakuti kwa theka lofooka la anthu zomwe zinachitikira mnzanu ndizofunikira, chifukwa ngati msungwana ndi mnyamata sadziwa zambiri, zidzakhala zovuta kuti aphunzire kusangalatsa wina ndi mzake. Msungwana wokondwa kukukhulupirirani mnyamata wodziwa zambiri yemwe sangamulandire mwachangu masewera achikondi.
Kotero momwe mungapezere namwali wamwamuna? Kuti muyankhe molondola funsoli, ndi bwino kumvetsera mfundo zingapo zomwe zimachitika panthawi yolankhulana ndi okondedwa komanso, nthawi yomweyo, musanagonane.
Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti mnyamata ali namwali?
- Kudzichepetsa ndi kuuma mtima. Kodi namwali amachita chiyani? Inde, modzichepetsa, ziribe kanthu momwe akuyesera kubisala, chilakolako cholimba chimapambana pa iye, ndipo ngati muyang'ana mwatcheru mudzawona kuuma kwa kuyenda kwake, kunjenjemera ndi mantha.
- Kuuma kwachilendo kwachilendo. Namwaliyo akuwopa kwambiri kusonyeza kuti ali amodzi, kotero adzapewa kulankhula za "izi" m'njira zonse. Ziribe kanthu momwe izo zingamvekere zachilendo, ngakhale mu nthabwala zake iwe sudzamva zonyansa.
- Kodi mungasiyanitse bwanji mtsikana? Inde, pa mafunso achilendo. Mwachitsanzo, izi: "Kodi mukutsimikiza kuti ndizoyenera kuchita?" "Kodi simukuganiza kuti sizosangalatsa kuchita zimenezo?" "Chifukwa chiyani?" ndi zina zotero. Ndipo mnyamata wina, namwali, adzakufunsani inu: "Kodi ndinu namwali?" Wina aliyense sakanakhala ndi chidwi, koma amangotenga chirichonse m'manja mwawo ndi kuyang'ana.
- Zero zonse pabedi. Mwamaliza kufika pamtundu uwu ndipo, zikuwoneka, tsopano mukuchita manyazi, kotero muli wamaliseche pamaso pake ndipo mukuyenera kuchita chinachake, koma mwadzidzidzi mukuzindikira kuti iye sakudziwa choti achite ndi momwe angachitire. Muyenera kusonyeza ndikudziwitsani kuti inde bwanji.
- Kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti mnyamata ndi namwali? Osavuta kwambiri, monga
Ulamulilowu, namwaliyo ndi wofulumira kwambiri, kotero kuti chiwerewere chikhoza kukhala masabata angapo. Komabe, palibe chodandaula, ndipo izi sizikutanthauza kuti izi zidzakhala ngati izi nthawi zonse. M'kupita kwa nthawi, amaphunzira kudziletsa yekha komanso kuyandikana kwanu kukubweretsani chisangalalo chosadabwitsa.
Amayi okondeka, ngati mukudandaula za funsoli: "Momwe mungayang'anire mnyamata wamwalire?" Taganizirani, kodi ndikoyenera? Nchifukwa chiyani mukuwona ndi kuzindikira zolakwika zilizonse mwa okondedwa anu? Kwa nthawi yoyamba, sayenera kuthetsa mantha ndi kusatetezeka , musayambe vuto poyambira. Mwamuna sayenera kukhala chimphona chogonana ndi zikwi za anzake omwe amamutsatira. Zonse zomwe mungaphunzire ndi mkazi wina wokondedwa yemwe sangamulole kuti akayikire chidwi chake.