Namwali

Zikuwoneka kuti dziko lathuli likupulumuka pang'onopang'ono kuchokera ku zotsatira za kugonana kwachiwerewere komanso kumayamba kuyamikira atsikana oyera mtima omwe akuyandikira nkhani za kugonana mosamala ndi kuchita popanda kugonana koyambirira. Namwali sali wamtengo wapatali, makamaka ngati mnyamata wayamba kale kuchokera ku nthawi yachitali.

Kawirikawiri sizitambasulidwa, chifukwa anthu ozungulirawa amakhala ndi mafunso ambiri komanso akukayikira. Zimakhulupirira kuti achinyamata omwe alimbikitsidwa ndi kutha kwa namwali amakhala osasunthika, osatetezeka kapena olemala. Kwenikweni, awa ndi malingaliro olakwika, koma atsimikizika kwambiri mu chidziwitso chathu cha anthu kuti amachititsa kupanikizika kwakukulu, ndipo anyamata okhawo amadziona kuti ndi otsika.

Kutaya kwa namwali wamwamuna

Pogwirizana ndi momwe thupi limakhalira, zimakhala zovuta kudziwa nthawi yomwe imfa ya namwali imapezeka. Winawake akunena kuti izi zimachitika nthawi yoyamba kudzisangalatsa komanso kuthamanga, wina akamakamba za kukonzekera koyamba.

Chinthu chimodzi chikuwonekeratu kuti kunyalanyaza namwali mwachidziwitso cha mawuwo ndi kotheka kokha ndi kutenga nawo mbali. Koma pano pakhoza kukhala funso, kaya kupweteka kapena kupweteka pamlomo kumatengedwa, kapena ndi funso lokha la kugonana kwachikale. Mwamuna aliyense pankhaniyi akhoza kukhala ndi malingaliro ake.

Pa nthawi yoyamba kugonana, mwamuna sangakumane ndi vuto lalikulu ngati msungwana wosalakwa. Mwinanso, nthawi yoyamba sichidzapambana chifukwa cha chisangalalo ndi kusokonezeka. Ndikofunikira kwambiri kumvetsetsa kuti ngakhale ngati mnyamata sakupambana, izi sizikutanthauza kuti izo zidzakhala choncho nthawi zonse, chifukwa njirayi idzakonzedwa ndi chidziwitso. Pambuyo pa kugonana koyamba, zovuta zosangalatsa m'dera lanu zimatheka chifukwa chakuti zidzatambasula pang'ono. Komanso, achinyamata ena amatchula zovuta zina zachilendo zomwe zimakhala zovuta kuzipeza, koma n'zotheka kuti zimagwirizana ndi zachizoloŵezi ndi zosangalatsa.

Zizindikiro za namwali wamwamuna

Ngati anyamata akufuna kusabisa kusalakwa kwawo, ndiye momwe angakhalire atsikana omwe akuganiza kuti ataya? Ndipotu, ngati mayiyo ali ndi chidziwitso, amatha kufufuza msinkhu wa kukonzekera kwa wokondedwayo, koma ngati ali ndi chidziwitso cholakwika cha kugonana, mwayi wolephera mu kuyesa koyamba ndi wapamwamba kwambiri.

Chizindikiro cha namwali wamwamuna chingakhale chakuti wokondedwa amapewa ubwenzi wapamtima ndipo amayamba kukhala wamanjenje kwambiri, asiyidwa yekha mtsikanayo. Kapena, mosiyana, nkhani zopanda pake za kugonjetsa kugonana kosatheka kuganiza kuchokera kwa anyamata achichepere angakhoze kuchitira umboni kuti iye anangodzitama okha, kuyesera kuwaletsa iwo ndi ena. Pamene anthu omwe sadziwa zambiri akuyandikira, mutuwo sungathe kuchiza mnzanuyo komanso kuthamanga msanga, mwinamwake ngakhale asanakwatirane.

Mukawona kuti mnzanuyo ali ndi mantha kwambiri ndipo akuopa moona mtima zoyamba zogonana, ayenera kukhala wodwala kwambiri, womvetsetsa komanso wachikondi. Ndi makhalidwe awa ndi chithandizo chanu chomwe chidzamuthandiza kuti ayambe kukhala wamkulu ndikuyamba kumvetsa luso la chikondi.