Kugonana kumathandiza kwambiri amuna ndi akazi. Amalimbikitsa thanzi lawo, amachititsa chidwi komanso amakhala ndi moyo wathanzi. Choncho, mosasamala za kugonana ndi msinkhu, kugonana kumayenera kuthandizidwa nthawi zambiri.
Moyo wokhudzana ndi kugonana mosagwira ntchito umakhudza ubwino, kuchititsa kuti munthu asakhumudwitse kapena kusasamala, kusowa tulo kapena kuchepetsa chitetezo chokwanira ndi kuwonjezereka kwa matenda chifukwa chokhala ndi magazi m'mimba.
Koma kuchuluka kwa kugonana sikuthandizanso. Kuyesetsa kuti achite zachiwerewere pamsonkhano umodzi, munthu amawonetsa thupi lake kukhala lovuta kwambiri, limamufooketsa. Choncho amuna ndi akazi onse amafunika kugonana monga momwe amafunira komanso malinga ndi momwe amachitira zosangalatsa, ndipo samataya thupi lawo.
Kodi muyenera kugonana kangati?
Akatswiri opatsirana pogonana amalimbikitsa anthu awiri kapena asanu kugonana pa sabata. Iwo ali otsimikiza kuti nthawi ziwiri ndi zokwanira. Komabe, mukhoza kukhala ndi maganizo osiyana. Ngati mukufuna zina - zogonana, monga momwe mukufunira. Kwaniritsani zosowa zanu komanso thanzi la mnzako! Simukuyenera kutsatira ndondomeko iliyonse, osadziŵa zokhazokha zomwe mumachita chikondi zosachepera 3-4 pa sabata. Makamaka mukamaona kuti kuyenda koteroko ndizosiyana ndi lamulo. Simukuyenera kuwerengera kangati pamlungu kuti mugonane. Chofunika kwambiri ndi momwe zimakhalira ndi zosangalatsa zambiri.
Gulu lirilonse liri ndi chikhalidwe chake
Kukhalitsa moyo wa kugonana kumadalira chikhalidwe cha anzanu, msinkhu wawo, zizoloŵezi, njira ya moyo. Mwachitsanzo, pali anthu omwe ali ndi chiwerewere chochepa. Iwo safunikira kuyesetsa kupeza zolemba, ndizomveka kwambiri kupeza moyo wanu wokondedwa ndi kukonda katatu usiku umodzi, koma kamodzi kokha, koma bwanji!
Koma anthu akummwera amafuna kugonana nthawi zambiri ndipo amafunikira, chifukwa kuchuluka kwawo kwa testosterone kumapamwamba. Iye ndi wamtali ndi anyamata, kotero iwo amatha kulimbana mosavuta marathons kwenikweni. Koma ndi zaka za testosterone zimapangidwa zochepetsetsa, choncho chikhumbochi chachepetsedwa. Chinthu chachikulu sikuti ndiwopsyeze ndikusafuna chithandizo cha kusowa mphamvu. Monga lamulo, kugonana kumapita pang'onopang'ono ndipo amuna amasungidwa mpaka zaka zakale, akudzikondweretsa okha ndi wokondedwa wawo.
Kugonana pambuyo paukwati
Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti moyo wa kugonana kwa achinyamata umagawidwa mu nthawi "kale" ndi "pambuyo" pamapeto a ukwati. Poyamba amafuna kugonana nthawi zambiri komanso kwa nthawi yaitali, kukumbatirana, kupsompsona ndi kupsinja kumafunika, monga mpweya. Kenaka kukhazikitsidwa kwa moyo wamba kumatengera nthawi ndi mphamvu zawo, chikondi chimachotsedwa madzulo ndi makompyuta kapena TV, chizoloŵezi chimalowa mu chiyanjano. Okwatirana amakhumudwa wina ndi mzake, kuyesera kutulutsa nthunzi pambali, ndipo izi zimangowononga chiyanjano chawo.
Ndipo zingakhale bwino kukonzekera nthawi zina misonkhano, monga kale - yokha pa ziwiri, osati kuganizira zochitika zapakhomo, kusamalirana kwambiri. Ndipo ngakhale pambuyo pa zaka khumi mpaka khumi ndi zisanu zakumverera kwawo zingakhalebe zolimba, ndipo mukhoza kugonana mobwerezabwereza ngati n'kofunikira kwa achinyamata ndi okwatirana. Mwina, osati usiku uliwonse kudzakhala mkuntho komanso wokonda, koma pambuyo pa tsiku lililonse lachikondi, chikondi ndi chikondi chidzaphatikiza okwatirana ndi mphamvu zatsopano.
Ndipo ngati kugonana sikuchitika kawirikawiri monga momwe mukufunira, ndiye:
- mumakangana kwambiri ndikupeza ubale;
- zovuta chifukwa cha maonekedwe awo;
- kompyuta, laputopu, foni kapena TV m'chipinda chanu chakugona zimakulepheretsani ku zinthu zachikondi;
- Wokondedwa wanu kapena mnzanuyo alibe chidwi ndi inu;
- Chikoka chanu chacheperapo chifukwa cha kulera.
Zina mwazifukwazi zikhoza kuthetsedwa - ndipo zimadalira inu. Yesetsani, ngati kuli koyenera, ndikugonana, monga mumakonda - nthawi zambiri komanso mwachikondi, mofatsa komanso mosasamala, kapena mwamphamvu komanso mwamphamvu.