Lingaliro lalingaliro la kugonana

Asanatanthauze tanthauzo la maganizo opatsirana pogonana, m'pofunika kumvetsetsa kuti kugonana pakati pa amai ndi abambo nthawi zonse sikugwirizana ndi maganizo opatsirana, ndipo m'masiku ano pali mitundu ikuluikulu isanu ndi itatu.

Ndine yani?

Chinthuchi ndi chakuti si onse omwe ali okonzeka kulandira chilengedwe chawo cha "I", chomwe chinaperekedwa kwa iwo pa kubadwa, ndipo kudzidzidzira kwawo kosiyana ndi kovomerezeka. Koma, mwanjira ina, aliyense amene amadzimva yekha, ali membala wa anthu omwe ayenera kuyanjana nawo. Ndipo uwu ndi ubale wake ndi anthu, udindo ndi ntchito zomwe amachita mwa iye mogwirizana ndi maganizo ake omwe amakhulupirira za amai ake ndipo amagwira nawo maganizo okhudza kugonana.

Pansi pa chiyanjano cha amai, ambiri molakwika amatanthauza ubale m'madera osiyanasiyana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi. Ndipotu, maubwenzi oterewa ndi ochuluka kwambiri ndipo samagwirizanitsa zokhazokha za anthu omwe ali ndi osiyana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha, komanso machitidwe osiyanasiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, komanso kugwirizana ndi anthu a magulu ena.

Patriarchate kapena ...?

Aliyense wa ife ali ndi udindo woti azitha kuchita nawo moyo waumoyo ndipo sakhala ndi chikhalidwe chokha cha izi kapena kugonana, komabe ndi miyambo yakale komanso miyambo ya anthu omwe timakhala nawo.

Mpaka posachedwa, gululi linali 80%, kholo, lomwe ntchito za abambo ndi amai zinafotokozedwa momveka bwino. Lero chithunzichi chikusintha makamaka makamaka m'mayiko akumadzulo, malire a psychology a utsogoleri ndi osawonekera. Munthu ali ndi ufulu kuti adziwe zomwe zavomerezeka kwa kugonana kwake komwe amadzipangira yekha, ndipo osati. Izi zikugwiritsidwa ntchito pazochitika zonse za ntchito zake, kuchokera kwa akatswiri mpaka maubwenzi apabanja. Pali zitsanzo zambiri pamene amai amagwira ntchito yowonjezera banja, ndipo munthu yense akudzipereka yekha kulera ana ndikusunga nyumba.

Ndi mitundu yonse yooneka ngati kugonana pakati pa anthu, masiku ano, psychology ya kusiyana pakati pazimayi sikunenedwa. Ngakhale zili choncho, zimayendetsedwa ndi zigawo ziwiri zachikhalidwe: mwamuna ndi mkazi, amangodziphatikizana mosiyanasiyana. Mpata wokhala ndi chikhalidwe chogonana chodziwika ndi munthu aliyense, ndipo chisankho chimenechi chimaphatikizapo kuzinthu zooneka ngati maonekedwe ndi khalidwe.

Anthu ambiri padziko lonse amadziyanjanitsa ndi amuna omwe ali nawo omwe amavomerezedwa atabadwa ndipo amachitira zinthu mogwirizana ndi maudindo omwe apatsidwa. Anthu omwe akumva kuti ali mu "thupi lachilendo" ali ndi ufulu kuti asinthe, ndipo kusintha kwake kumakhala kosiyana: wina amakhala wochepa ku zinthu za tsitsi ndi zovala, ndipo wina ali wokonzeka kunama pansi pa mpeni wa opaleshoni. Koma pamapeto pake, munthuyo adzalimbikitsabe zizindikiro za mmodzi wa amuna kapena akazi okhaokha. Pambuyo pake, chilengedwe sichinayambe chachitatu. Ngakhale m'magazi ake, chigwirizano cha zigawo ziwirizi ndizochitika. Kotero, kusiyana kwa kusiyana pakati pa amuna ndi akazi, ndipotu, osati zochulukirapo ndipo akatswiri akugwira ntchito kwambiri pophunzira zofanana za oimira magulu osiyanasiyana a kugonana.

Pewani, mkazi!

Ngakhale kuti dziko lamakono lili ndi chiwonetsero cha demokarase, lomwe limalimbikitsa ufulu waumunthu, zochitika, ngakhale zilizonse, zisankho zowonongeka ndizosawerengeka, ndipo izi zimatchulidwa makamaka muzakhalidwe. Maganizo a amuna amtundu wa amuna ndi ovuta kuti aganizire kuti mkazi ali ofanana ndi iye chifukwa cha kusiyana kwake kwa thupi ndi cholinga chake chokhalira ndi kubereka ana, zomwe zimachokera kwa amuna amatha kupita ku zovuta zambiri, monga zochoka pa nthawi ya amayi oyembekezera kapena kudwala panthawi yoyembekezera. Ndipo chifukwa chake, ntchito yopangira ntchito iyenera kusinthidwa molingana, yomwe siilandiridwa bwino ndi olemba ntchito. Komanso, nthawi zambiri Chikoka cha miyambo ya anthu komanso mbiri, miyambo ndi zipembedzo zomwe zakhala zikugwirizana pa chiyanjano pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, ndipo chifukwa cha izi zida za psychology za kulankhulana, zimachepa pang'onopang'ono, ngakhale, ndithudi, mkhalidwewo sungafanane ndi umene tinali nawo zaka zana zapitazo.

Miyambo ndi njira ya moyo yomwe idapangidwa zaka zambiri sizingasinthidwe usiku umodzi, chifukwa n'kosatheka kukakamiza anthu onse kukonda ndi anansi awo mosasamala za chikhalidwe chawo, koma kuyesa kupeza chiyanjano mu ubale, mosakayika ndi kofunika komanso ngati angapezeke, muzinthu zambiri zimadalira kupititsa patsogolo kwa gulu lathu lonse.