Kusuta mowa ndi vuto lalikulu lomwe limayambitsa ngozi osati kwa munthu amene amamwa, komanso kwa anthu omwe amamuzungulira. Ndipo choyamba, kwa mamembala. Kukhala pafupi ndi munthu wotere kumakhala kovuta kwambiri, chifukwa ali ndi maganizo osinthasintha , nthawi zina amwano, akhoza kupasuka manja ake, ndi zina zotero. Amayi ambiri akudabwa kuti achite chiyani ngati mwamuna amamwa tsiku lililonse. Koma kawirikawiri ndizosatheka kupeza yankho kwa ilo. Ichi ndi chifukwa chakuti amayi ambiri samayesetsa kupeza zifukwa za kuledzera kwa mwamuna, kumangomunamizira kuti adamwa mowa "popanda kanthu." Koma, monga akatswiri a maganizo amavomereza, amayi okhawo ali ndi mlandu wambiri chifukwa cha zovuta za mwamuna. Ndipo izi ziyenera kuganiziridwa, kotero kuti kulimbana ndi matendawa kuli ndi zotsatira zabwino.
Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani ngati mwamuna wanga amamwa mowa kwambiri?
Azimayi omwe amamwa mowa amatha kusankha imodzi mwa miyambo iwiri: kaya amavutika ndi mwamuna wawo, kapena amatha kusudzulana. Ganizirani zochitika mwanjira ina mosiyana zomwe sizikuchitika konse. Ndipo izi ndizo mtundu wa maganizo, chifukwa amayi samayesa kumvetsetsa zomwe zingachitike ngati mwamuna amamwa tsiku lililonse. Ndipo zotsatira zake sizichita chirichonse. Ndipo choyamba muyenera kusintha maganizo anu pa zakumwa zoledzeretsa. Ndikofunika kusintha fano la wogwidwa ndi udindo wokhutira ndi wokhazikika. Musamangoganizira mwamuna wanu ndikumupulumutsa, kugawira ndalama kwa wamng'oma kapena kumvetsera mavumbulutso oledzeretsa. Musiyeni iye yekha ndikuzisamalira nokha ndi ana. Pezani zosangalatsa zambiri, kambiranani ndi anzanu nthawi zambiri, pangani moyo wanu. Lolani mwamuna adziwe bwino kuti mudzakhala opanda iye. Ndipo izi ziri popanda inu?
Ngati mwamuna amamwa mlungu uliwonse, ndiye kuti vuto la "choti achite" limathetsedwa pomusokoneza mowa . Chitani kuti asakhale ndi nthawi yokhala ndi chizoloŵezi choledzera. Phatikizani mu phunziro lochititsa chidwi, pitirizani kuyenda, mutenge masewera.
Kodi mungatani ngati mwamuna samamwa, koma amanyoza ndi kumenyedwa?
Chofunika kwambiri ndi funso la choti achite ngati mwamunayo amamwa mowa kwambiri, amapeza nthawi yomwe mzakeyo amayamba kunyoza ndi kupasuka manja ake. Choyamba, musamukwiyitse munthu wotsutsa ndipo yesetsani kuti musagwire maso ake. Chachiwiri, funsani thandizo la achibale kapena anansi omwe angaleke kukhala mboni. Ndipo lingaliro labwino kwambiri mu izi ndikutuluka, ngakhale ngati si kwabwino, kwa kanthawi. Koma ngati zinthu zikubwereza nthawi zonse, ndiye kuti ndibwino kuganiza za kusudzulana m'njira yovuta kwambiri.