Kukhala ndi wokondedwa ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zosasangalatsa komanso zopweteka kwambiri. Pankhaniyi, kuthetsa kusimidwa kwathunthu, zikuwoneka kuti dziko lapansi lagwa, ndipo nyanja ya misonzi ndi usiku wopanda tulo zimachulukitsanso mkhalidwewo. Ndipo mungaiwale bwanji mwamsanga wokondedwa wanu, ngati amakumbukira zambirimbiri. Koma mu zochitika izi, muyenera kumadzipangitsa nokha kuti mumvetsetse kuti nthawiyo imachiza bwino kuposa mankhwala onse. Psychology imayankha funso ngati n'zotheka kuiwala munthu amene mumamukonda. N'zotheka ndipo nkofunikira, popeza mtundu uwu ndi wowawa kwambiri kwa psyche ndipo ukhoza kutsitsa kuvutika maganizo ndi zotsatira zina zoipa.
Kodi mungachite chiyani kuti muiwale munthu amene mumamukonda?
- Musamangidwe pa mwamuna, mum'yang'ane ndi misonkhano ndikudabwa momwe amakhalira atatha kupatukana. Zimenezi zingabweretse mavuto aakulu, komanso zimapangitsa kuti anthu asamaganizire zolakwika. Ngati mukufunadi kubwereranso, akatswiri a maganizo akulangizidwa kuti atengepo. Pamapeto pake, uyu si mlendo ndipo palibe cholakwika ndi kufunsa za ntchito yake kapena ubwino wake. Kuwonjezera apo, iyi ndi njira yotsimikizirika yokhalira wokondana, ndipo mwinamwake maubwenzi abwino.
- Musati mutsekerere nokha mu makoma anayi, mukusangalala ndi chisoni. Ngakhale kuyankhulana kofala kumatha kupulumutsa munthu kuti asalekerere ndi kuvutika maganizo. Ndikoyenera kuyesa kuonekera kawirikawiri mdziko, kudzakuthandizani kusokoneza malingaliro osadziwika, ndipo kulekana sikukhala kovuta kwambiri.
- Njira yothandiza kwambiri poganiza za psychology ndi kuthetsa nkhani zonse zomwe zikugwirizana ndi kukumbukira munthu wokondedwa. Muyenera kusuntha kapena kutaya mphatso zonse ndi katundu. Ziri zovuta, koma thanzi ndi loposa mtengo. Zomwe zinthu zonse zimakumbukira munthu zimatha, izi zimathandiza kuthetsa mavuto ndi kubwezeretsa thanzi labwino.
- Zabwino kwambiri, ngati mungapeze njira yosonyezera maganizo. Simukufunikira kusunga zonse mwa inu nokha - kusonkhanitsa kusayera kungayambitse zotsatira zowopsya ndipo zidzatenga nthawi yayitali kugwira ntchito ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo pofuna kupewa zotsatira. Chitsanzo chabwino ndikuyankhula ndi amayi anu, bwenzi lapamtima, kapena munthu wina aliyense amene mumamukhulupirira. Muzochitika izi, thandizo likufunika. Ngati munthu satha kuchipeza, akhoza kumwa mowa ngati wothandizira. Koma mowa sungathetse mavuto, ndipo nthawi zina ukhoza kuthandizira kupeza zovuta zosangalatsa komanso mbiri yoipa. Kuonjezera apo, khalidwe lakumwa moledzeretsa sizingatheke kumuthandiza munthu kumvetsa chisoni.
- Pamene kupweteka kwapang'onopang'ono kumapita pang'onopang'ono, padzabwera nthawi pamene munthu akhoza kusonyeza zomwe angathe. Kutha kwa chiyanjano kungakhale chiyambi cha kuzungulira kwatsopano m'moyo. Chinthucho ndikuti zovuta zoterezi ndi injini yamphamvu kuti mudziwe ndi kumvetsetsa nokha. Izi zikufotokozedwa muzinthu zosiyanasiyana: kusintha mkati mwa nyumba zawo, kuphunzira zinenero zina, kulemba buku,
zojambula, ndi zina zotero. - Pachiyambi cha moyo watsopano ndikofunikira kuti musaiwale za thanzi lanu ndi maonekedwe anu. Popeza posachedwa kapena padzakhala mpata woyambitsa ubale watsopano, muyenera ndithudi kusamalira zokonzanso zovala zanu ndi tsitsi lanu. Musaiwale kuti kumwetulira ndi njira yovomerezeka yopezeka bwino komanso yosangalatsa.
Kuchita kwa njira zonsezi pamwamba kumadalira, choyamba, pa chikhumbo cha munthu kuti amvetse ndi kuvomereza zochitika zake, ngakhale zoipa. Kwa aliyense, ngakhale mtundu uwu wosasangalatsa, inu choyamba muyenera kusintha khalidwe lanu, yesani zolakwa zanu. Kukhululukira munthu ndi kumasulidwa ndi kovuta kwambiri, koma izi zokha zingakuthandizeni kuti mukhalenso osungulumwa.