Pamene mudayamba chibwenzi, chirichonse chinali chabwino: kukondana kwabwino, kuyenda mwachikondi, moyo wonse unkawoneka ngati nthano, chifukwa unakumana ndi kalonga weniweni! Anali wochenjera komanso wolimba, ndipo kuchokera pa msonkhano woyamba mumamva kuti munthuyu ali ndi zolinga zabwino. Komabe, pambuyo pa chikwati, zinthu zonse zinasintha: tsopano iye sali kalonga, koma wosokoneza, osati mnyamata wachikulire yemwe amalemekeza kusankha kulikonse kwa dona wa mtima wake, koma wozunza abambo omwe amamanga mkazi wake muzitsulo zachitsulo, zomwe amadzinenera pa ndalama zake: ndiye Ndizosatheka kuziyika, musayambe kugona pabedi, ganizirani momwe ndinanenera, musapite kwa anzanu, dzisungeni nokha ndikumbukira chilichonse chomwe sichikhudza banja.
Momwe mungakhalire ndi mwamuna wanu wamatsenga?
Wachilendo m'banja ndi vuto lalikulu, chifukwa pa nthawiyi wokondedwa wake amachititsa manyazi komanso kupsinjika maganizo. Udindo wa wopondereza ukhoza kuseweredwe ndi mkazi yemwe ali ndi chikhalidwe cholimba komanso mwamakhalidwe kuposa munthu, koma nthawi zambiri anthu ozunza anzawo m'banja ndi amuna. Kukhala ndi chiwopsezo sikophweka, koma ngati mukufuna kupulumutsa banja, mukhoza kuyesetsa kukhala naye limodzi, ndipo ngati izo sizikuthandizani, ndiye kuti mumayenera kusonkhanitsa sutikesi.
- Mmene mungayankhulire ndi wankhanza? Ndibwino kuti asalankhulane: kaya akhale chete kapena kuti alamulire. Pezani malo olimba muzochitika zilizonse, ndipo, kuyambira pamenepo, zitsutsani ndi zovuta zake. Ine ndinkasamba mbale mopanda kanthu, koma izo sizinafanane naye? - asiyeni asambe yekha. Musalole abwenzi ake mu cafe? - Chabwino, lolani azimayi ambiri abwere kunyumba kwanu pamene akufuna chisangalalo ndi bata. Mumuike iye mu zovuta zamaganizo, monga momwe iye amakuchitirani inu.
- Mmene mungakhalire ndi wolamulira wankhanza? Makhalidwe anu ayenera kukhala okhwima kuposa iye. Iwe siwe msungwana yemwe sangakhoze kuyankha ndi mawu onyoza kapena zochita, koma umunthu wokhazikika womwe sulola kuti asadzilemekeze wekha. Phunzirani kusunga malonjezo anu, yang'anani zolephera zawo ndi chitonzo. Muloleni amve kuti mumakhala kwa miyezi ingapo, ndipo mutha kukhala pansi pamodzi ndikugwirizana. Ntchito yanu ndi kuphwanya umunthu wake, monga momwe akufunira kuchita ndi inu.
Bwanji ngati muli ndi mwamuna wankhanza?
Mwamwayi, nkofunika kulimbana ndi mwamuna woteroyo mwa njira zomwezo zomwe amagwiritsa ntchito. Khalani opanda nzeru ndikutsanzira zochita zake, mawu, khalidwe lake. Amuna amakhalanso ndi zolemba zapakhomo, ndipo ngati, mwachitsanzo, amazoloŵera kuphunzira mozama zotsatira za ntchito yanu, pitani nthawi yotsatira kuti mukafufuze kufufuza: kodi msomali ndi wopangidwa molondola? Ndipo pambuyo pake, akukonzekera konsati ndi zifukwa, ndi mtundu wanji wa manja osalimba amene ali nawo, ndi mtundu wanji wa "abwenzi" ake a bambo, kuti sanaphunzitse mwana wake ku ntchito ya munthu, ndi zina zotero.
Komabe, musanayambe kumuchotsa munthu wamatsenga, yesetsani kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino omwe mungamulepheretsere pamene akuzindikira kuti akuchita zoipa.
Kodi mungapulumuke bwanji kwa wolamulira wa mwamuna wake?
Ngati izo sizinasinthe, ndipo kuyesera konse kunamupangitsa iye kukwiya kwakukulu, ndiye, nkofunikira kugawana. Komabe, izi sizingakhale zophweka, chifukwa opondereza amaletsedwa kwambiri ndipo amawaganizira okondedwa awo ngati munthu ngati akapolo a moyo wonse, amene ayenera kukhala pafupi ndi kukhala okonzekera nkhondo pomvera.
Kotero, momwe mungachotsere mwamuna wa woopsa:
- Musayese kukondweretsa iye, mwachangu kuyambitsa kusagwirizana;
- kunyalanyaza zomwe iye amakukondani mwa inu, khalani ozizira ndi kukhala chete;
- nenani kuti simumkonda;
- kusonkhanitsa zinthu, kutenga ana ndi kufalitsa chisudzulo, musanayambe kupeza ntchito ndi kukatenga nyumba.
Momwe mungazindikire wotsutsa?
Kuti musakwatirane mwaukali ndi wolamulira, samverani khalidwe la munthuyo ndi ntchito yake:
- Ena mwa anthu a usilikali kumeneko amakhala opondereza, makamaka omwe sakhala ndi udindo wapamwamba: anthu awa amamvera ntchito yawo miyoyo yawo yonse, ndipo n'zosadabwitsa kuti panyumba iwo akufuna kukhala atsogoleri. Komabe, pakati pa anthuwa nthawi zina palinso anthu abwino m'banja, okhulupilika ndi okhulupirika omwe sangachoke mu nthawi yovuta, sawopa ntchito yonyansa ndipo ndi anzeru kwambiri.
- Ngati mnyamata pamisonkhano yoyamba akutsutsa kuti mumakana chinachake (mwachitsanzo, chizoloŵezi choipa) ndikuyesera kuchepetsa - izo zikutanthauza, iye ndi wotsutsa.
- Ngakhale munthu atadziwa momwe angagwirire bwino zofuna zake zachiwawa, mungathe kuzindikira "zizoloŵezi" zomwe zili kale pamsonkhano woyamba: mwachitsanzo, chisankho chomwe amawonera kanema kapena njira yopita ku filimu kwa wanyonga ndi kusankha yekha kuti akuwonetsere.
Malingaliro a chiyanjano ndi wolamulira akudalira momwe mkazi angatetezere ufulu wake ndi kutsimikizira kuti mawu ake sali omalizira. Tengerani chitsanzo kuchokera kwa amphaka: zofewa, zofewa zofewa sizikutanthauza kutetezeka, chifukwa zimabisala, zomwe nthawi zonse zimakonzera wolakwira.