Dziwani kuti m'moyo mwanu munali nthawi pamene chikhumbo chanu chofunika kwambiri chinali "Ndikufuna kulemekezedwa". Aliyense ali woyenera kulemekezedwa ndi ena, mosasamala kanthu za umunthu wake, zaka ndi maonekedwe ake. Koma si zophweka kuti anthu onse azichitiridwa ulemu ndipadera. Pachifukwa ichi, ndi kovuta kuti akwaniritse zolinga zawo, kudzidalira kwawo kumapita pansi, ndipo moyo umasintha kwathunthu magulu oyera kumdima.
Tiyeni tiyesetse kuona momwe mungadzipangire nokha zomwe mukufunikira kuti muchite izi ndi chifukwa chake kulemekeza kwa okondedwa ndi ena.
Anthu ena, kuti apeze ulemu kwa anthu ena, amakonda kusangalatsa aliyense ndi aliyense mwa kuchita zokhazokha, osadziŵa kuti akutaya. Pambuyo pake, mochititsa chidwi, amalemekeza, poyamba, anthu omwe ali okhutira okha.
Chomwecho, chinthu choyamba chomwe chimakhudza mtima wa omwe akuzungulirani, ndi zomwe muyenera kumvetsera ndi kusintha kwa maonekedwe anu. Zinthu zazikulu kuti anthu akuvomerezeni inu pamtunda wofanana, ngati fano lanu limaphatikizapo kugwirizana ndi zokonda zamakono za mafashoni, kukongola, chiyero. Koma musaiwale kuti zovala zidzakuwoneka bwino, ngati mukumasuka.
Chachiwiri, musaiwale za malo anu. Ndondomeko yake ndikuti ndinu munthu wodziimira ndi wodzidalira.
Yang'anani manja anu. Ayenera kupereka chidaliro, koma osati nkhanza.
Kawirikawiri, kudziyika nokha ndi chifukwa chimene munthu sangamvetsetse momwe angapangire mwamuna wokondedwa ndi anthu ena omwe akuzungulirani kuti azidzilemekeza.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo a anthu amadziwa zomwe zimayambitsa zifukwa zomwe zimayambitsa kusadzikuza kwawo:
- Limbani kulera konse. Tsoka ilo, ngakhale ali mwana, makolo ena ndi aphunzitsi amachepetsa mphamvu ya mwana kuti adziyimire yekha. Kukula, mwa anthu oterowo palibe luso lodziletsa, chifukwa cha zomwe amavumbulutsidwa, ngakhale kuti ndizosafunika kwenikweni, koma zida zoyendetsera khalidwe lawo.
- Kupanda khalidwe. Zimakhalanso kuti munthu sakudziwa yekha momwe ayenera kukhalira, momwe ayenera kukhalira bwino muzochitika zina. Palibe khalidwe lapadera la khalidwe.
- Kupanda luso luso. Ngati munthu sakudziwonetsera yekha kuti achite bwino, ndiye kuti sadzipatsanso mwayi wofufuza momwe akudziwira yekha.
Kulemekeza achibale
Palinso zochitika za moyo pamene mkazi wodalirika, mwamuna samasiya kulemekeza, ngakhale kuti pamaso pa ena iwo ndi chitsanzo chotsanzira.
Yankho la momwe angakakamizire mwamuna kuti adzilemekeze yekha, adzabwera pambuyo pa kukambirana kopepuka pakati pa okwatirana pakati pawo. N'zotheka kuti mmodzi mwa abwenzi, pa nkhaniyi, mkaziyo, wasiya kugawana nawo gawo lachitukuko cha moyo wa banja ndipo chifukwa cha ichi wasiya ulemu m'maso
Kupanga mwamuna ndi munthu wina sangathe kulemekezedwa. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti munthu ayenera kudzilemekeza yekha. Ndipotu, chifukwa cholephera kulemekeza okondedwa anu ndicho kutayika kwanu, mumavomereza mosavuta maganizo a ambiri, poopa kuteteza maganizo anu. Izi zingakhale vuto lanu. Yang'anani khalidwe lanu mu banja kuchokera kunja, liziyamikireni moyenera ndikuyankha funsolo nokha chifukwa chake amuna samalemekeza amayi.
Mwamuna aliyense adzamvetsera mwachindunji kwa mkazi yemwe, koposa zonse, amadzilemekeza yekha, osaloledwa kunyalanyazidwa mu adilesi yake.
Kuti mumvetsetse momwe mungadziphunzitsire kulemekeza, dziwani kuti muli nokha, muli ndi ufulu pa malingaliro anu ndi udindo wanu wa moyo, musalole kuti winawake akuchititseni manyazi ndipo kenako kulemekeza kwa ena kudzabwera nokha.