Kudzidalira, kudzikwanitsa, kulingalira bwino, kuthamangira kupanga chisankho, ufulu, mantha - simungakhale ndi malingaliro onse okondweretsa, sichoncho? Ngati mumasowa mndandanda wa ziganizo, mutha kunena mosavuta - tonse timakonda kukhala anthu amphamvu, komanso mosaganizira, timayesa anthu onse oyandikana nawo pokhala ndi "mfundo" za umunthu wamphamvu.
Nchiyani chimatsimikizira umunthu wamphamvu?
Ndikhulupirire, ziribe kanthu momwe kusamvetsetseka kumvekera, munthu wina ali ndi makhalidwe amphamvu nthawi zina amamva kuti sangakhale womasuka mwachinsinsi, chisangalalo, chisokonezo. Munthu wongolimba amadziwa momwe angawawonetsere mphindi iliyonse, ndipo akutaya mwayi wambiri mwa moyo kokha chifukwa cha "lilime lokhumudwitsa", "masaya ofiira", "podkashivayuschihsya miyendo."
Tiyeni tiwone mtundu wa psychology womwe umatsogoleredwa ndi umunthu wamphamvu.
Kudzifufuza
Momwe mumadzikondera nokha ndikuwonetseratu kuti ndinu wodzidalira nokha, ngati muli munthu wamphamvu.
Kudzipenda ndiko kuyesa kwa mbali zina zomwe zimapangidwa ndi munthu (kuyang'ana maonekedwe, maganizo, chisokonezo). Chiwerengero cha "kudziyesa" koteroko ndi chizindikiro cha kudzichepetsa kapena kudzikuza.
Komanso kudzidalira kwathu ndi maganizo a ena. Anthu omwe amanena kuti alibe chochita ndi zomwe anansi awo akuganiza za iwo ali ndi zitatu zitatu pamwamba pazingokhala osasamala. Ndipotu, tonsefe tikuyesera kupeza zomwe iwo amaganiza za ife: timaphunzira zinthu zabwino - timapanga kudzidalira kwathu, timaphunzira zoipa, tidzitsitsa.
Nthawi zambiri timaphunzira zoipa, chifukwa anthu amalingalira ndi kulankhula za ena molakwika, kudzikweza okha, choncho, kukhala munthu wodalirika kwambiri.
Kotero, kudzikuza kwakukulu ndi khalidwe lalikulu la umunthu wamphamvu.
Zochita
Ndikhulupirire, palibe chovuta pa momwe mungakwezere umunthu wamphamvu - ayi. Ayenera kuti aphunzire momwe angawonekere. Pamene "tikuwoneka", umunthu wathu wamkati ukuyesera kugwira
Kotero, chiyenera kukhala chikhalire chotani (chiyenera kukhala chotani kuti chiwonekere ndikukhala umunthu wamphamvu):
- ulamuliro wobereka paliponse ndi nthawi zonse, ngakhale ndekha ndiyekha;
- mutu ukuleredwa;
- Nkhope ili ndi kumwetulira, ndipo ngati mukufunikira kuti mumveke ndikuwopsyeza - nkhopeyo ikuyenda, mopanda mantha;
- kwachiwiri musanatsegule kamwa yanu, ganizirani ndi malingaliro, mphamvu, chiganizo chomwe mukufuna kutchula mawu, chidzateteza "zolephera";
- yang'anani - siimathamanga, siigwera, pakuti masekondi 3-4 amayambira pa interlocutor, ndi bwino kuyang'ana pamphumi, mphuno, chingwe.