Monga momwe nyimboyi imayimbira: "Malingana ndi chiwerengero, pali ana 9 kwa atsikana khumi". Choncho, amayi achichepere, okongola ndi omasuka amakakamizidwa kukhala okhutira ndi amuna okwatira, osati kukhala okha ndikuwona kuti mukusowa wina. Izi zimachitika kuti maubwenzi oterewa amakhala kwa zaka zambiri, ndipo pofuna kuthamangitsa kuchoka kwa banja, zomwe zimanyansidwa ndi iye, wina ayenera kuganiza momwe angatengere mwamuna wokwatiwa kuchokera m'banja momwe amaonera maganizo.
Ganizirani zabwino zonse ndi zowononga
Choyamba, mbuyeyo amafunika kusankha ngati akufuna bwenzi m'moyo komanso ngati atenge mwamuna wokwatiwa kunja kwa banja, chifukwa zingatheke kuti moyo wake pansi pa denga sungakhale wopanda mtambo momwe ukuwonekera. Kodi amakwaniritsa cholinga chake chotani? Ngati magalimoto akuluakulu sali chikondi chenicheni , ndiye akatswiri ndi osocheretsa okonzekera omwe samayambitsa chilichonse. Ngakhale mwamuna atachoka m'banja lake, chibwenzi chatsopano sichitha nthawi yaitali. Ngati muli otsimikiza kuti ndi theka lanu lachiwiri, muyenera kumvetsetsa ngati n'zotheka kutenga mwamuna wokwatiwa kunja kwa banja, chifukwa ambiri amakhutira ndi zinthu izi pamene nyumba ziri mwamtendere, chitonthozo, mkazi ndi ana, komanso kumbali ya unyamata ndi chilakolako.
Izi ndizotheka pokhapokha ngati moyo wokhala ndi mkazi wosakhutitsidwa kosatha umanyansidwa kwambiri moti palibe mphamvu yowonjezera. Ngati munthu asanayambe kukambirana ndi mbuye wake amaganiza kuti zingakhale bwino kuti athaŵe, chifukwa anawo amakula, amatha kulankhula kale ndi munthu wamkulu ndikufotokozera chirichonse. Chabwino, ngati mbuyeyo amamufikitsa molondola mwamunayo pa chisankho ichi, ndiye, ndithudi, zonse ndi zotheka.
Ndingatenge bwanji mwamuna wokwatiwa kunja kwa banja?
Choyamba, zidzakhala zofunikira kukulitsa luso lonse la bwino scout: khala woleza mtima, wokhoza kudikira ndikulekanitsa "njere ku mankhusu". Sungani khalidwe lanu ndi malingaliro anu, khalani ndi luso lopeza zambiri zolondola komanso, mvetserani. Ndipo mvetserani zambiri: momwe mungatengere mkazi, mkazi wake, momwe amachitira movutikira komanso osalimba, bitch ozizira, ndi zina zotero. Ntchito ya mbuyeyo ndikumva chisoni, kusamalira, ndi kutsimikizira kuti zonse zidzakhala zosiyana ndi iye. Ndikofunika kupereka mwamuna nkhani, yomwe akufuna kuti abwerere mobwerezabwereza. Koma chofunikira kwambiri, ayenera kukhulupirira munthu watsopano.
Ngati mukufuna kudziwa momwe mungatengere mwamuna wokwatiwa, musalankhule za ndalama. Palibe woimira mwamuna kapena mkazi wamphamvu yemwe sangasunthane banja kuti akhale mkazi wamwamuna, choncho muyenera kumuuza kuti ndalama sizofunikira kwambiri pamoyo, ndipo chikondi chimatha kuchita zozizwitsa. Tamandani munthu wanu, muuzeni kuti ali ndi luso komanso wopambana komanso anthu ena opusa omwe simungathe kuziwona. Samalirani, kudyetsa chakudya chamadzulo chokoma, kusungulumwa ndi chakudya chamadzulo, pangani chisokonezo. Konzani zam'tsogolo, koma musachedwe kukamba za ana. Mwinamwake, mwamuna sakufuna kuti akhale nawo pano, chifukwa moyo ndi chizoloŵezi ndiye chinthu choyamba chimene amathawa mobwerezabwereza sakufuna kulowerera mmenemo.
Inde, m'pofunika kukhala mbuye wabwino kwambiri padziko lapansi. Kukhala wokangalika ndi kupita kuyesayesa - ndizo zikhazikitso zokhutira ndi ubale wautali ndipo izi ziyenera kukumbukiridwa. Koma ndifunikanso kuti musasokoneze kwathunthu mwa munthu, osati kukhala moyo wake. Ngati munthu atsimikiza kuti mukumuyembekezera tsiku lililonse pawindo, sangasiye mkazi wake, koma bwanji? Khalani odzidalira komanso okhulupilika, khalani ngati osakhala ndi ntchito, ndiye kuti muzichita zosangalatsa, muzikhala ndi nthawi yocheza ndi anzanu, mukakumana ndi anzanu. Muloleni iye akhale otsimikiza kuti moyo wanu uli wodzaza popanda iye ndipo ndiye iye akufuna kuti akhale gawo lake. Ndipo mwinamwake, yesetsani kuchitapo kanthu, koma nthawi zonse sungani nkhope yanu ndi kulemekeza anthu ena.