Amuna nthawi zambiri amakamba za kuchuluka kwa malingaliro pazochita zawo, koma amapitiriza kuchita zachilendo, malingaliro athu, zochita. Mwachitsanzo, atsikana ambiri nthawi zambiri amafunsanso kuti, "N'chifukwa chiyani bambo amasiya kulankhula mwadzidzidzi?" Chinthu chochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi chakuti khalidwe lotere kumeneko likuwoneka kuti palibe chifukwa, amalankhula pafupifupi tsiku lililonse, kenako amangosiya kuyankha mafoni ndi mauthenga. Tiyeni tiwone chomwe chiri vuto.
Nchifukwa chiyani mwamunayo mwamunayo anasiya kulankhula mwadzidzidzi?
Zifukwa zomwe munthu wasiya kuyanjana zingakhale zochepa kwambiri, choncho tidzakambirana zochitika zambiri.
- Iwe wasiya kukhala wokondweretsa kwa iye . Njirayi imakumbatira, koma atsikana nthawi zambiri samaganizira , chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti munthu akhoza kunena mwachindunji za imfa ya chidwi. Koma oimira ambiri ogonana kwambiri akuopa kwambiri kukwiyitsa mtsikanayo, choncho amasankha kuchoka popanda kunena zabwino. Zikuwoneka kuti njirayi yopatukana imawoneka yopweteka kwambiri.
- Palibe nthawi . Nthawi zambiri timaganizira chifukwa chake munthu mwadzidzidzi anasiya kulankhulana kapena anayamba kutuluka ndi mawu a monosyllabic, ife tikuyang'ana pachabe chifukwa cha ife eni. Kumbukirani nthawi yomwe munagwira ntchito yanu (chabwino, kapena nthawi yisanachitike tchuthi, pamene mukufunikira kukhala ndi nthawi yochepa kwambiri), ndiye mukufuna kuti muyambe kukambirana nthawi yayitali ngakhale ndi anthu apamtima?
- Anatopa ndi kukangana . Mwina, mwa njira zina zomwe mumazikonda zimakhala zofanana, koma pakulankhulana, pali chifukwa chosagwirizana. Mphindi uwu ukhoza kukhala chopunthwitsa, ngati wina wa inu (kapena onse awiri) sakudziwa momwe angakhalire mukumenyana. Chifukwa chake, mwinamwake, mwamunayo mwamunayo anasiya kulankhulana chifukwa anali atatopa ndi zokangana nthawi zonse. Simungathe kuzindikira kukhumudwa kwa interlocutor chifukwa chakutha kudziletsa nokha, koma nthawi zina zonsezi zimakhala zolemetsa.
- Inu simukudziwa momwe mungayankhulire . Poyamba, munthu akamachita chidwi, amatha kukhululukira anthu omwe amatsutsana nawo, kuwachitira nkhanza ndi kusalankhula kosayenera, koma pakapita nthawi izi zimavutitsa. Pamapeto pake, pakubwera nthawi yomwe palibe zida zowonjezera zokhumudwitsa za kulankhulana.
- Iye anatenga zomwe iye ankafuna . N'zotheka kuti mwamunayo anasiya kulankhulana chifukwa simunamuganizire.
Zokambiranazo zinali zosangalatsa zosavuta, zomwe zinasiya kuseka pamene maganizo abwino anali atapita. - Ali ndi mavuto . Aliyense ali ndi nthawi zomwe simukufuna kuzimva kapena kumva. Mwina, nthawiyi ikadutsa, interlocutor wanu adzabwerera, kapena mwinamwake atsimikiza kuchoka zochitika zonse zakale.
- Iye sakufuna kuwotcha milatho . Ngati munthu akunena kuti sakufuna kulankhulana , ndiye kuti kudzitukumula sikudzalola kuti akuyitane. Koma, ngati mutasiya kugonjetsedwa kotero, zitseko zidzakhala zotseguka nthawi zonse, kuchokera kumuna wamwamuna, ndithudi.