Mu ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi akhoza kumvetsetsa zambiri, popanda kuyembekezera kufotokoza m'mawu. Nthawi zambiri mkazi amafuna kumvetsetsa ndikuwerenga kudzera mu manja ndi nkhope ya munthu, kuti amvekere chifundo, chidwi ndi chikhumbo. Zizindikiro zomwe zimamveka bwino kuti mwamuna anali wokondwa sizongokhala zosaoneka ngati zikuwoneka. Chilakolako ndi chilakolako cha kugonana zikhoza kuwerengedwa kupyolera m'maso, maonekedwe a munthu komanso kuyenda kwa munthu, ngakhale patali.
Momwe mungamvetsetse kuti munthu adakondwera?
Malingana ndi zotsatira za kafukufuku wamaganizo, zinakhazikitsidwa kuti pamene kulankhulana pakati pa oimira amuna kapena akazi, nkhope ndi manja ndizofunika kwambiri kuposa mawu. Kulankhulayo kumangopereka chidziwitso chimene munthu akufuna kuyankhula, ndipo kuyenda kwa thupi ndi munthuyo kumapereka malingaliro enieni ndi chikhalidwe.
Zojambula ndi nkhope za nkhope pamene munthu ali wokondwa mu kuwerenga maganizo amaphunzira ndikudutsamo muzinthu zina. Palembedwe, munthu akhoza kudzilamulira yekha, koma zimakhala zobvuta kubisa zizindikiro zosagwirizana. Ngati munthu ali wokondwa, akhoza kuchita manyazi kuti asonyeze, koma thupi lake ndi nkhope zake zimapereka maganizo ake enieni:
- Chilakolako cha kugonana chikhoza kuwerengedwa kudzera mu maso ndi nkhope. Pamene okondwa, ophunzira akufutukula mwamuna ndi mawonekedwe amakhala ofanana, kuganizira pa chinthu chokhumba. Anadzutsa nsidze, milomo yotseguka pang'ono, kuyang'ana pang'ono mu thupi, kunatchula za chifuwa chachikazi ndi chizindikiro chokhazikika cha chidwi ndi malingaliro enieni a malingaliro a munthuyo.
- Kupewa kuyang'anitsitsa maso ndi kusunthika pamayendedwe kumachititsa manyazi komanso kufuna kubisala chokhumba chanu. Khalidweli likugwirizana ndi zomwe munthu amamva akamakondwera nthawi yosafunika. Maganizo amayamba kutsutsana ndi chikhalidwe chaumunthu, kupangitsa kusuntha kosasinthasintha.
- Chisamaliro chimakopa chidwi - zizindikiro zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo. Mwamuna nthawi yomweyo amamangitsa mimba, amamangirira kumbuyo, amamanga kapena amathyola khola, amasintha kapu kapena tie.
- Kupuma mofulumira ndi ludzu nawonso nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zibwenzi zogonana. Osadziŵa kuti kupuma kwasintha kwavuta, ludzu limagwirizanitsidwa ndi mpweya wamagazi wapamwamba ndi kuwuka kwa kutentha kwa thupi.
Akazi ndi ovuta kumvetsa zomwe mwamuna amamva akamakondwera. Physiology ya munthu inalinganizidwa kuti chisangalalo cholimba, mosiyana ndi chiwerewere chabwino chibisala kwambiri. Ndipo sikuti basi kuti magazi akutsanulira mbali zina za thupi. Chisangalalo cha amuna chiri cholimba, ndipo chikhalidwe cha amuna ambiri chifukwa cha chilengedwe ndi champhamvu kwambiri.
Akazi amafunika nthawi yambiri kuti asangalale, omwe akuyimira kugonana kolimba, ndondomekoyi imakhala mofulumira ndipo imabisala mosavuta.