Atsikana ambiri amafuna kukomana ndi "kalonga wa kavalo woyera" kuyambira ali mwana. Inde, patapita nthawi chithunzichi chimasintha, koma chikhumbo chowona wokondedwa wabwino pafupi ndi inu chikhalabe. Ndicho chifukwa chake zambiri zokhudza momwe mungapezere ndi kukopa munthu wabwino ndi zothandiza komanso zothandiza. Kuti mukwaniritse cholinga china, muyenera kuchita ndi kudzigwira nokha.
Kodi mungakope bwanji munthu wabwino mu moyo wanu?
Mpikisano pakati pa atsikana ndi wapamwamba kwambiri ndipo aliyense akuyesera kukopa wokondedwa naye phindu. Muzochitika zotere, ndi bwino kukumbukira kuti sikuti ndikuwonekeratu, komanso kubwereza mkati n'kofunika.
Malangizo okopa munthu wabwino:
- Ndikofunikira kupanga chithunzi chokwanira cha mnzanuyo wofuna, kuti asatengere amuna osayenera. Njira yosavuta ndiyo kulemba pamapepala zonse zomwe zili bwino. Lembani makhalidwe omwe sali ovomerezeka.
- Kupeza momwe mungapezere munthu woyenera, nkofunikira kuganizira pa chinthu chofunika kwambiri - chikondi nokha. Mkazi akamverera kuti ndi wosayenera, woipa, wosakhudzidwa, ndiye ena adzawerenganso. Ndi chifukwa chake phunzirani kudzikonda nokha kuti ndinu ndani.
- Mayi ayenera kukhala wokondweretsa, kotero kudzikonda. Mwamuna wabwino amafunanso kuona mkazi woyenera, choncho mumayenera kumagwirizana. Chotsani kulemera kwakukulu, phunzirani maphunziro, mwachidule, musayime.
- Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa momwe tingapezere mkazi woyenera mwamuna ndi mwana, monga amayi ambiri amasiya chikhulupiriro pomanga ubale watsopano. Kuwonjezera pa uphungu wapamwambawu, ndikofunika kunena kuti muyenera kuyika mfundo zonse m'mbuyomo ndi kunena zabwino ku zinthu zonse zomwe mumakhala nazo. Kamasulidwa kuti mukhale ndi maganizo atsopano komanso omveka bwino.
- Sikoyenera kuthamangira aliyense payekha, kudalira pa izo,
kuti kufufuza munthu woyenera kuyenera kuchitika mwa kuchita. Fufuzani munthu, kulankhulana, kuganizira, kuti mupeze chimodzimodzi. Kumbukirani kuti amuna samawakonda asungwana, choncho sungani zofuna zanu ndikuwalola kuti akugonjetseni.
Ambiri akufunitsitsa kupeza munthu wabwino kuti amange ubale wamphamvu ndi iye. Zochita zimachitika kwathunthu, kumbukirani kuti amuna abwino samapita ku zovuta zosiyanasiyana. Khulupirirani kuti msonkhano wokondweretsa udzachitika posachedwa ndipo zonse zidzachitikadi.