Kodi munayamba mwamvapo kuti mumadziwa munthu kwa zaka chikwi, ngakhale kuti mukuziwona koyamba m'moyo wanu? Chodabwitsa ichi ndi chofala lero. Chisokonezo chimene chimakhala chokoma ndi kukhala ndi mtendere ndi munthu, ngati kuti ndiwe, kokha mwa munthu wina, zikutanthauza kuti miyoyo iwiri yatsopano imakumana. Komabe, otsutsa sakhulupirira kuti alipo. Kuwatsimikizira kuti chosiyana ndi ntchito yathu yaikulu.
Chiphunzitso cha Miyoyo Yowakomera
Kodi lingaliro loti "okwatirana" limatanthauza chiyani? Pali lingaliro loti mu moyo uno aliyense waife akuyang'ana anthu omwe adawawonapo m'dziko lina. Zochitika zathu zakale zimapeza wina ndi mzake, chifukwa akhoza kukhala ndi bizinesi yosakwanira kapena iwo anali banja limodzi. Komabe, sikuti asayansi onse ndi akatswiri amadziŵa kuti mizimu ya chibadwidwe imapezeka. Chimodzimodzinso ndikuti kukopa, kukhumudwa kwadzidzidzi kwa chikondi ndi chitonthozo pambali pa munthu sizongokhala chabe kufanana ndi kukumbukira anthu omwe adakumana nawo moyo. Mu ubongo, ntchito yokumbukila ndi zithunzi, zomwe zakhala zikugwiritsidwa ntchito kale, ntchito. Ndicho chifukwa chake munthu wachilendo kwathunthu akuwoneka kuti akudziŵa nthawi yaitali, ndipo timamvetsa kuti moyo wathu uli patsogolo pathu.
Koma, palibe yemwe angakhoze kufotokoza momwe msonkhano wa anthu awiri wotsekera mu mzimu ukuchitika. Anthu ena amakumana nawo mwadzidzidzi, ngati kuti iwowo amakumana nawo, ndipo ena sangathe kukomana nawo okondedwa awo mpaka kumapeto kwa miyoyo yawo. Bwanji, pambuyo pa zonse, kukakomana ndi munthu wokwatirana naye? Ndipo kodi izi ndizothekadi?
Asayansi amanena kuti kuyesa kupeza munthu pafupi ndi mzimu nthawi zambiri kumalephera. Ndipo makamaka zikugwirizana ndi maganizo olakwika omwe anthu ambiri amakhulupirira:
- Anthu ambiri amaganiza kuti mzimu wachibale udzapezeka wokha. Panthaŵi imodzimodziyo, anthu akuyang'ana anthu pafupi ndi mzimu pakati pa anzako ndi anzawo, osanena kuti kufufuza kuyenera kuyamba ndi iwo okha. Miyoyo yofikira imayikidwa kumbali imodzi ya kumvetsetsa ndi chikhumbo chokumvetsa ena. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ngati munthu sakulimbana ndi dziko lake la mkati, zidzakhala zovuta kuti apeze chimodzimodzi ndi iye mwini.
- Cholakwika chachiwiri chimene anthu ambiri amachita ndicho kutsimikiza kuti moyo kapena theka lachiwiri silikupita kulikonse ndipo akakumana, iwo adzakhala pamodzi. Koma chiyanjano chilichonse, ngakhale choyambirira pachiyambi, ndi nthawi, zimasintha. Palibe chimene chikuima. Ngakhale anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi mzimu amakonda kusintha ndikukhala ndi zofuna zawo. Choncho, wina ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti n'zotheka kukhalabe ndi chibwenzi pokhapokha pakukula mwauzimu, ndikuchulukitsa makhalidwe abwino. Komanso ndikulemekeza maganizo ndi moyo wa hafu yanu.
- Anthu ambiri amadziletsa kuti azitha kukhala ndi zibwenzi, atsimikiziranso kuti maubwenzi oyandikana ndi achikondi sangasungidwe ndi anthu ambiri.
Komabe, pakuchita izi zimachitika kuti kutseguka ndi chilakolako cholankhulana kwa anthu ochulukirapo amatha kufotokoza malingaliro awo ndi zilakolako zawo zobisika. Pang'onopang'ono, mungapeze munthu wokwatirana naye mwa iwo omwe sitikuyembekezera.
Tiyeni tiwone momwe tingapezere munthu wokondana naye pakati pa gulu la anzanu akale ndi atsopano. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti tonse ndife abale ndi alongo kuyambira pachiyambi. Pamaso pa Mulungu, tonsefe ndife amodzi. Nthawi zonse kutsegula kwathu kuli kofunika, ndipo mabwenzi ambiri angatipangitse kuvulala koopsa. Koma, kumalo ena, zimakupatsani inu kuphunzira za iwo omwe atizungulira mochuluka kuposa momwe akuwonekera kunja. Musati muyandikire kwa anthu, khalani odzipereka ndi iwo ozungulira inu, ndiyeno mudzapeza kuti mizimu yamtundu ikuzungulira iwe kulikonse.