Kuyambira kale anthu akhala akuyesera kuphunzira za iye mwini ndi anthu omwe amamuzungulira. Ndikubwera kwaumunthu, taphunzira kuzindikira makhalidwe oipa ndi makhalidwe abwino a munthu. Palibe anthu abwino, komabe, anthu ena akhoza kukhala ndi makhalidwe abwino, pamene ena sangakhale nawo.
Makhalidwe abwino, mndandanda wa zomwe sizingatheke, ukhoza kuwerengedwa ndi kuchitidwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana. Izi ndi makhalidwe abwino, ndi zizindikiro za maphunziro, kuleza mtima ndi kulekerera, kuthekera kukhala ndi anthu komanso anthu ena. Makhalidwe abwino ndizo makhalidwe omwe amalola kuti munthu asangokhala mdziko, komanso kuti azitsatira malamulo ake, komanso kuti adzalimbikitse mamembala ake onse.
Kodi makhalidwe abwino amachokera kuti?
Makhalidwe abwino ndi zochita zomwe timachita, poyamba, zimadalira chikhalidwe chathu ndi khalidwe lathu. Chinthu chotsatira chomwe chimakhudza mapangidwe a makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe awa mwa ife ndi kulera ndi malo. Anthu achikulire amapatsa mwana wawo chitsanzo chotsatira cha khalidwe lawo ndi zochita zawo, kupanga maonekedwe awo ndi zomwe amatsatira pamoyo wawo. Chomwe chinayamikiridwa kwambiri ndi moyo ndi makolo anu mosakayikira chidzayamikiridwa ndi inu. Zingakhale zosangalatsa ndi zokondwa, kapena, zenizeni, ndizofunika, zomwe ziŵirizi ndi makhalidwe abwino a munthu.
Kukhala ndi mtima wa moyo ndi wekha ndikofunikira. Izi zimatipangitsa ife kukhala enieni, monga, khalidwe la moyo wathu, kaya tili okhutira ndi izo, ndipo mapangidwe ndi mapulumulidwe a makhalidwe abwino amadalira. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, malingaliro a dziko, miyambo, amachititsa kukhalapo kwa ichi kapena khalidwe labwino. Mwachitsanzo, anthu a Chisilavo, omwe amavomerezedwa kale, amapereka mowolowa manja komanso kudzimana, zomwe sizili bwino kwa alendo.
Mndandanda wa makhalidwe abwino
Zosangalatsa za khalidwe lanu zingatheke kukhala makumi, ngati si mazana maina. Koma sizingatheke kusonkhanitsa makhalidwe onsewa mwa munthu mmodzi. Komanso, zina mwa izo sizigwirizana kwathunthu. Makhalidwe abwino a mwamuna ndi mkazi akhoza kukhala osiyana. Ngati mwachibadwa kuti munthu akhale wolimba ndi wolakalaka, ndizotheka kuti mkazi akhale ndi makhalidwe abwino komanso odzipereka.
Mwa amuna, kulimba mtima, kudalirika, udindo, nzeru, kudzipereka kumachitika. Munthu wodalirika amatsatira mawu ake nthawi zonse, mukhoza kudalira iye pazochitika zilizonse, nthawi zonse amathandiza kuthetsa mavuto alionse. Koma kwa mkazi wofunika kwambiri ndi makhalidwe abwino a khalidwe monga kukoma mtima, chifundo, kufatsa, kuleza mtima, kukhala ndi chidwi, kusamala. Mkazi weniweni, choyamba,
Kwa munthu aliyense, kaya akhale mwamuna kapena mkazi, wachinyamata kapena munthu wanzeru, pali mndandanda wa makhalidwe abwino omwe angoyenera kuchitika mwa aliyense wa ife. Ndikutseguka ndi kudzipereka, kupanda dyera komanso kupatsa, wowolowa manja ndi kufunitsitsa kuthandiza, kukhulupirika ndi kudzipereka, chifundo ndi kuyamikira. Chofunika kwambiri chidzakhala ndi udindo ndi kudalirika, kudzipereka ndi kudzipatulira, kulimbika mtima, kulimbika mtima, kuleza mtima, ndi ena ambiri.
Aliyense wa ife akhoza kukhazikitsa makhalidwe ofunika awa. Ndipo munthu amene ali nawo ambiri nthawi zonse amakhala mlendo wolandiridwa, anthu amakopeka naye, iye amakhala wokondwa komanso wolemera kwambiri pamoyo.