Kujambula ndi nkhope kumapereka maganizo ndi maganizo a munthu, zomwe akufuna kuti azidzipatula yekha. Kuonjezera apo, kugwiritsira ntchito sikungakhale kokha kumasula, koma komanso khadi. Ngati mumaphunzira kudziyang'anitsitsa nokha, ndikuphunzitsanso zinazake, mungathe kulenga maganizo abwino kwa anthu. Mwachitsanzo, kuyendetsa kwa nsidze, zomwe zimatchuka kwambiri mu psychology ya manja, ziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito pomudziwa kuti apange chithunzi chabwino.
Kusokoneza bodza ndi bodza
Odziwika kwambiri mu psychology ya manja, ndithudi, ndi kuwerengedwa kwa mabodza. Tikufuna kuti titha kunama ndipo tisagwidwe ndi otenthedwa, komanso tiwuluke poyera anthu omwe amayesa kutulutsa zitsamba m'makutu athu.
Pamene sitimakhulupirira kwenikweni interlocutor, timakhudzidwa modzidzimutsa ndi zovala zamakutu (onetsetsani kuti Zakudyazi zomwezo zilipo?)
Ndipo abodza amakhudza khosi, mabatani osasunthira, kolala. Nthawi zambiri amakhudza dimple pamilomo ndi m'mphuno.
Mosiyana ndi chikhulupiliro chofala, psychology ya manja a munthu ndi nkhope yake sikutanthauza kukhala maso ndi pakamwa. Kawirikawiri zosiyana ndizoona, ndipo bodza, mmalo mwake, liyenera kuwerengedwera ndi manja achiwonekedwe ndi nkhope. Mwachitsanzo:
- kuyang'ana mofulumira pa nthawi ya kunama;
- Kupititsa patsogolo kapena kulankhula molakwika kumachepetsa.
Chisoni ndi kukana
Komanso mu psychology za manja a munthu, chidwi chachikulu chimaperekedwa kwa chifundo ndi kutsutsa, ndiko, kuwerengera koona mtima kwa maganizo a interlocutor.
Mu psychology, manja achifundo otsatirawa amadziwika:
- kugwirana chanza;
- miyendo yochulukana kwambiri, masokosi amayang'ana mbali ya interlocutor;
- kutsanzira mu manja, mawu, nkhope ya nkhope;
- kutengeka pang'ono kwa thupi patsogolo;
- manja otsegula.
Zizindikiro zosamvetsetsa (kukhumudwa, kukwiyitsa, kukwiya):
- chophweka;
- mikono ndi miyendo;
- Masitini otsekedwa ndi ziphwanjo zopukuta;
- kumenyana;
- zev;
- manja m'chiuno;
- manja mu matumba;
- kutsogolo kwa mpando, mwachitsanzo, kuchoka pa interlocutor;
- mawonekedwe oyandama.
Manja a amuna
Akazi, monga nthawi zonse, amakondwera ndi funso lovuta kwambiri: "amakonda kapena sakonda." Chiŵerengero cha zomwe zingatheke kukhala chithandizo chingathandize kudziwa maganizo a anthu okhudza manja.
Ngati akukukondani, munthuyo adzalandira manja awa:
- miyendo yambiri yogawanika pampando wokhala pansi kapena pamalo oima;
- masewera ndi minofu: kupukuta, kusokoneza kumbuyo, kutentha kwa manja;
- munthu amayenda mmwamba ndi pansi, ngati chisonyezero cha ubwino wake;
- Sichiwoneka mwachindunji m'maso, koma mdima umatuluka m'thupi lonse;
- ophunzira akusungunuka;
- mwamuna ndi mkazi amamvera wina ndi mzake, apatseni manja (tsitsi lopweteka, phazi la phazi).