Kuponderezedwa ndi njira yogonjetsera munthu mmodzi kapena gulu la anthu pa zotsatira zina. Monga lamulo, kusintha kumeneku, malingaliro, khalidwe, ntchito zomwe mukufunazo kwa omwe akukhudzidwa.
Njira yamakono yogwiritsira ntchito chidziwitso chaumunthu ndi chidziwitso chachinsinsi cha osankhidwa. Zizindikiro zambiri zimafanana ndi nkhondo yotsutsana ndi anthu amtendere omwe sali okonzekera ndipo sakuyembekeza kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Popeza nkhondoyi ndi yobisika, kupambana kumatsimikiziridwa mwa kulepheretsa anthu kukana.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo, akatswiri a bizinesi, ogwira ntchito zapadera, ndale, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale anthu wamba amagwiritsa ntchito njira zoletsedwa polankhulana ndi anthu kuti akwaniritse zolinga zawo. Wopweteka nthawi zambiri sakudziwa kuti ndi chinthu chanji chimene chimapangidwira. Khalani ogonjetsa kwambiri ndipo muchite zonse zomwe akufunikira. Komabe, mbali yotsalira ya ndalama ndikuti aliyense wa ife ali, mpaka pamlingo wina, wogwiritsira ntchito ndalama. Zoona, anthu ochepa chabe amadziwa izi.
Njira zothetsera anthu
- Kusokoneza chikondi.
- Kusokoneza maganizo.
- Kusokoneza mkwiyo.
- Kusokoneza mtendere.
- Kuthamangitsidwa kwachabechabe.
- Chisakasa kapena chisokonezo ndi zina zotero.
Njira zothetsera anthu:
- "Ngati mumakonda, ndiye ..." - mawu awa apangidwa kwa wokondedwa. Mwachitsanzo, amai nthawi zambiri amachititsa amuna . Kuyambira ali mwana, mantha a kutayika chikondi ndi kukanidwa ndi amphamvu kwambiri. Makolo ena amayesa kulamulira mwana wawo, kunena kuti "Ngati simumandimvera, zomwe ndikunena, ndikuleka kukukondani";
- Chimodzi mwa zokakamiza zowakomera mtima kwa munthu wapafupi ndikumangoganiza kuti ndi wolakwa. Nthawi zina, anthu omwe ali ndi nkhanza amakhala zaka zambiri ndikuganiza kuti ndizochitikadi, koma anthu oyandikana nawo sakufunanso kuwathandiza, ndipo sawamvera, komanso amakwiyitsa. Chifukwa chakuti wogwidwayo nthawizonse amakhala patsogolo pa dongosolo la banja. Munthu uyu amakhudza ena onse ndi chithandizo chodziimba mlandu. Patapita kanthawi, anthu omwe amagwira nawo ntchitoyi, amayamba kumvetsetsa ndi kuchitapo kanthu pakusokoneza mwaukali.
- Anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito otchedwa mkwiyo wamayesero akuyesera kukukakamizani kuti muwapatse;
- Munthu amayesetsa kuti azisamala pamene akufuna kuwonetsa aliyense mmene akumvera. Chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti mwasankha kuti vutoli ndi losafunika kwa iye. Anthu amene amangokhala chete popanda chifukwa chilichonse amalenga zinthu zomwe zingawononge maubwenzi. Kukhala chete, monga lamulo, kumawerengedwa kumapangitsa kudzidzimva kuti ndiwe wolakwa kotero kuti umvetsetse momwe munthu akumvera;
- Chovuta ndi kutsimikizira kuti simungakwanitse: "Mwinamwake simungathe ...", kapena, m'malo mwake, kutamandidwa, kunenedwa ndi kuyembekezera kukwaniritsa cholinga: "Mukusunga malipoti! Mwachidziwikiratu, ndipo zomwe ndikupereka, palibe amene angachite bwino kuposa iwe! ";
- Munthu (manipulator) nthawi yomweyo amasankha mawu osokoneza maganizo, ndemanga ndi mawu otsutsa, ovomerezedwa ndi ndemanga zopusa kapena nthabwala.
Psychology ya kugwiritsidwa kwa anthu ndi malo omwe akuphatikizapo njira zambiri, njira ndi njira. Panthaŵi ina, luso loyendetsa anthu linaimbidwa ndi Dale Carnegie. Koma kuti muteteze nokha, sikofunikira kuphunzira
- Yesetsani kusiyanitsa ndi mawu a interlocutor okhawo mfundo zomwe amavomereza. Choncho, mungasankhe chokhacho chofunikira ndikudumpha zowonjezera;
- Ngati simukukonda zokambiranazo, sintha nkhaniyo. Mwachitsanzo, nenani kuti mawa mudzaganiza za izo. Izi zidzakupatsani inu mwayi wosayesedwa;
- Ngati mutayankha ndikunyoza kapena kutsutsa, samanyalanyaza wogwiritsira ntchito. Nenani kuti simukufuna kufotokozera izi ndikusokoneza wogwiritsira ntchito.
Ndipo nthawi zina ndizokwanira kunena kwa wogwiritsira ntchito "no".
Ndipo kotero, kwa yemwe akugwiritsidwa ntchito, luso limeneli limapweteka, koma wogwiritsira ntchito ndi wopindulitsa kwambiri. Kotero muyenera kuphunzira kuzindikira zochitika, ndi bwino kuzigwiritsa ntchito.