Munthu wokhala ndi chikhalidwe ndi chodabwitsa lero. Ndipo mfundo yonse ndi yakuti lingaliro la "chikhalidwe" limaphatikizapo zofunikira zambiri, zomwe, mwatsoka, sizikugwirizana ndi aliyense wa ife. Tiyeni tione mtundu wa munthu wotchedwa chikhalidwe.
Chikhalidwe chamakono
Choyamba ndi chachikulu, munthu amene angatchedwe kuti ndi munthu wokhwima, ayenera kukhala ndi ulemu komanso ulemu. Malingaliro, maziko a khalidwe, ndizomene zimapangitsa munthu kukula. Izi sizinali chidziwitso chachibadwa chachibadwa. Amapezedwa ali ndi zaka, izi zimatiphunzitsidwa ndi makolo, sukulu, sukulu. Ndipotu, khalidwe labwino silinakhazikitsidwe pa malamulo opanda pake, opanda pake, koma pa maziko ofunika pamoyo. Kukwanitsa kuchita bwino kumawongolera ndi chikhalidwe chamtundu uliwonse.
Momwe mungakhalire munthu wokhwima?
Nchiyani chimatsimikizira lingaliro la chikhalidwe cha munthu? Ndikofunikira kulingalira zomwe zikutanthawuza za chikhalidwe, ndiyeno tidzaphunzira zomwe zikutanthauza kukhala chikhalidwe. Tiyeni tiwone makhalidwe apadera a chikhalidwe, chomwe chiyenera kukhala mwa ife.
- Zizindikiro zakunja. Amakumana ndi munthu, monga akunenera, pa zovala. Choyamba chimakhala chowonadi, choncho chikhalidwe cha anthu nthawi zonse chimakhala chooneka bwino, amavala moyenera, ali ndi malankhulidwe abwino, amadziwa malamulo ndi khalidwe la anthu;
- Makhalidwe a khalidwe. Makhalidwe apamwamba ndi makhalidwe a chikhalidwe cha munthu, chomwe chikhalidwe chake ndi umunthu wake ndi udindo, kukoma mtima, kulemekeza mwaulere, kupatsa ndi kudzipereka, zidzatha mphamvu ndi kuthetsa kudzidalira, kudzidalira. Zizindikiro za chikhalidwe, zomwe zimapangidwa ndi msinkhu komanso chidziwitso, zomwe zimayikidwa mmenemo ndi maphunziro, ziyenera kukhala ndi chiyeso ndi kulingalira, kulekerera, kusowa ulemu, kulemekeza ena, chifundo ndi chifundo, kufunitsitsa kuthandiza, kudzipatulira ndi kupereka nsembe;
- Kudzikonda. Ichi ndi chinthu chofunika kwambiri, chomwe chikhalidwe cha munthu chimatsimikiziridwa. Kukonzekera ndi maphunziro, chitukuko ndi chidziwitso cha dziko lapansi, kulemekeza chidziwitso ndi kutha kuyamikira zokongola, izi ndizo makhalidwe apamwamba a munthu omwe amadziwa chomwe chikhalidwe chiyenera kukhala. Kukwanitsa kulenga ndi kuyesetsa kudziwa zatsopano, kutseguka ku chirichonse chatsopano ndi chosadziwika, kufunitsitsa kuphunzira ndi chilakolako chokhazikika payekha kusiyanitsa chikhalidwe cha anthu ena.
- Kugwirizana ndi anthu. Izi zikutanthawuza kuthekera kugwirizana, kugwira ntchito mu timagulu, kugwira nawo ntchito yowonjezera, kukhala okhoza kudzimana okha chifukwa chapamwamba zolinga. Zizindikiro zomwe zimatsimikizira kuti ndi munthu uti yemwe angaganizidwe ndi chikhalidwe ndi kusowa kwa malonda, kukwanitsa kuika zofuna zawo pamunsi pa zolinga ndi zofuna zawo, kufunitsitsa kuthandizira ndi kuphunzitsa, kugawana zochitika zawo, chidziwitso
ndi luso, chilakolako chophunzira ndi kuphunzira kwa ena. - Kudzipereka kwa dziko lakwawo ndi chikhalidwe chake. Ichi ndi chizindikiro china chofunika cha chikhalidwe. Ndipotu, munthu amene sakudziwa za dziko lakwawo, mbiri yake, anthu, miyambo yachidziko sangathe kutchedwa chikhalidwe. Makhalidwewa makamaka amadalira maphunziro ndi maphunziro, kwa makolo komanso anthu omwe anakula. Komabe, chikhumbo chake cha chidziwitso chatsopano chikhoza kudziphunzitsa mwaulere munthu kuti achoke kwa iye.
Makhalidwe onse ndi zikhalidwe za chikhalidwe cha anthu ndi zovuta kuzilemba. Aliyense amatanthauza chinthu chosiyana pansi pa chikhalidwe ichi. Komabe, tayesera kukuwonetsani mbali zazikulu za chikhalidwe cha anthu, zomwe zingakhazikitsidwe kwathunthu ndi kuphunzitsidwa mwa inu nokha. Yesetsani kuchita bwino ndikukulitsa!