Munthu aliyense amaika tanthawuzo lake pamaganizo a zolinga zomwe ziri. Winawake amakhulupirira kuti izi ndizofunika kwambiri pa umunthu wa munthu wopambana, pamene ena amatsutsana - onetsetsani kuti izi ndi zokamba chabe ndipo palibe chomwe chimadalira zofuna, koma m'malo mosiyana. Kodi izi ndi zabwino kapena zoipa? Kodi amathandiza ndani, ndipo angakutsutsane liti?
Kodi cholinga cha munthu n'chiyani?
Anthu amabadwa ndi maluso ena komanso makhalidwe. Kulakalaka - kuli ndi makhalidwe angapo, khalidwe la munthu wina aliyense, lopangidwa kukhala wamkulu kapena wamng'ono. Kukula kwawo kumadalira chikhalidwe cha anthu panthawi yopanga umunthu, kutanthauza, kuyambira pa ubwino woyambirira wa ubwana mpaka kukonzekera kwathunthu umunthu. Anthu okonda kwambiri si onse omwe amalandira zonse mwakamodzi, mosiyana - amakwaniritsa cholinga chawo okha, sitepe ndi sitepe.
Chokhumba - ndi zabwino kapena zoipa?
Pofuna kupindula pang'ono kupambana, ndizofunikira kuti ayambe kuyenda, munthu ayenera kukhala ndi chikhumbo chochita zinthu, kumvetsetsa zomwe akusowa, kuona chiyembekezo choyamba. Choncho, munthu wofuna kutchuka ndi munthu amene akusunthira ku cholinga. Munthu aliyense ali ndi chochita ndi moyo. Anthu ena amangomanga "mapulani a Napoleonic", pamene ena ali ndi okwanira.
Kodi zolinga ndi ziti?
Palinso lingaliro monga malingaliro amaliseche, omwe amachititsa munthu amene amalankhula zambiri, amafuna chirichonse, amapanga ndondomeko zazikulu, koma amakhala pomwepo. Mlingo wa kusonyeza kudzikuza kumadalira umunthu wa munthu , malingaliro ake ozungulira zinthu ndi luso lofufuza zomwe zikuchitika. Chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kukwanitsa kuganizira osati kukwaniritsa zolinga zanu, komanso kuzindikira ngati izi sizikuvulaza ena. Pakati pa kukula kwa chilakolako pali mitundu yosiyanasiyana:
- overstated;
- pansi;
- maziko.
Zolinga zomveka
Ndikofunika kwambiri kuti muzindikire zolinga. Kuvomereza mokwanira zenizeni ndikufanizira mfundo - lonjezo la kudzidalira bwino pakati pa anthu, popititsa patsogolo makwerero a ntchito. Anthu omwe ali ndi zifukwa zodziwika nthawi zonse amadziwa bwino zomwe akufuna, amawerengera zinthuzo molondola (zomwe angathe), motero amakhala ndi mwayi waukulu pokwaniritsa zolinga zawo za moyo. Makhalidwe omwe amapeza mosavuta chinenero chofala ndi anthu kawirikawiri amachitira kutsutsa ndi uphungu. Sikuti zonse sizikutuluka nthawi yomweyo, koma kugwa, sizitsitsa manja awo, koma zimadzuka ndikuyenda molimba mtima ku cholinga.
Kusamalidwa mopambanitsa
Podzichepetsa, malingaliro aumwini a munthu adzakhalanso pansi. Mtundu uwu ukuwonetseredwa mwa mawonekedwe a kusowa ufulu, kusakhoza kudziwonetsera nokha. Anthu oterewa alibe chidziwitso chokhudza kusamuka. Iwo nthawi zambiri amadzipereka okha pakalipano ndikuyesa kupeĊµa mpata kuti atengepo mbali mu moyo wa anthu, komanso mwa iwo. Chithunzi cha khalidwe la "mbewa imvi". Monga lamulo, ndi munthu yemwe sangaoneke kapena kumva. Izi sizikutanthauza kuti anthu oterowo alibe zilakolako kapena zosowa, samangoyesa kuyesera kuti athetse mavuto.
Zofuna zapamwamba
Mtundu uwu ndi wapadera kwa anthu omwe ali odzidalira kwambiri. Zofuna zapamwamba kwambiri ndizofunikira kwambiri payekha ndi ena. Zambiri kwa ena. Munthu amaganizira kwambiri zolinga zake zomwe amaletsa kuzindikira zosowa za anthu ena. Khalidwe limeneli silipereka njira yoyenera yomanga ubale pakati pa anthu. Pamapeto pake amatsogolera kusungulumwa, kukangana, osakonda.
Kodi mungakonze bwanji zolinga za munthu?
Zofuna za anthu zimayikidwa m'mimba. Zonsezi zingakhudze kuwonjezeka kwa kudzidalira , ndi kukweza kapena kuchepetsa zofuna zanu nokha komanso dziko lozungulira. Zonsezi sizikutanthauza kuti simungathe kukhala ndi zilakolako pazaka zomwe zikudziwika. Kulongosola kwawo kolondola kumadalira pazinthu zambiri:
- chipembedzo;
- ndondomeko yamtengo wapatali yomwe idakhazikitsidwa ali mwana;
- zokhudzana ndi kupindula kwa anthu;
- chikoka cha anthu m'masukulu.
Ndikofunika kuti muzindikire bwino mphamvu zanu ndi mwayi wanu - ndiye simukuyenera kulingalira za funso la zolinga zomwe ziri. Ngati kudzidalira kuli pansi, muyenera kuwonjezera.
- Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kuyesa kuchita zomwe simunachitepo kale. Muyenera kukhulupirira kuti mudzapambana, nanunso. Zingakhale ngati kulumpha kwa parachute, ndi zina zochepa kwambiri komanso zowonjezera. Yesetsani kulemba ndakatulo, ngati simunachitepo kale, kapena kuphika chakudya chokoma, ngati kuwonjezera pa mazira simunapeze chilichonse.
- Ndikofunikira kupanga bwino kulingalira za luso lanu. Dzipatseni mtima ndikudzifanizira nokha ndi ena, onetsetsani kuti simuli oipitsitsa, komanso kuti angathe - mungathe, ndipo mwinamwake bwino. Samalani zomwe zapindula zomwe muli nazo ndikuganiza, ndi anthu angati omwe sangachite zomwe mwachita kale.
Mmene mungachepetsere chilakolako?
Zolinga zopanda thanzi zimawononga moyo osati kwa mbuye wawo okha, koma kwa onse ozungulira, makamaka pamene akugwirizana ndi mgwirizano pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, motero ndizofunikira kuti muzitha kuchita zinthu moyenera ndikudzipenda nokha. Kuwona zinthu kuchokera kumbali yina ndi kusankha ngati ndizo zomwe mukuyesera kuti mupeze chifukwa cha chimwemwe chanu kapena ngati mukuyenera kuyima ndikuyang'ana pozungulira kwa kanthawi, yesani chomwe chiri. Mwamsanga pamene kumvetsetsa kuti njira zambiri zingachepetse, malingaliro kwa dziko ndi ena adzasintha kwambiri ndipo maganizo a anthu adzasintha.
Motero, mapetowa akusonyeza kuti munthu wofuna kutchuka ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi zopanga zonse za moyo wabwino. Munthu aliyense amapita ku cholinga chake. Wina ali ndi banja, wina ali ndi udindo wapamwamba. Muyeso wa kulera kwawo ndi kulingalira kwa zoyenera, anthu onse ndi osiyana ndipo njira zothetsera zolingazo zidzasinthasintha. Chilakolako chachikulu sichili choipa. Chinthu chachikulu ndikutanthauzira zolondola ndi zochitika.