Nthawi zambiri kuvutika maganizo kumabweretsa ife kuposa zovuta zathupi. Mwachitsanzo, kudzidzimva kwodzidzimutsa - kumatizunza, kuchititsa kuvutika. Koma ndizofunikira kusiyanitsa pakati pa boma pamene tilidi olakwa pazochitikazo, komanso kuti tili ndi mlandu wopanda pake. Mmene tingachotsere kumverera kolakwa pa nkhani yachiwiri ndipo tidzamvetsa.
Zomwe zimayambitsa kuweruzidwa
Kumverera kolakwa, ngakhale sikungayambidwe ndi zochita za konkire, nthawizonse zimayambitsa. Nazi zambiri mwa iwo:
- Kawirikawiri pali kudzidzimva pamaso pa makolo, omwe nthawi zambiri amayamba muubwana. Makolo amatiuza kuti ndife abwino komanso chifukwa chake tikuopa kuti tisagwirizane ndi zomwe tikuyembekeza. Ndipo, ngati chinachake sichikugwira ntchito, ndiye kuti timayamba kudzipangitsa tokha, kudzimva kuti ndife olakwa pamaso pa makolo athu, omwe achita zochuluka kwambiri kuti tikhale ndi zonse bwino, ndipo tachita zinthu izi molakwika. Palinso chinthu china choopsa kwambiri, chomwe makolo amachitira akamabweretsa - mwanayo nthawizonse amakhala ngati chitsanzo cha munthu wolemera. Kukula, munthu wotere akupitiriza kulandira kuchokera kwa makolo ake malangizo ndi zitsanzo za anthu ena opambana, makolo samabisala chifukwa chakuti sangathe kukula ndi bizinesi yabwino, kuwala kwa sayansi, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo lingaliro lodziimba mlandu, lolimidwa ndi makolo achikondi kuyambira ali mwana, sichimawoneka kulikonse, limazunza munthu moyo wake wonse.
- Zimakhalanso zovuta kuthana ndi kudziimba mlandu chifukwa cha wakufayo. Ndipotu, munthu sangakhale wolakwa chifukwa cha imfa ya wokondedwa wake, koma adakali ndi mlandu. Kawirikawiri kumverera uku kumawoneka kuti kuli ndi zomveka zomveka, mwachitsanzo, "ngati sindinapemphe kuti ndipite ku sitolo madzulo, sakanatha kugwa pa staircase wakuda ndipo sakanamwalira mpaka imfa."
- Mu mawonekedwe a kumverera uku, zolakwika ndi zikhalidwe za khalidwe zomwe tapatsidwa kwa ife zingakhalenso zolakwa. Kuchita chinthu chosemphana ndi malamulo a khalidwe (sitikuyankhula za milandu pakalipano, ndithudi,), timayamba kumva kuti tili ndi mlandu, timachita manyazi ndi zomwe tachita. Ngakhale kuti zingakhale, mwachizolowezi, prank yopanda chilungamo. Pankhaniyi, munthu amakhala ndi nkhawa komanso kudzidandaula. Zonse zomwe zikunenedwa, amatenga payekha ndalama, malingaliro onse okutuka, zizindikiro zonse zimaonedwa ngati harbingers of trouble.
- Chinthu chovuta kwambiri ndicho kuchotsa malingaliro a kulakwa omwe anthu ena amatipatsa! Pali mtundu wa anthu omwe sadziwa kuvomereza zolakwitsa zawo, nthawi zonse amatsutsa ena. Ndipo izi ndi zokhutiritsa kuti munthu ayamba kukhulupirira kuti mu zolephera zonse ndi anthu ena amodzi yekha ali ndi mlandu.
Mmene mungachotsere kulakwitsa kwanu nthawi zonse
Kukhala ndi malingaliro a kulakwa ndi kovuta kwambiri, kotero yesani kuchotsa izo. Nazi malingaliro okuthandizani kuti muchite izi:
- Kupenda modekha kwa zinthu zomwe zikuchitika tsopano kudzakuthandizani kuthetseratu malingaliro olakwa. Muyenera kuganizira mosamala, kuti mumvetsetse podziwa kuti ndinu wolakwa ndipo muwone bwinobwino ngati muli ndi mlandu pa zomwe zinachitika kapena izi. Ngati simukutero, ndiye kuti kudzimva kukhala wolakwa kungakhale kopanda pake. Ngati, pakali pano, vuto lanu liripo, sikungakhale zodabwitsa kudzilonjeza nokha kuti m'tsogolomu mudzakhala osamala powerengera zochita zanu. Lembani nokha kuti izi sizidzachitika kachiwiri, koma lolani vuto lipite.
- Mu ubwana ife tinaphunzitsidwa momwe tingagwirire ndi kudzimvera chisoni, pokhala wamkulu njira iyi imagwiranso ntchito. Tiyenera kupempha mowona mtima chikhululuko kuchokera kwa munthu amene mumamuimba mlandu. Ngati palibe njira yomufotokozera izi, ndiye tangolingalirani fano la munthu uyu kapena kufotokoza zonse zomwe mumamva pa chithunzi chake. Anthu achipembedzo nthawi zambiri amathandizidwa poyendera tchalitchi, kuvomereza, kupempherera munthu wolakwiridwa.
- Ndani sakonda anthu apamtima akutithandiza kuthana ndi mavuto? Pankhani ya kudziimba mlandu, thandizo lawo silingakhale lopanda pake. Kambiranani ndi munthu amene mumamukhulupirira, zomwe zachitika, zenizeni. Nthawi zina sitimasowa chikhululukiro chochuluka, koma ndi mwayi wokhawuza wina zomwe takumana nazo.
- Njira yabwino yothetsera kudzimvera chisoni ndiyo kufotokoza chilichonse chomwe chimakukhumudwitsani pamapepala. Pambuyo pazilembazo ziyenera kuwerengedwanso, ndiyeno uwotche tsamba kapena kulidula mu zidutswa zing'onozing'ono ndikuchotseni.
- Ngati mutayesa njira zonse, koma kulakwitsa sikukuganiza kuti mubwerere, ndiye kuti mupemphe thandizo kwa katswiri. Katswiri wa zamaganizo adzakuthandizani kuthetsa vutoli.