Yankho la funso la chikondi chochuluka chimakhala mu maubwenzi, ziwerengero sizipereka chiyembekezo - pafupifupi zaka zitatu, kenako 45% mwa awiriwa akugwa. Komabe, ziphunzitso zatsopano zikuwonekera nthawizonse, kufotokoza chomwe chikondi chiri, komanso nthawi yomwe imatsimikizira.
Kodi chikondi chimakhala mpaka liti m'banja?
Kuchokera pamalingaliro a thupi, chikondi chimachokera ku "malo ogulitsa" omwe amalowa m'magazi, omwe amachititsa chisokonezo cha malingaliro, kusowa tulo , kupweteka, chikhalidwe chokoma ndi zizindikiro zina zakumverera. Chikhalidwe ichi chachikondi chimangokhala kanthawi kochepa - mpaka miyezi isanu ndi umodzi. Ndipo ngati okondedwa pambuyo pa nthawiyi akhalabe limodzi, zosiyana mozama za maganizo zikuphatikizidwa.
Nthawi zambiri, funso la chikondi chochuluka, limayesa kuyankha maganizo. Akatswiri amasiyanitsa zigawo zingapo za chikondi, zomwe zimatsatizana:
- chikondi, chilakolako - siteji iyi imakhalapo masiku angapo mpaka masabata angapo, imadziwika ndi zovuta zokhudzana ndi chinthu chokhumba, cholephera kuganiza za chinthu china (chitsanzo chodziwika kwambiri cha chilakolako chotere - Romeo ndi Juliet);
- Chikondi chokhazikika ndi nthawi yayitali, chokhazikika kuyambira miyezi ingapo mpaka zaka 1.5-2, chodziwika ndi maonekedwe a malonda, pamene wokondedwa akuyembekeza kuti chokhumbacho chidzagwirizana ndi zilakolako zake;
- kusintha kwa chikondi - gawoli limakhala zaka 1-2, lodziwika ndi kuchepa kwa zilakolako ndi chikhumbo chokhala pamodzi nthawi zonse, chidaliro, chikondi, chilakolako chogonjera chimayamba kulimbikitsa chiyanjano;
- chikondi - gawoli likhoza kukhala kwa zaka zambiri, ngati kumvetsetsa, kulemekezana ndi ubale kumalamulira pakati pa okondedwa, mgwirizano pa malo awa siwongopangidwa ndi mahomoni, koma pachigwirizano ndi kusungidwa ndi chiwerewere.
Kodi chikondi chimakhala kutali bwanji?
Chikondi patali sungatchedwe kumverera kwamba, komabe nthawi zambiri kumatenga nthawi yayitali kusiyana ndi mgwirizano wa banja. Anthu omwe amakonda chikondi patali akhoza kugawa m'magulu awiri:
- "Fanatki" - kawirikawiri gululi limaphatikizapo atsikana omwe ali ndi chilakolako cha mauthenga;
- okondedwa, akukhala mosiyana, koma nthawi ndi nthawi kukomana - muzochitikazi mabanja ambiri amakono akugwa, omwe ayenera kukhala okhutira ndi banja "kutalika" kapena ubale weniweni.
Chikondi cha "fanatok" sichitha kwa nthawi yaitali chifukwa chosatheka kukhumudwa chifukwa cha chikondi, chifukwa sichikumana naye. Ubale wotero uli pamtundu wina, ndipo ukhoza kuwachotsa kokha mwa kukonda ndi munthu wamba.
Kukhalitsa okhaokha okonda amakhala ndi ubwino woposa mabanja wamba - samalumbira chifukwa cha nkhani za tsiku ndi tsiku, msonkhano uliwonse uli wofanana ndi tchuthi. Ndicho chifukwa chake maubwenzi otero ndi olimba. Komabe, pakadali pano, panali "ziphuphu" - ngati banjali liyamba kukhala pamodzi palimodzi, mikangano pakati pawo idzakhala yovuta kwambiri kuposa ya mabanja,
Kodi chikondi chimatha nthawi yaitali bwanji?
Malingana ndi chiwerengero, patapita zaka 10 zakubadwa, mabanja okwana 70% amasokonezeka. Ndipo nthawi zonse anthu okwatirana nthawi imodzi safuna kupatukana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti mmodzi mwa okwatirana akupitiriza kukonda. Chikondi chimenechi chikhoza kukhala kwa zaka zambiri, chifukwa chikwati pazochitikazi ndizosakwanira. Ndi njira zosatha, kapena gestalt, akatswiri a maganizo amagwira ntchito, kuthandizira kuthetsa vutoli, komanso chifukwa cha wantchito - nkhawa, nkhawa, mavuto, ndi zina zotero. Atalandira thandizo la katswiri wa zamaganizo, munthu akhoza kuchotsa chikondi chosayenera atatha kupatukana ndikuyamba moyo watsopano, ndipo, mwamsanga zichitika, bwino.