Nthawi zina, mutapanga chisankho chokhalira limodzi ndi wokondedwa wanu, mumapitiriza kulankhula naye, kukomana ndi nthawi zina kugonana. Zimagwirizanitsa anthu ambiri, ndipo amazitcha ubale wawo, pamene ena amafuna kusiya kulankhula ndi munthu wakale kamodzi kapena ayi, kapena kuti, kuti akhalebe mabwenzi ake. Kuti mutha kumvetsa kapena ayi, muyenera kuganizira njira iliyonse.
Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani mutatha kugawa?
Kuti mutakhala ndi mwayi woganizira zonse ndikupeza ziganizo, ndiye mutangokhalira kuyanjana, musakhale ndi chiyanjano chilichonse ndi omwe kale munkakonda. Pambuyo panthawi yopuma, mumvetsetsa ngati mukufunikira kulankhulana ndi munthu wina wakale kapena kuti mungamufunse nthawi ina iliyonse. Ngati mutasweka popanda kunyoza ndi chidani, ndipo panthawi ina mumadziwa kuti simuli panjira, simukusowa misonkhano, kukambirana ndi zina zotere. Ngati simukuikapo mfundo m'mbuyomo, ndiye kuti ubale watsopano sudzawonekera m'moyo wanu.
Kodi ubwenzi ungatheke?
Nthawi zina chibwenzi chimathera kuti abwenzi akhalebe mabwenzi, koma kodi pali malingaliro otere aubwenzi woteroyo komanso nthawi yayitali yotereyi idzatha bwanji. Kwenikweni, mu ubale wotere munthu wina ndi wochezeka, ndipo winayo akupitiriza kukonda ndipo kwa iye ndiko mwayi wokha, kuti asayambe kucheza ndi wokondedwa. Pankhaniyi, mwinamwake, palibe mgwirizano umene sudzakhala wogwira ntchito, osati wachikondi kapena wochezeka. Makamaka pakuwonekera kwachilakolako chatsopano mwa amodzi omwe kale anali okonda, nsanje imawonekera mu ubale, ndipo ndiye ndithudi iyenera kusankha chikondi kapena ubwenzi ndi yemwe kale anali wokondedwa. Kawirikawiri, ubwenzi umenewu udzatha posachedwa.
Pakati panu muli zambiri zofanana
Nthawi zina, kupatula kukonda ubale, mumakhala mbali zina za moyo, mwina, ntchito kapena malonda. Ndikofunika kuti mvetserani kugwirizana ndikukhala pansi pa "gulu la zokambirana" kuti musataye zomwe zachitika kwa nthawi yaitali. Ngati mulibe zodandaula, ndiye kuti zonse zidzatha, ndipo kukhala ndi wina ndi mzake kudzakhala kosavuta, ndipo chinthu chachikulu ndikusunga chifukwa. Ngati muphatikizidwa ndi mwana, ndiye kuti mumadzikakamiza kuti muyankhule ndi wokwatirana naye kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino wa mwana wanu. Pambuyo pake, mwanayo akuyenerera kuti ali ndi amayi ndi abambo omwe amamukonda.
Ubale Waulere
Nthawi zina pali mabanja omwe amagawanika, koma nthawi ndi nthawi amakumana ndi kugonana. Izi ndi zochitika ziwiri. Kuwonjezera apo, kuti munthu wakale amadziwa zizoloŵezi zanu ndi zilakolako zanu bwino ndipo amatha kukondweretsa, koma kuchepetsa kugonana koteroko ndikofunika kwambiri. Kugonana ndi okalamba sikungakupatseni mwayi woyambitsa chiyanjano china ndikupeza chikondi chatsopano. Malingana ndi ziwerengero, chilakolako pakati pa omwe anali okonda chikhoza kuwuka patatha miyezi inayi. Kawirikawiri ubale wotere umabweretsa zochitika zatsopano komanso zowopsya. Pambuyo pa mvula yamkuntho ndi munthu amene kale anali wokonda, kukumbukira mikangano ndi ziphuphu zidzathamanganso, ndipo mudzamva zowawa.
Koma pali zosiyana, kamodzinso kukomana, abwenzi, kumvetsa kuti iwo alakwitsa kwakukulu,
Kodi pamapeto otani?
Ndikofunika kuima ndi kumvetsa zomwe mukufuna kulandira kuchokera ku moyo komanso kuchokera ku mabwenzi ndi akale. Ngati mukum'kondabe, ndiye kuti mwayankhula naye mosiyana, misonkhano nthawi ndi nthawi imabweretsa ululu komanso mavuto. Ndi bwino kuvutika, kudwala ndi kuika mfundo ya mafuta mu nkhaniyi. Mwa njira iyi mungathe kubwera, pumulani ndi kukanika. Chifukwa cha ichi, mudzakhala wokonzeka kukumana ndi chikondi chatsopano, malingaliro atsopano ndi ubale watsopano watsopano ndi munthu wina.