Ubale uli ngati chotengera chosasunthika chomwe chimangowonongeka ndi moyo wosasangalatsa tsiku ndi tsiku ndi moyo wosasangalatsa tsiku ndi tsiku. Monga momwe mwambi wakale umati: "Chilichonse chimayenda, chirichonse chimasintha", ndipo chiyanjano apa sichiri chosiyana, chiyenera kusintha.
Si chinsinsi kuti pali "masiku ovuta" omwe akugwera nthawi zovuta kwambiri, pamene maubwenzi amatha kugwa kapena kukula. Ndipo kulumikiza kwakukulu kwa nthawi "yoopsa" imeneyi ndikutuluka kwa funso la momwe mungasinthire maubwenzi.
Udindo waukulu pa kuyambira kwa mitundu yosiyanasiyana mu maubwenzi wapatsidwa kwa mkazi: pambuyo pake, iye ali ndi zida zazikulu zogwiritsa ntchito luso, luso ndi luso. Koma, ngakhale zili choncho, munthu ayenera kutenga nawo gawo pa kukonzanso maganizo.
Zosiyanasiyana zingathe kutsatiridwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana: woona mtima ndi wosakhulupirika, koma lamulo lalikulu apa ndilo kukhala wochenjera komanso kukhala ndi chikhumbo chofuna kusintha. Kotero, ndizozoloŵera: yambani kubwezeretsanso chiyanjano!
Kodi mungagwirizanitse bwanji kugonana?
Zosintha zonse zomwe zimayambira mu moyo wa kugonana, ziyenera kukwaniritsa zofuna za onse awiri. Choncho, musanayambe "kugonana kwachitukuko", yesetsani kukonzekera kwa wokonda. Ndibwino kuti tichite mwamseri kwa iye, ndikukonzekera zodabwitsa. Kumbukirani kuti kudzikonda pa kugonana si malo abwino kwambiri: kuti mutenge chinachake, muyenera choyamba kupereka chinachake, choncho pitani patsogolo, ndipo mukwaniritse zokhumba zake zenizeni, ndipo dikirani "kusuntha."
Masewerawa ndi chilengedwe cha munthu aliyense. Patsiku lonse, timayesetsa maudindo ambiri: amayi, ogwira naye ntchito, mkazi, mdani, bwenzi, ndi zina zotero. Bwanji osawonjezera wina: sankhani chithunzi (namwino, mtsikana wokongola, mwana wamasiye wokonda kwambiri, msungwana wopanda nzeru, etc.), sintha zovala ndi kuziwonetsa bwino. Sewani mwachibadwa, kusintha, chifukwa amuna ndi mitala.
Kuwonjezera "tsabola" mukhoza kumangirira manja, kubisa khungu, kugonana m'malo osayenera.
Langizo: Poyerekezera ndi chilakolako chanu chogonana, yang'anani mumakompyuta ake pa mbiri ya malo ochezera (kapena m'mabuku a mabuku): nthawi zina munthu aliyense amabwera pamasamba ndi zovuta zomwe amalemba ndikuwona zomwe zimamukondweretsa kwambiri. Ngati muli ndi mwayi woti mupeze, ndiye kuti nkhaniyi ingatengedwe ngati maziko ndikugwiritsidwa ntchito pamoyo wanu.
Kodi mungasokoneze bwanji ubale wanu?
Musanayambe kufotokoza zosiyana mu ubale wa banja, sankhani zomwe sakusowa: chilakolako, ubwenzi wauzimu, mgwirizano, ndi zina zotero. Izi ziyenera kukhala maziko a njira yotsitsimutsa.
Ngati ubale ukuthamangitsidwa tsiku ndi tsiku, pitani malo osangalatsa. Yambani ndi ulendo wapanyumba ku cinema madzulo ndikukonzekera chikondi. Ngakhale m'matawuni ang'onoang'ono muli maofesi apanyumba: pitani kumapeto kwa mlungu kunja kwa mzinda ndikupanga maulendo ang'onoang'ono. Kukonzanso maganizo ndi maziko a kukonzanso kwa ubale.
Ngati mukumva kuti muli osiyana mwauzimu, muvomereze kuwerenga bukuli palimodzi, ndiyeno mukambirane, pitirizani kuwona mtima, ndi makhalidwe ena abwino.
Kwa banja linali logwirizana, lowetsani mwambo. Mwachitsanzo, Loweruka usiku palimodzi mupite kukayenda kapena penyani mafilimu, pemphani anzanu kuti muwachezere. Ndikofunika kuti izi zitheke palimodzi.
Kodi mungasokoneze motani ubale wa banja ndi "chidziwitso"?
Anthu omwe akhala ndi denga limodzi ndikudziwa mbali zonse za wina ndi mzake, zingawoneke kuti kudabwa ndi mnzanu ndi ntchito yosatheka. Komabe, izi sizowonjezereka, zimakhala zosavuta kuti azichita izi kusiyana ndi mabanja ang'onoang'ono, chifukwa pa nthawiyi anthu amadziwana bwino. Chitsanzo chachikhalidwe: mwamuna amakonda kuwedza. Vomerezani kwa iye mwachikondi, mutseke maso ndi kukhala mu galimoto. Musanene kumene mukumugwira, chifukwa kumeneko ayenera kuyembekezera zodabwitsa: chihema chomangidwa pa banki ndi abwenzi. Ngati zodabwitsa zikukonzedwa molondola, ndiye kuti zonse zidzakhala zabwino. Pothandizidwa ndi zodabwitsa zoterezi, tifunika kukonzanso maubwenzi omwe amatha zaka zoposa khumi.
Kodi mungasinthe motani maganizo a banja lachinyamata?
Choyamba, vuto la kukhalitsa kanthawi kochepa ndiloti abwenzi sadziwa bwino bwino, choncho mwayi woti kudabwa kungakhale kovuta. Komabe, izi zimafunika kupulumutsidwa, choncho, chiwopsezo chili choyenera, choncho timayesetsa molimba mtima ku njira imodzi:
- Zoopsa: timatsogolera wokondedwa kukwera rollerblades, skates, njinga, ndi zina;
- Tikuitanira ku filimu kuti tiyambe kujambula filimu yoopsya kwambiri usiku uliwonse;
- Njira yamtendere kwambiri: timaphika chakudya pamodzi.
Pano cholinga chachikulu ndicho kukhazikitsa chiyanjano cha maganizo ndi mnzanuyo. Pambuyo pake, zimachitika kuti kupsompsona koyamba kunapezeka, zikhomo zamanyazi zili kale gawo la maulendo anu onse, koma chinachake chikusoweka mu chiyanjano, phokoso limodzi. Mabanja ena amayamba kubwezeretsa "chilakolako chokhazikika" ndi zowopsya, kuti mwatsatanetsatane. Komabe, njira yabwino kwambiri ndikutengera mtima wolimba pamodzi ndi njira imodzi.
Monga momwe chiwonetsero chimasonyezera, pali njira zambiri zowonjezera maubwenzi, koma kuti zitheke ziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito nthawi zonse.