Chikondi kapena chikondi?

Kumverera kwa munthu wina ndikosavuta kumangopanikiza maganizo kusiyana ndi kulingalira. Bwanji ngati panali kukayikira za chikhalidwe cha ubalewu? M'nkhaniyi, tidzamvetsetsa momwe chikondi chimasiyanirana ndi chigwirizano.

Tiyeni tiyambe ndi matanthauzo omveka:

Chikondi ndikumverera kosagwirizana ndi munthu wina, osati kukhumudwitsa maganizo ndi zolinga. Chikhumbo choyera ndi chopepuka cha chisangalalo kwa wokondedwa.

Chothandizira ndikumverera mwachidziwitso kwa munthu wina. Zimayambitsa zowawa: mantha a kutayika, kudalira, kupweteka, ndi zina zotero. Kumverera kwa nsanje kwa wina kapena mzake kuyembekezera kwa munthu wina.

Tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti palibenso mgwirizano "woyera" mwakutanthauzira. Kaŵirikaŵiri timakhala ndi chisakanizo cha zonse ziwiri.

Nthawi zina pali zifukwa zolakwika zokhudzana ndi chiyanjano cholimba kuposa chikondi. Ubale wa nthawi yayitali umakhala wochuluka ndi misonkhano ndi zizoloŵezi - zimapangitsa chidwi cha mtima. Ndizomveka kuganiza kuti mwa kupereka mphamvu kwa munthu wina kwa nthawi ndithu, mumaphatikizapo m'gulu la zofunika kwambiri.

Kodi mungasiyanitse bwanji chikondi ndi chikondi? Funso lomwelo kale likuchitira umboni pa lingaliro lomaliza. Chizindikiro china ndizovuta maganizo, sizili m'chikondi.

Kukwanitsa chikondi kumaperekedwa kwa munthu kuchokera kubadwa, monga talente. Koma kuti mumvetsetse kumverera uku, kuti mubweretse kukwanitsa kwanu kukonda ungwiro ndi ntchito ya moyo wonse. Kuphatikizapo, ndikofunika kuphunzira kumvetsetsa bwino kusiyana pakati pa chida ndi chikondi. Tiyenera kumvetsetsa kuti aliyense amatanthauza "chikondi" chawo chokha. Njira yabwino yopewera kugwa kwa zilakolako ndi nkhawa ndi kukambirana malingaliro anu ndi mnzanuyo.

Pa funso: momwe ndingamvetsetse, ndimapeza chikondi kapena chikondi - akatswiri a maganizo amaganiza kuti apeze yankho mothandizidwa ndi zochitika zotsatirazi. Muyenera kuganiza kuti inu ndi mnzanuyo mwathyoka kale, ndipo tsopano mukukumbukira za maubwenzi amenewo. Zomwe akukumbukira: chimwemwe cha kukhalapo kwa munthu uyu m'moyo wanu kapena kumverera kokhumudwa kwa kudalira ndi zoyembekeza zogwirizana ndi izo? Chizoloŵezi china: muyenera kulingalira ochepa chabe kwa inu mu "chipinda cha chikondi." N'zosavuta kuona zithunzi, mayanjano ndi zinthu zomwe zimabwera m'maganizo, kuzilemba kapena kuzijambula. Mudzamvetsa m'mene mumamvera za munthu kapena munthu ameneyo.

Yankho la funsolo, kaya chikondi chingatchedwe chikondi, ndi khalidwe la munthuyo mwiniyo. Wokonda, nthawi zonse amakhala wotanganidwa, ndipo womangidwa ndi mwiniwake, akhoza kukhala ndi wamwano.