Mayankho omveka a funsoli angapezeke kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, bwanji osanena kuti amuna sakufuna kukwatira, chifukwa akuwopa kutaya ufulu wawo? Kapena bwanji osangowonjezera kuti amuna sakufuna kukwatira, chifukwa sakufuna kumangidwa ndi munthu mmodzi yekha? Pomaliza, bwanji osavomereza kuti amuna sakufuna kukwatira chifukwa chakuti kale ali ndi banja losapambana?
Komabe, ndekha ndikusokonezeka ndi izi. Nthawi zonse panali maukwati osagonjetsa, nthawizonse bamboyo ankawoneka ngati mitala, ndipo nthawi zonse ankafuna kuti akhalebe ndi ufulu. Komabe, anakwatira, anali ndi ana, ndipo anatenga udindo kwa banja lake. Kafukufuku akunena kuti anthu akhala akuyesetsa kuti asagwirizane ndi maubwenzi apamtima pa zaka makumi anayi zokha - powasankha kuti ndizosavuta kuti azikhala pamodzi.
Kunyalanyaza mayankho omwe ali pamwambawa chifukwa cha chifukwa chomwe amuna sakufuna kukwatira, ndikupereka zanga, kuyambira pa "cohabitation". Kapena, monga momwe zilili zotheka tsopano kuti zizimveka, - "ukwati wachikwati". Ine ndikhoza kumvetsa kuti pa nthawi ya NEP, ogwira ntchito za mgwirizano ogwirizanitsa ogwirizanitsa ntchito zamagulu amtundu wotsekedwa womangidwa, pambuyo pake, ukwati wapachiweniweni unasokonezedwa ndi maziko a bourgeois. Dziko lina, nthawi ina. Koma ndifotokozereni chifukwa chake kumakhala kosakanikirana ndi atsikana amakono.
Ndikumvetsa pamene mwamuna woyenerera amawala mozungulira koloko. Koma kuti muvutike ndi maola 24 patsiku kukuphwanyidwa kwa munthu wosaloledwa yemwe nthawi iliyonse akhoza kutha, ndipo kwa ndani muyenera kusamba ndi kusunga zovala zamkati panthawi yomweyo?
Ay! Atsikana okondeka, akazi okondedwa, madona aakazi! Musakhale wopezeka mosavuta - kuti musagwedeze ubongo wanu usiku chifukwa chake sakufuna kukwatira. Mwamuna sanayamikire zomwe zinali zosavuta kuti achite.
Inu simungakhoze kulingalira kuti ndi angati amuna a mibadwo yosiyana adavomereza kwa ine kuti iwo anasankha akazi awo chifukwa iwo sanakhalire nawo iwo usiku woyamba wa chiyanjano chawo. Kodi mukuganiza kuti izi ndizodabwitsa? Ndipo chifukwa chiyani? Lero, amuna sakufuna kukwatirana ndi akazi omwe ali ofunika monga momwe iwo sanafunire kuchita zaka mazana awiri zapitazo, chifukwa chibadwa cha anthu sichimasintha!
Tangoganizirani momwe wina amandinyamulira ndipo theka amamunyoza mnzanga: "Ndipo mtundu wa pronephthalenewu unachoka pachifuwa chiti?" Chabwino, palibe chomwe chidzagwa pamapiko anga, kotero ndikupitiriza.
Ngati mwamuna sakufuna kukwatiwa
Kodi limenelo ndi funso? Kodi mungachite chiyani ngati mwamuna sakufuna kukwatira, ngakhale mutakhala limodzi kwa zaka zambiri? Sungani manja ake ndikumutumizira kumalo komwe akuwonekera. (Musaiwale kuti mumupatse mankhwala opangira mano ndi kumeta zitsulo kotero kuti alibe chifukwa choti akuvutitseni kachiwiri). Koperani zinthu zanu mu suti yanu yamtengo wapatali, ponyani makiyi anu awiri kuchokera ku khonde la nyumba yanu, tulukani ndikuti: "Ndine mfulu!"
Ngati mukuganiza kuti mwamuna uyu sakufuna ndipo sadzakwatirana, bwanji mwataya moyo wanu pa iye? Mwamuna akhoza kukhala ndi ana m'ma 60 ndi 80. Mbadwo wa chilengedwe wa mkazi ndi wochepa kwambiri. Koma ngakhale simukufuna kukhala ndi ana (zomwe ndikukaikira), bwanji munaponya mwayi wawo, odziwa bwino, misonkhano yatsopanoyi ndi mwayi wokwatira, kuti mukhale nawo ngati muli mfulu? Munkafuna kukhala ndi mwamuna ndi inu, osati wokhala naye kapena wokonda, ngati simungapemphe chifukwa chake sangakwatirane naye. Si choncho?
Koma chonde musandiuze kuti mumamukonda. Chikondi chimaphatikizapo kufanana kwa mzimu ndi kumverera, mwinamwake ndiko kudalira kolakwika.
Chifukwa chiyani sakufuna kukwatira?
Chifukwa chiyani? Ngati mukukhala pamodzi, sakufuna kukwatirana ndi inu chifukwa chapafupi kuti sakuwona mfundoyi. Kodi chidzasintha - kupatulapo sitimayo imodzi idzawonjezeredwa pasipoti? Amuna nthawi zambiri samakwatirana ndi amayi omwe akhala nawo panjodzi kwa zaka zambiri. Kotero, pakadali pano, kudodometsedwa chifukwa chake iye, msilikali, sakusakwatirana ndi inu mwanjira iliyonse, sikuyenera kukhala.
Ndimadziwa zoposa chitsanzo chimodzi, pamene msungwana mwiniwakeyo adadzimangirira mumsampha wokhala pamodzi ndi anzake, nthawi zambiri amadzifunsanso chifukwa chake mnyamata sakufuna kukwatira. Mu zaka khumi ndi zisanu ndi ziwiri, mnyamata wamng'ono uyu adasanduka mnyamata yemwe adadziwana naye ndipo adayamba banja ndi wosankhidwa wina. Ndipo mtsikana wake wakale - nthawi yayitali sanalibenso mtsikana - mwadzidzidzi anazindikira kuti mkazi wazaka 35 wokwatira amakhala wovuta kwambiri kusiyana ndi zaka 25.
Ngati simukukhala pamodzi, komatu kambiranani kwa zaka zambiri - ndiye ndikufunseni funso lotsatira. Kodi zinakuchitikirani kuti ngati mwamuna sakufuna kukwatiwa ndi mkazi aliyense, kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti iye sakonda mkazi uyu?
... Sindimamvetsa kuti ndi ndani ndipo n'chifukwa chiyani anthu sakufuna kukwatiwa? Inde, iwo amakondana, ndithudi, amakwatira, ndithudi, ali ndi ana. Ndipo pakati pa abwenzi anga ndi achinyamata omwe ali okwatirana, omwe amuna amachitira nawo akazi awo. Kodi chinsinsi n'chiyani? Amuna amakonda akazi omwe amadzikonda okha. Ndipo ndani, poyankha pempho lakuti: "Tiyeni tikhale pamodzi!" Pewani mapewa awo ndikuyankha kuti: "Chifukwa chiyani? Ngati tikwatirana, ndiye kuti tidzakhala pamodzi. "