Kwa anthu ambiri kwa zaka zambiri amakhulupirira kuti mwamuna ayenera kukhala wamphamvu. Ndipotu, n'zovuta kwambiri kuti akazi ngati amuna amphamvu, ndipo aliyense akufuna kuwona munthu pafupi ndi inu, kotero mutha kudalira pa iye, kuiwala za chisoni chonse ndi nkhawa ndi kupumula, kudalira paphewa la munthu wodalirika ndi wamphamvu.
Mwamuna wamphamvu wamphamvu ndi wotsimikizika, wogwira ntchito ndi wopitilira. Ndi iye simungachite mantha ndi kukhala mkazi wofooka. Kwa zaka zambiri, mwamuna yemwe amagonana naye mwachilungamo amamupangitsa kukhala woyang'anira ana komanso okwatirana, kulimba mtima kuthetsa mavuto ndi mphamvu zogwirira ntchito.
Lero, anthu ambiri okwatirana angathe kupatulidwa kukhala mitundu iwiri ya mgwirizanowu:
- mkazi wamphamvu ndi munthu wamphamvu. Pali njira yotereyi yosawerengeka, chifukwa oimira abambo amphamvu nthawi zambiri amadziteteza okha. Atsogoleri awiri sadzagawanitsa gawo limodzi ndipo nthawi zonse adzamenyera nkhondo. Koma ngati mayi angafune, ngakhale kuti nthawi zina amawoneka ofooka, mgwirizano ukhoza kukhala wopambana;
- mwamuna wamphamvu ndi mkazi wofooka. Mabwana awiriwa ndi ofanana kwambiri. Mayi wotsogoleredwa samadzipangitsa kutsogolera, ndipo mwamuna kapena mkazi wake amadziona yekha kuti ndi mwamuna wamphamvu kwambiri pambali pake.
Zoonadi, moyo ndi amuna amphamvu uli kutali ndi mtambo. Amakhalanso ndi zofooka zazikulu zomwe mkazi ayenera kuziyika, zomwe zimawoneka zachikondi panthawi ya chibwenzi, zitha kukhumudwitsa mu moyo pamodzi.
Zoipa za amuna amphamvu
- Munthu wamphamvu amadzimva yekha kukhala mutu wa banja ndi wobwera naye, kotero kuyesa kudzidzimva kumawoneka ngati chinthu chomwe mkazi sakhulupirira mwa iye. Patapita nthawi, mkaziyo pang'onopang'ono amapewa mwayi wogwira ntchito, kuphunzira, kukomana ndi abwenzi ake, amasangalala popanda mwamuna kapena mkazi wake.
- Zikuchitika kuti mwamuna samaganizira kuti mkaziyo amagwira ntchito, koma nthawi yomweyo amanyalanyaza phindu la ntchito yake, poganizira ntchito imeneyi ngati chidole cha mkazi wovutika.
- Komanso palinso anthu oyenerera - mtundu wapadera wa amuna amphamvu. Amayesetsa kuti mkazi wake akhale woyenera. Amakakamiza mkazi wake kuti azigwira ntchito ndi kuphunzira pokhapokha kuti, malinga ndi maganizo ake, amalemekezeka kuti amatsatira mfundo zake, ndipo amatha kudzitamandira pakati pa anzake komanso anzake. Mkazi amasiyanitsidwa ndi dziko lapansi ndi zikhumbo zake. Amadzimva kuti ali mwana, amadalira kwathunthu, m'thupi loipitsitsa komanso lachisoni. Kuzunza maganizo koteroko kumathandiza kuti pakhale matenda enieni. Kulephera kwa ufulu ndi kudzidzimva kumathandizira kuchitika kwa mutu, kupanikizika, kudwala. Zili choncho kuti mkazi amupatsa ufulu kuti akhale wofooka.
- Kukhumudwa kwa chikhulupiliro ndi udindo wa munthu wolimba ndikuti amadzipangira yekhayekha kwa mkazi wake nayenso, amadziwa yekha ndi momwe angachitire molondola, komanso kuti akwaniritse zotsatira zake, zonsezi ziyenera kulamulidwa, zomwe nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kwambiri zosokoneza. Mzimayi akudalira mwamuna wake, akukhumudwitsa kuti zofuna zake ndi malingaliro ake saganizidwe.
- Kukhoza kudziteteza kumasanduka chisokonezo ndi kusamvana, ndipo mawu aliwonse a malingaliro anu angapangitse kukhumudwitsa. Mwamuna ndi wamkulu ndipo izi sizinafotokozedwe.
Kawirikawiri akazi samadziwa momwe angagwirizanane ndi munthu wamphamvu kuti asunge ubale komanso kuti asatayike. Choyamba, amafunikira kumvera kwathunthu, posinthanitsa kupereka chisamaliro ndi chitetezo. Komabe, pokwaniritsa kuperekera, mwamuna amasiya chidwi ndi ulemu kwa mkazi. Pamene mtsikana wamng'ono amatsutsa ndi kutsutsa mphamvu ya mwamuna wake,
Amayi samakhalanso osasunthika: amafuna kukhala ofooka ndi kudalira mwamuna, koma sakonda kukhala wodalirika komanso kumumvera. Ndikufuna kusonyeza mphamvu ndi ufulu. Munthu akamaloleza, amadandaula za kufooka kwake. Zimatanthawuza kuti munthu wamphamvu ndi wofooka sakuyenerera mkazi kwathunthu. Mmodzi samamulolera kuti afotokoze yekha, ndipo winayo samakulolani kuti muzimasuka ndi kumverera ngati mkazi. Koma, anthu abwino alibe ndipo pamapeto pake zonse zimadalira ife tokha.