Gwirizanani kuti nthawi zina moona, kubwera mumbiri kuchokera kwa munthu wina, nthawi zonse kumakhudza thanzi lanu ndi ubale wanu ndi munthu uyu. Nthawi zina zimachitika kuti iwe, popanda kuzindikira, mutembenuzire moyo mkati, ndikudzimva wekha wopanikizika pambuyo pake, chifukwa interlocutor sanalandire zomwe akuyembekezera.
Tiyeni tiyesetse kudziwa kuti ndi maganizo otani omwe amadzibisa mwayekha, zoona, kukhulupilira komanso ngati kuli koyenera kukhala munthu wodzipereka nthawi zonse.
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Kulankhulidwa, zoona ndilo kufuna kwa munthu kuti adziwonetse yekha kwa munthu, kuti adziwe zomwe zabisika kwa ambiri. Mu njira zambiri, kulankhula momasuka kungakhale kowawa, chifukwa mwachibadwa kuti munthu abise zovuta, zowawa, nthawi za moyo, ndi zina zotero, kuti iye apite kutali.
Nthaŵi zambiri, munthu akamangokhalira kukondana naye, mbali yake yobisika, kwa ena, sangamvetsetse. Amamva chisoni. Munthu woteroyo akhoza kunyozedwa, kukanidwa, zomwe zidzasokoneza ubwenzi wapamtima ndi interlocutor. Otsatirawa, osakhoza kulowa mmalo mwanu, kuti amvetse zomwe zikukuvutitsani, ndi mawu akuti "Zikomo chifukwa cha zoona", pofika poyera adzawonekera ndikupita kutali, poipa kwambiri - kufotokozani kusakonda kwanu mwachindunji maso anu.
Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti, musanayese kunena zakukhosi kwanu kwa anthu ena, nthawi zambiri mumaganizira za chisankho chanu, kaya chili choyenera, chifukwa munthu aliyense ali ndi moyo wake, mfundo zake ndi zofunikira zake, komanso pamene interlocutor ali kutali ndi inu maganizo ake pa moyo, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuti iye avomereze zoona zanu.
Pali malo omwe ali pa intaneti a akatswiri a maganizo, omwe ali ndi mutu wakuti "Pafupi ndi matenda a psychotherapy omwe amakhala okhutira kwambiri". Pano, akatswiri amanena za chikhumbo cha munthu kukhala wodzipereka, ndi zina zotero. Kotero, zimanenedwa kuti nthawi zina moona mtima ungagwiritsidwe ntchito ndi munthu chifukwa cha dyera, monga kusokoneza.
Nkhani za Frank zimathandizira kulamulira anthu osadziwa omwe amakhulupirira mosavuta ma epithets omwe amamveka ndi nkhani. Cholinga chachikulu cha anthu okhudzidwa ndi chidwi chawo ndi kukakamiza anthu ochita zoyenera kuchita. Kawirikawiri, munthu wosayera amayamba kuchita chimodzimodzi zomwe interlocutor akumuuza.
Komanso, kuwonetsera chiyanjano ndi munthu wina kapena zochitika zina kungakhale njira yoyendetsera. Kawirikawiri, zomwe "wogonjetsedwa" amachita ndikuti zimakhudza mtima, ndipo mnzanuyo, ali ndi mwayi wabwino kwambiri wokuthandizani kukhumudwa.
Kulankhulira ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yowonjezerapo wokambirana naye ku zokambirana zoyenera. Mwachitsanzo, mumanena moona mtima za chikondi chosasangalatsa. Ndipo inu, poyankhira, nthawi zina osadziwa, mugawana zolakwika ndipo mutatha kuphunzira kuchokera kwa wothandizana nawo nkhani zomwe simunamvepo kale komanso msilikali wawo wamkulu.
Pothandizidwa ndi kutseguka, anthu ena amakonda kubisala, kusonyeza maluso awo, "I" awo kuchokera kumbali yabwino.
Kuchokera pamalingaliro a maganizo, munthu yemwe amamuuza moona mtima chinachake, amayesera kuti athetse ubale ndi
Anthu omwe amagwirizana kwambiri ndi inu popanda zolinga zadyera, malinga ndi E. Hagen, amatchedwa umunthu watsopano. Kulunjika kwawo ndi kulekerera zimasonyeza khalidwe lovomerezeka kwa ena, chikhumbo chawo chokonzekera ndi kuyambira.
Choncho, kunena zoona kungakhale khalidwe labwino komanso loipa. Zonse zimadalira omwe mukuyesera kuti muwonetse.