Aliyense akulakalaka kukonza chifuniro chake, chifukwa anthu amadziwa kuti izi zimakhudza moyo wamtsogolo m'zinthu zambiri: maubwenzi ndi achibale, kupambana pa ntchito zamalonda, umoyo wabwino ndi thanzi. Pali njira zambiri zomwe zingathandize omwe akufuna kudziwa momwe angakhalire ndi kulimbikitsa kufuna kwawo.
Nchifukwa chiyani anthu amafunikira mphamvu?
Kulimbika kungatanthauzidwe kukhala mphamvu yotsogolera zoyesayesa za munthu kuti akwaniritse zotsatira zake zosiyana ndi zofuna za munthu. Munthu wolimba mtima yemwe ali ndi mphamvu yaikulu sakhudzidwa ndi kunja. Amatsutsidwa ndi makhalidwe oipa monga uchidakwa, kusuta fodya, kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kudalira masewera a pakompyuta. Pali lingaliro lomwe lidzakhala lamphamvu - ichi ndi chikhalidwe, ndipo khalidwe liyenera kukhala lokhazikika. Kuti mukhale chitsanzo, kuti mupeze ulemu ndi kuvomerezedwa, ndi kuti mukwaniritse bwino pamoyo, nthawi zambiri mumayenera "kumangirira pamtima wanu nyimbo."
Kulimbika ndi momwe munthu amachitira ndi mkangano wamkati ndi momwe amachitira ndi kukhudzidwa mwadzidzidzi kapena kukhumba ndipo zimadalira pa mlingo wodziletsa. Kafukufuku waposachedwapa m'munda wa ntchito za ubongo wasonyeza kuti imvi imatha kuyankhapo kanthu kena kamene kamapindula ndipo, malingana ndi iyo, ikhoza kusinthidwa, imatha kunenedwa kukhala "wodekha". Izi zikutanthauza kuti, pamene munthu amawerengera, zimakhala zosawerengeka, ndipo ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito nthawi zonse, mukhoza kulimbitsa kayendetsedwe kake . Kudziletsa sikuli kosiyana ndi malamulo ndi kuyamba kudziphunzitsa nokha, mukhoza kukwaniritsa mapiri odabwitsa pankhaniyi.
Mmene tingakhalire ndi kulimbitsa mphamvu za malingaliro?
- Phunzirani zofooka zanu . Mungapereke chitsanzo cha munthu woledzera yemwe sakumvetsa kuti akudwala. Ngakhale sakuzindikira kuti ali wodalirika, sangathe kuchotsa. Kudziwa chomwe chimapangitsa munthu kudzipereka, kumathandiza monga kuthandizira ndikuthandizira kuthetsa "misampha" imene mphamvuyo imatulutsa malo ake.
- Chitani zomwe mukufuna zosachepera . Ulesi ndi zofooka zokha zimalepheretsa anthu kuthana ndi ntchito zina. Ndikofunika kulipatsa nkhondo, kuletsa ndi chipiriro. Sichiletsedwa kudzilimbikitsanso nokha, mwachitsanzo, kufuna kutaya thupi, koma osafuna kupita ku masewera, mukhoza kudzikakamiza nokha, kukulimbikitsani ndi momwe mwatsatanetsatane chiwonetsero chidzakhalira chovala, ndi zina zotero.
- Kusagwirizana ndi kukhulupirika . Kuchita zabwino kungapangidwe pokhapokha ngati njirayi idzakhala yopitirira komanso yosatha. Kungakhale kupusa kukonzekera maphunziro a nthawi imodzi ndikuyembekeza kulemera thupi tsiku limodzi. Koma sikuti mumangodzilimbikitsanso nokha, komanso kuti mutamandidwe chifukwa cha chipiriro, komanso kuti musangalatse ndikuchita zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo. Kudziletsa ndi kofunika kwambiri pakuphunzitsidwa.
- Kudziwonetsera nokha . Sizodabwitsa kuphunzira njira ya kupuma bwino, kuyamba kusinkhasinkha kapena kuwerenga zovomerezeka . Pachifukwa chotsatira, muyenera kunena monga: "Ndimasankha njira yatsopano yolingalira ndekha. Ndikhoza, ndikupambana, chifukwa ndiyenera kukhala wokongola, wopambana, wolemera, "ndi zina zotero.
- Chikhumbo cholimba chokhala bwino . Mwamuna amapanga zizolowezi zake ndi mavuto ake, kukwaniritsa zosowa zake zomwe. Koma ngati atapeza njira yabwino komanso yolondola kuti akwaniritse zosowazi, ndiye kuti vuto lidzathetsedwa.
- Musasankhe mofulumira . Mukhoza kudzipatsa mwayi woganiza, kulingalira. Njira yabwino yothetsera nkhawa ndiyo kusokoneza, ndipo pakuwonjezera mphamvu yanu, mungathe kuchita zomwezo, mwinamwake zingathe kutopa.
Ndi momwe mungakhalire amphamvu, apamwamba, olimba mtima kwambiri, koma ndikofunika kuti musapambanitse ndipo musayembekezere zosatheka, chifukwa aliyense ali ndi ufulu wa zofooka zazing'ono.