Kukhumudwa nthawizonse kumalepheretsa kupsinjika kwa zopanda pake - pa gawolo la chidziwitso kumene malingaliro athu, ziyembekezo ndi maloto anali kusungidwa, mwadzidzidzi amalowetsedwa ndi dzenje limene amanyoza, kumva kuti alibe thandizo komanso kusowa chiyembekezo. Kukhumudwa kwakukulu kaŵirikaŵiri kumaphatikizidwa ndi kupsinjika maganizo, zokhudzana ndi kuti sitimva ngati ambuye a moyo wathu.
Tiyeni tiganizire za vuto limene limatanthauza anthu: mnzanu kapena abwenzi, achibale, ogwira nawo ntchito, ndi zina zotero. Izi zikutanthauza kuti wina sanatsatire zomwe tikuyembekeza. Winawake, monga momwe adasonyezera, alibe makhalidwe omwe timapatsa nawo. Ganizirani zachinsinsi chomwe chili mu tanthauzoli. Moyenera: "tikuyembekezera", "tinaganiza", "tikuyembekezera". Ndipo tinakhumudwa. Choncho, musanamve kupweteka kwa kukwiya, kumbukirani kuti munthu amene mumamukwiyira alibe makhalidwe kapena zolinga zomwe mumamuuza. Chokhumudwitsa chachikulu ndi, monga lamulo, malingaliro athu akuluakulu. Mu maloto, timakwera kwambiri, ndipo zimatipweteka kugwa.
Inde, pozindikira izi, pali chiyeso chachikulu choyamba kudzidzudzula: chifukwa chodzidalira kwambiri, kulota ndi kukonzekera. Koma kumbukirani mawu a Sarah Churchill: "Ngati mutha kukhumudwitsa anthu, ndiye kuti mudakali aang'ono." Musadzidzudzule nokha: Tonsefe tiri chabe ophunzira m'dziko lino, ndipo tonsefe tili ndi ufulu kulakwitsa.
Kodi mungatani kuti muthane ndi mavuto?
- Lekani kulingalira anthu ndi zochitika. Zokhumudwitsa zambiri zimachokera mu chizolowezichi.
- Tengani udindo pa zonse zomwe zikukuchitikirani. Mphindi iliyonse ndi kutembenuka kwa zochitika ndi zotsatira za zochita zanu ndi njira yoganiza. Tengerani moyenera, ndipo musaimbe mlandu kwa ena, potero mutenge nokha mphamvu yanu yopanda malire.
- Lankhulani ndi kumvetsera. Kukhumudwitsidwa kwakukulu kwa anthu kumachitika mwachindunji kuti sitikudziwa momwe tingalankhulire, komanso chofunika kwambiri, kumvetsera. Lemezani maganizo ndi malingaliro a ena, kambiranani zomwe mukuyembekezera kuchokera kwa iwo, ndipo mvetserani mwatcheru kuyankha kwawo. Musalowe m'malo mwa mayankho awo ndi makonzedwe omwe kale anali pamutu mwanu. Mvetserani ndipo simudzakhumudwa.
- Kusiya ufulu kuti ena akhale osiyana ndi inu. Dziwani kuti njira ina yoganiza si "yolakwika." Kupeza mwayi wokhala ndi malingaliro osiyana, osagawaniza dziko lapansi kukhala lakuda ndi loyera, mumakulitsa kwambiri malire a chidziwitso chanu ndi mtundu wanu m'mizere yosiyanasiyana.
- Musati muwononge maganizo anu omwe. Ngati mumakhumudwa, kukhumudwa ndi kukhumudwa, muzilandire. Musakhale ndi manyazi chifukwa chokhumudwa, alipo kale, ndipo pa gawo ili lamoyo izi ndi zachilendo. Izi ndi phunziro lomwe liyenera kuperekedwa, ndipo zomwe zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale bwino. Mmalo momangoganizira za maganizo oipa, ganizirani zabwino.
- Kukhumudwa kwathunthu kumadza ndi kuvutika maganizo kwakukulu. Dzidodometseni nokha mwa kukhazikitsa zolinga ndi mwayi watsopano. Mu izi, kachiwiri, kusanthula malingaliro anu kudzakuthandizani. Mwachitsanzo, pozindikira zimenezo
mumakhumudwa ndi bwenzi lanu, musamangomva kuti mumakonda kwambiri mnzanu. Fufuzani chifukwa chodziwonetsera nokha, kulankhulana ndi anzanu ena ndi kukhala bwenzi lenileni kwa ena. - Anthu odalirika ndi moyo. Ngati mukufuna chinachake, musayembekezere kwa ena, koma khulupirirani. Kudziletsa nokha, mumapangitsa moyo wanu kukhala wosauka.
- Pewani kudzimvera chisoni kwa chikondi. Maganizo awiriwa sali ofanana, oyambirira - amakulepheretsani mphamvu, ndipo yachiwiri amapanga mbuye wa moyo wanu. Ngati mumadzikonda nokha, ndiye kuti simungathe kuika ena chiyembekezo.