Pakadali pano, kugonana pambuyo paukwati kukuwonekera, mobwerezabwereza, osati nthano, kapena, monga zochitika zosawerengeka, kuposa chochitika chenichenicho. Ambiri mwa mfundo za amayi amasiya zakale, zomwe zimasunga chiyero kwa wokondedwa wawo komanso munthu yekhayo wa moyo. Komanso sizinagwiritsidwe ntchito masiku ano ndi khalidwe la munthu yemwe anali wofala pakati pa zaka za m'ma 500 mpaka pamene adakwatirana pambuyo pa usiku umodzi wa chilakolako ndi chikondi.
M'malo mwa zonsezi, pali njira zambiri zomwe mungadziwire momwe zibwenzi zimagwirizanirana pabedi (chikhalidwe, horoscope, gulu la magazi komanso miyeso). Mitu yokhudza kugonana ikukulirakulira monga pakati pa abwenzi, abwenzi, kuntchito, ngakhale pakati pa ana a sukulu. Choncho, lingaliro loti kaya pali kugonana pambuyo pa ukwatiwo, mochuluka kumatenga mawonekedwe a nthabwala kapena mtundu wina wa nthano.
Komabe, palinso anthu omwe ali ndi maganizo otsutsana ndi usiku waukwati wa okwatiranawo, poyerekeza ndi zomwe zimavomerezedwa. Ndipo tsatirani mfundo yakuti pokhapokha atakwatirana adzakhale ndi kugonana koyamba m'moyo wawo. Ndipo pali anthu oterewa. Komanso, amapanga midzi, mabungwe a anthu amalingaliro (monga, bungwe la Akatolika "Kusuntha kwa mitima yoyera").
Pali ubwino wambiri kuti kugonana kumatha pambuyo paukwati. Tisaiwale kuti mayi yemwe sanalipo kwa mwamuna wake asanakwatirane, mwamuna wake amamukonda kwambiri. Kotero, zolinga zake ziri zoyera, ngati atatsutsa mayesero otere, omwe si mphamvu ya munthu aliyense, koma kwa yemwe ali ndi mphamvu zambiri. Nthawi zonse amalemekeza mkazi wake, koma amakhala ndi mwayi wochepa kuti amusiye.
Phindu la kugonana pambuyo pa ukwati
Choncho, tiyeni tione kugwirizana kwa okwatirana kuchokera kumbali yabwino:
- Kugonana pambuyo paukwati sikokhalitsa kokha, komabe kumatha kupititsa patsogolo moyo wa chikondi ndi nthawi ya msuzi.
- Kugonana pambuyo paukwati kumathandiza kuteteza motsutsana ndi zolakwika zomwe mnzanuyo angakhoze kusiya mkazi atangomulanda. Amayi omwe akulota mphete yachitsulo pamakona azing'ono amakhala opindulitsa kwambiri.
- Ubale wapamtima woyamba wa okwatiranawo umayambitsa chilakolako chawo chogonana.
- Kugonana pambuyo paukwati kumathandiza kulimbikitsa uzimu wa ubale wanu, kumabweretsa ogwirizana ndipo ndi chigamulo chakuti ubale wanu uli ndi mphamvu zabwino. Kuwonjezera apo, pali chikhulupiliro kuti ngati mwamuna ndi mkazi saleka kukhala ndi zibwenzi zogonana asanalowe m'banja, zimawathandiza kupanga zolinga zabwino za m'tsogolo.
- Komanso, kugonana koteroko ndi mtundu wotsimikiziranso ubale ndi choonadi, nyonga, kuwona mtima kwa malingaliro a abwenzi omwe akugwirizana ndi wina ndi mnzake. Kugonana kokha pambuyo paukwati ndi chizindikiro cha kulemekeza wokondedwa wake.
Komanso, sikungakhale zopanda nzeru kuyesa kugonana musanalowe m'banja, zomwe zidzamveketse bwino chifukwa chomwe kugonana pambuyo pa banja kumakhudza kwambiri moyo waukwati.
- Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti maanja omwe agonana asanalowe m'banja amayamba nthawi zambiri kuposa omwe amasankha kukhala oyera pamaso pa banja.
- Kugonana pamaso paukwati - njira inayake yamoto. Ndipotu, okwatirana omwe amagonana, amapewa vutoli. Kawirikawiri, mmalo moyang'anitsitsa mu nkhope yake, amasankha kugonana.
- Kugonana musanakwatirane sikumasiyanitsa chikondi ndi chikondi. Pamene zikutitsimikizira kuti maziko a chikondi sali kanthu koma thupi
zosangalatsa, malingaliro a okondedwa ali ofooka ndipo amangowasunga okha ndi kugonana.
Mndandanda wa phindu la kugonana pambuyo paukwati ndi kuipa kwa ubale wapamtima musanakwatirane ukhoza kupitilira kwa nthawi yaitali. Ndipo mtsikana aliyense ali ndi ufulu wosankha ngati adzalandira chiyero kapena kukana ziphunzitso zakale, kudzipereka kwa wokondedwa wake asanakwatirane naye. Aliyense ali ndi udindo pa moyo wake, koma chofunika ndi chakuti zisankho ziyenera kupangidwa mosamala. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri - musataye nthawi pazomwe zilibe kanthu.