Ndi kunyalanyaza m'moyo muli ambiri, koma momwe mungachitire ndi chodabwitsa ichi sichidziwika kwa onse. Pakalipano, m'pofunikira kuphunzira njira zodzizitetezera za mtima wanu wokha, chifukwa anthu onyoza amatha kusokoneza maganizo, kudzichepetsa ndi kudzidalira , kudzipangitsa manyazi.
Kodi mungatani ngati mukuchita zinthu mwamtendere?
Psychology imalimbikitsa kuchitapo kanthu mwachinyengo monga choipa chosakanikirana koma chosapeŵeka. Kuchokera kwa anthu omwe ali ndi malingaliro oipa ndi chikhalidwe sangathe kubisala, kotero muyenera kuphunzira kuti mukhale odekha ndi oyenera.
Choyamba, muyenera kuyesa kudziwa chomwe chimapangitsa munthu kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi chosowa kwambiri cha makampani. Izi zikhoza kukhala zosalimba zamkati kapena zamkati, kudzichepetsa, zomwe, kuphatikizapo, zikuphatikizidwa ndi kulera bwino, komwe sikulola kuyankha mokwanira kwa munthu wokwiya. Kuti muteteze nokha, muyenera kuonetsetsa kuti ndinu wotsimikiza, wodalirika komanso wochititsa chidwi, ndiye aliyense wodziteteza angaganize katatu kuti ndibwino kuti atsogolere zoipa zake.
Kuti modzichepetsa muchitapo manyazi, muyenera kudzipereka nokha pamalo oyenera. Hamu ndi munthu wofooka, wosalephera yemwe satha kupirira maganizo ake komanso kusayanjanitsika kwake, choncho amayesetsa kuti adziwonetsere ena. Lembani mawu achipongwe ngati munthu wachabechabe, wosachiritsika, ndiye kuti adzapweteka, ndi kuyesayesa kwake - kuseka.
Pamene kuyankhula kwa boor n'kofunikira, "valani" chigoba chosalephera, chipinda. Mungathe kulingalira chithunzi kuchokera ku njoka ya Krylov - njovu ikubwera, ndipo Moska wopusa akudumphira, akuwombera, koma sangathe kuchita chirichonse. Ngati mukufunikira kulankhula ndi boor - simukuyenera kuima pa malo a msilikali. Kuti muyankhule mu nkhaniyi, muyenera kukhala mwamphamvu, mwamtendere ndi molimba mtima, popanda kumira chifukwa cha zifukwa. Kunyada ndi kuyimba muyankhidwe - izi ndizo malo otetezera, zomwe zidzamupangitsa wotsutsa kuti apitirize kuyankhula momveka bwino.
Mmene mungachitire ndi mchitidwe wamanyazi wa mwamuna kapena wokondedwa?
Kunyenga kwa mnzako, wogwira naye ntchito ndi wogulitsa m'sitolo ndi chinthu chosasangalatsa, koma chokhazikika mosavuta. Koma pamene wokondedwa kapena mwamuna wake ndi wamwano, pazochitika zoterozo njira yothetsera vutolo imafunikira kwambiri.
Chofunika kwambiri pochita zinthu mwankhanza kuchokera kwa munthu wapafupi ndikumvetsa zomwe zimayambitsa. Ngakhale kuti nthawi yomweyo muyenera kuzindikira - "chizindikiro" ichi pazinthu zabwino sizinene, ndipo mwachiwonekere, munthu wamantha angathe kupereka "zodabwitsa" zambiri zosautsa.
Choyamba, tifunika kunena za vuto limene lingakhale loyenerera. Munthu wokwanira, ngati ali wotopa komanso mwakuthupi, amafuna kuti akhale yekha - "amapita kuphanga lake". Ngati mkazi ayesa kumudetsa nkhawa, akhoza kuyamba kuchita zinthu mwachinyengo, ndipo phindu loyambirira ndilo kuti munthu ayenera kupatsidwa nthawi yoti ayambe kubwezeretsa, koma pambuyo pake tikhoza kunena kuti mawu ake amawapweteka kwambiri. Munthu wachikondi ayenera kupepesa ndikupatsanso mkazi wake njira zogwira mtima.
Vuto lachiwiri lachidziwikire ndi kusintha kwakukulu kwa mwamuna pambuyo pa nthawi yukwati.
Pankhaniyi, mwamuna ayambe kukambirana, afotokoze kuti khalidwe lake limapweteka (yemwe amadziwa, mwinamwake kusangalala kwake sikokwanira). Ngati zokambiranazo sizikuthandiza, ndipo mwamuna kapena mkazi wake akupitirizabe "kulimbikitsa" mkazi wake wokondedwa, kapena kuti amakangana nthawi zonse, ayenera kugawanika ndi munthu woteroyo. Ndipo kuopa kutaya banja kungachititse kuti abambo aphunzire kudziletsa, ndipo ngati izi sizichitika - mkazi akhoza kupulumutsa nthawi ndi mitsempha.