Mmene mungakhalire mukumenyana?

Pofuna kuthetsa mkangano ndi kudziwa momwe mungakhalire bwino mukumenyana, ndikofunikira kusankha chitsanzo choyenerera pazochitika zinazake. Pali njira zingapo zothandizira kutuluka mkangano, zomwe zimapereka madalitso ena kwa ophunzira.

Njira zamakhalidwe muzolimbana

Anthu ambiri sakudziwa momwe angakhalire mukumenyana. Malinga ndi akatswiri, nkhondoyi ndi yosavuta kupewa pachiyambi. Mwachitsanzo, ngati kumayambiriro kwa kukambitsirana, wogwirizanitsayo anayamba kuchita zinthu mosakwanira - kukweza mawu ake, kusintha mawu ake, kuwonekera "zolemba" zazinyalanyaza ndi zonena zopanda nzeru, ayenera kuletsa pansi ndi kulola wopikisanayo kuti alankhule. Monga lamulo, zimakhala zovuta kukhala chete mukumenyana. Koma nkofunikira kuchita izi, kuti munthu ayankhule, ndipo wina amatha kumvetsa kusakhutira kwake pokonzekera zifukwa zomwe zingathetse mpikisanowo. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, ndikofunikira kumvetsa kufunikira kwa izi. Pambuyo pake, ngati munthu - "wokonda" ndi mnzanu wapamtima kapena wachibale, khalidwe lopanda kuganizira mukumenyana kungayambitse mkwiyo, zomwe zingayambitse ubale wosokonezeka.

Pali zochitika pamene munthu akulowetsa mkanganoyo kuti azitha kuyanjanitsa, akudikirira momwemo. Pankhaniyi, poganizira za momwe mungatulukire mukumenyana, muyenera kuziganizira ndikuyankha kwa mdaniyo ndi bata ndi kumwetulira. Mukhozanso kuyesa kuthetsa vutolo ndi nthabwala, koma pokhapokha. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, ndikofunika kulola womulankhulana kumvetsetsa kuti ali ndi chidwi ndi kuthetsa mwamtendere kwa nkhaniyi.

Pali pafupifupi mabanja omwe sakudziwa kuti amakangana. Zimakwiyitsa kwambiri pamene pali kutsutsana ndi wokondedwa. Akatswiri a zamaganizo apeza zifukwa zingapo, chifukwa cha mikangano ya banja yomwe ikuchitika:

1. Kusamalirana wina ndi mnzake. Komanso, popanda kuzindikira, abwenziwo amanyozedwa, amanyozetsana. Chifukwa chake, pali kusowa kwa kudalira. Motero, nsanje yopanda pake ndi zonyansa.
2. Kusakwatirana pachibwenzi. Patapita kanthawi, kukonda ndi chinsinsi kumatha. Ndipo pali moyo wosasangalatsa komanso wosangalatsa.
3. Chiyembekezo chosagwirizana cha zizindikiro kuchokera ku moyo wa banja.
4. Kusamalidwa, chifundo, chisamaliro ndi kumvetsetsa.
5. Zowonjezera zomwe anthu okwatirana amafuna.

Ngati mkangano umayamba m'banja, muyenera kuyesa kumasulira kuti mukhale mkangano. Inu simungakhoze kupita kunyoza umunthu. Pambuyo pake, cholinga chachikulu chidzakhala kuchititsa manyazi mnzanuyo. Pa mkangano wotero sipadzakhala wopambana. Tiyenera kuyesa kulankhula, osati kuti tipeze chilichonse mwa ife tokha. Malinga ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, anthu okwatirana omwe ali osakondana amakhala osangalala kwambiri kuposa omwe amakhala chete.

Njira yothetsera mikangano

Nthawi ina mukamenyana, m'pofunika kumvetsetsa kuti zotsatira zokha za nkhondoyo zimadalira njira yosankhidwiratu. Njira zabwino kwambiri zowonongeka ndizogwirizana. Kusiyanitsa kumatanthauza kugwirizana pakati pa maphwando, ndipo kugwirizana ndi phindu limodzi. Kuti mukwaniritse njira yachiwiri, Tiyenera kuika patsogolo mgwirizano, ngakhale mu zovuta kwambiri.

Mukhoza kuthetsa vutoli mwa kupuma, molimbika monga momwe mungayang'anire poyamba. Kuwonjezera apo, wina sangathe kutsutsa wotsutsa za malingaliro ake. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa kuti munthu aliyense adzayesera kutsimikizira choonadi chake ndipo sadzafuna kumvetsera kumasulira ndi zifukwa zina. Pakukambirana, nthawi zina ndi bwino kulola wogwirizanitsa kukhala ndi maganizo anu.

Mu moyo weniweni, mikangano sitingapewe kawirikawiri. Izi ziyenera kutengedwa ndipo, ngati pali mikangano, yesetsani kupeza njira yabwino yochotsera zochitika zoterezi.