Chikondi ndikumverera komwe kumatilimbikitsa ndi kumatilimbikitsa. Tikamakonda, timasintha. Maganizo atsopano ndi zinthu zofunika pamoyo. Koma nthawi zambiri timadzipeza tokha mu ukapolo wa zilakolako zathu, kutaya tokha ndi kuzunzidwa ndi kumverera kwa chikondi chopanda chikondi.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo ochokera ku California anapanga kufanana pakati pa chikondi cholimba, chomwe chinakhala chizoloŵezi chopweteka cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Ndipo kuphwanya limodzi ndi linalo kumabweretsa kuwonongeka. Monga achidakwa, akazi achikondi "amakhala pansi" mu ululu ndi kuvutika.
Nthawi zambiri timamva mau akuti: "Ndili wokonzeka kuti ndimuchitire kanthu", koma timaiwala kuganiza, koma kodi tikufunikira? Mosakayika, amayi omwe adapereka ntchito zawo, omwe adaika miyoyo yawo pamapazi a mwamuna wake, omwe adasanduka malo awo osungirako zinthu ndikukhala ndi moyo wosangalala chifukwa cha okwatirana awo - akuyenera kulemekezedwa. Koma akakhala osangalala pamene mwamuna amachitira mwachikondi ndipo amayamikira nsembe yoteroyo. Koma kodi ndi koyenera kukhala kapolo wachikondi kwa munthu yemwe sali woyenera chikondi ichi, yemwe amasangalala ndi ukapolo wanu, amakuseka iwe ndipo samateteza maganizo ako?
Zinthuzo ndizozoloŵera: mnyamatayo amatha kusokonezeka kwinakwake, samayankha maitanidwe ndipo samadzitcha yekha. Kutenga kwa zana la zana la nambala yake, iwe umapita kukafunafuna wokondedwa. Okonzeka kupita kulikonse, chofunika kwambiri, kuti analipo. Chikumbumtima chanu chimapanga zithunzi ndi zofuula zoopsya zomwe zinachitika kwa iye. Pitani kuzungulira malo omwe amamuchezera ndikumupeza m'bwalo limodzi ndi abwenzi (chabwino, ngati muli ndi abwenzi!) Kumwa mowa. Ali wamoyo ndipo samuvulaza. Kudzitemberera nokha ndi chikondi chako, kumenyera kunyumba ndi kutsimikiza kotheratu kuti simudzadzidzimitsa nokha ndikuthamangira wina yemwe sakusowa inu. Koma chirichonse chimabwereza mobwerezabwereza. Wakhala kapolo wa chikondi chako.
Nthawi zina chikondi chosasangalatsa chimatenga zaka zambiri, kumabweretsa mavuto komanso kuvutika. Pachifukwa ichi, nkofunika kusonkhanitsa mphamvu zonse ndikuziika nokha ndikudziuza nokha "Imani."
Bwanji kuti musakhale kapolo wa chikondi?
Ngati chikondi chimabala zowawa zokha, ndiye kuti munthu ayenera kupulumutsidwa. Zimatha kukuonongani ngati munthu ndikutsogolera kuumphawi. Kuti muchotse izo muyenera kudzikonda nokha.
Kuti mudzithandize nokha, gwiritsani ntchito malangizo kuchokera kwa akatswiri a maganizo:
- Kuponderezana. Njira ya mphero yadziwika kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo imakhala yothandiza kwambiri. Mukayamba kuwona ena, achinyamata omwe akuzungulirani, mutha kuchoka kumanda omwe adafa. Ichi chidzakhala chiyambi choyamba kuchiza. Koma ngati ubale wanu watopa kwambiri moti simukufuna kuganizira za amuna, ndiye kuti mugwiritsenso ntchito chinthu china. Zingakhale zosangalatsa zatsopano, kuphunzira, ntchito, chirichonse, chinthu chachikulu ndikuti ntchito imagonjetsa malingaliro onse okhudza wokondedwa.
- Debunking wa nthano. Aliyense amadziwa kuti anthu akhungu amakonda kwambiri. Yesetsani kuwona bwino ndipo mudzawona zolephera zingapo kubisala osankhidwa anu. Ikani icho kuchokera pa chopondapo pansi ndipo muzindikire kuti izo siziri zoyenera chikondi choterechi. Musakhale kapolo wa chikondi kwa munthu wosayenera.
- Dzikondeni nokha. Wakhala mukulephera kutsatira chikondi ndi chidwi cha theka lanu lachiwiri kwa nthawi yayitali kuti mwaiwala za inu nokha
ulemu wawo. Yang'anirani nokha, ndinu anzeru, okongola, okoma mtima, ndi zina zotero, munapeza chiyani mwa munthu wosazindikira? Inu mwachiwonekere simukutsatira njira yake.
Chikondi chimene chimasintha munthu kukhala kapolo chimafa. Iye sangakhoze kubweretsa chirichonse chabwino mu moyo wanu. Ndipo pamene utakhala m'ndende, zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kutuluka. Mulimonsemo, ndi kwa inu kusankha ngati mukufuna kukhala kapolo wachikondi. Dziwani kuti chithandizo cha "chizoloŵezi" chanu chidzachitika pokhapokha mutadzimva kuti mukudwala ndipo mukufuna kuchotsa chikondi ichi.