Mwamuna wokwatirana mu ubale wa banja, zambiri zomwe sizingagwirizane nazo: moyo wonyansa, wokonzekera komanso nthawizonse wosakhutira ndi mkazi wake, ana osadziwika. Ndipo ngati mumaganizira kuti zimakhala zotetezeka, zokongola ndi zazing'ono, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti mnzanu wogwira naye ntchito, bwenzi la mkazi wake kapena mnzanu wapamtima amakhala amene mukufuna kumakhala ndikumva kuti akukondedwa komanso akufunikira . M'nkhaniyi, zizindikiro kuti mwamuna wokwatira wagwa m'chikondi.
Kodi mwamuna wokwatira angathe kugwa m'chikondi?
Inde, izo zikhoza, chifukwa palibe munthu, monga iwo amanenera, si wachilendo kwa iye. Ntchito zambiri, kuthera pakhomo nthawi yaying'ono, munthu amachoka kutali ndi chikhulupiriro chake komanso mosadziwa, amayamba kuyang'anitsitsa anthu omwe amamuzungulira nthawi zambiri. Kuonjezerapo, ukwati umafuna kudzipangira wekha, kuthekera kukhululukira ndi kumvera. Kamodzi pa nthawi, maubwenzi achikondi amadya moyo ndi kusamalira ana wamba, ndipo kwenikweni munthu amafuna kuti azikondedwa ndi kulakalaka, amafuna kuti apambane mkazi wake wokondedwa, apatseni mtima ndi kuwalandira. Ndichifukwa chake nthawi zambiri zimakhalapo pamene mwamuna wokwatirana amayamba kukondana ndi wina - mosavuta kukwera, wokongola, wokonzekera bwino, zomwe zimapangitsa kuti azisangalala.
Makhalidwe a mwamuna wokwatirana yemwe adakondana ndi wina
Kuti mumvetse kuti munthu amamva malingaliro ena, amatha kukhala ndi makhalidwe ake, manja, mawu, zochita. Inde, wokwatiridwa ndi banja, adzilamulire yekha, chifukwa chokhacho sichikutsutsana ndi kusonyeza zizindikiro za chidwi, koma mulimonsemo adzapeza njira yowonekera kuti iye alibe chidwi ndi mkazi uyu. Ganizirani malingaliro ake akuthandiza:
- Chilankhulo cha thupi . Mwamuna sangakhoze kukana kuti "mwangozi" asakhudze chinthu cha chilakolako chake, kumupangitsa kumwetulira kapena kutumiza kuyang'ana mwachidwi. Adzayesetsa kuthana ndi malo okondana omwe munthu aliyense ayenera kumverera fungo la thupi, tsitsi lake.
- Kusamalira mkazi yemwe iye ankamukonda . Ngati uyu ndi wothandizana naye, apereka thandizo lake kuntchito, kenaka apereka kuti ayendetsere kunyumba. Adzayitana bwenzi la mkazi wake nthawi zambiri kukachezera ndi kusamala kuti zakudya zomwe amakonda kwambiri zili patebulo. Pa nthawi yomwe mwamuna wokwatirana amayamba kukondana ndi mwamuna wokwatira, adzachita mosamalitsa kwambiri kuti asasokonezedwe, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo athandizira kudzera mwa abwenzi, odziwa, ndi zina zotero.
- Chiwerengero chowonjezeka . Adzakhala ndi nkhawa ndi chilichonse chokhudzana ndi chikondi. Chimene amakonda, komwe amakafuna kukhala, amathera nthawi yodziwana.
- Chonde chonde . Amene akufuna kumvetsetsa kuti ngati mwamuna wokwatira, tiyenera kudziwa kuti adzayang'ana chifukwa chokondweretsa. Adzabweretsa khofi kumayambiriro kwa tsiku logwira ntchito, adzapereka maluwa kapena mphatso iliyonse. Adzagwiritsa ntchito mwayi uliwonse kukhala pafupi ndikusangalala ndi chiyanjano.
Kwenikweni, ngakhale mwamunayo amachitira mwanzeru momwe angathere, mkaziyo amadziwa bwino kuti amamuganizira. Ndi nkhani ina momwe tingachitire pazinthu izi komanso zomwe tiyenera kuchita. Zikuwoneka kuti pokhala ndi chiyanjano cha ubale wapamtima, adzangokhalira kukalowa katatu wachikondi ndi kumvetsetsa kuchokera kwa yemwe angakhale wotayika, ndipo ndani yemwe ali phwando lopambana, sangathe. Kuphatikizanso, mwamuna akhoza kukhala womanizer, anaganiza zosangalatsa kumbali. Osati kuti mukhale razluchnitsey, musalole kuti wina aliyense wa Lovelace, ndibwino kuti mwamsanga mupatse mwamuna kuti amvetse kuti sipadzakhalanso chitukuko cha maubwenzi ndi kuti iye sali mu kukoma kwanu. Inde, muyenera kuchita izi mofatsa komanso popanda kukhudzidwa ndi malingaliro a munthu, chifukwa iye sanachite kanthu kalikonse kwa inu panobe.