"Amuna amasintha, chifukwa mwachibadwa iwo ndi mitala" - mawu oterewa akufanana ndi kukonda kwa wamisala ndipo palibe china. Choyamba, tchulani omwe sadziwa tanthauzo la mawu awa. Chachiwiri, tiyeni tigawane malingaliro a "mitala" ndi "kusakhulupirika."
Pa amuna ndi akazi
Kulingalira za mitala a anthu ayenera kuyamba ndi tanthauzo la mawu awa. Kutembenuza kuchokera ku Chigriki chikwati kapena mitala kumatanthauza ukwati waukulu. Izi zikutanthauza kuti munthu mmodzi ali ndi zibwenzi zambiri. M'mayiko ena kum'maŵa mpaka lero mitala imaloledwa. Choncho, pakadali pano, ndikoyenera kunena za mitala, zomwe zimatanthauza chisamaliro, chithandizo ndi zokhutira zonse za mkazi wake ndi ana onse.
Njira ya amayi ndi yosiyana. Amakhulupirira kuti msungwana mwachilengedwe ayenera kuyesetsa kuti akhale ndi mwamuna mmodzi yekha. Tiye tiyambe kuswa zomwe zilipo kale ndikudzaza "mipata" yathu yonse mu chidziwitso.
"Ndasintha, chifukwa ndili ndi mitala"
Kotero, mwamunayo akuphimba kusakhulupirika kwake ndi zinyama zomwe zatsala ndi makolo ake. Pano pano, mosiyana ndi nyama, munthu, nthawi zambiri, amagonana pofuna zosangalatsa. Chikhumbo chopita "kumanzere" si chifukwa cha chikhumbo chopitiliza banja lanu. Ndipo mitala ya anthu si kanthu kochita ndi. Kupitiliza kuchokera ku tanthauzo la lingaliro ili, poyerekeza ndi khalidwe la munthu, tikuwona kuti palibe yemwe akufulumira kuitana "dona wa mtima" aliyense. Amuna nthawi zina ndi banja limodzi silingathe kukhalapo, osaloledwa kulankhula za ochepa. Tiyenera kukhala osamala kwambiri m'mawu athu ndikuyesera kudzilungamitsa tokha.
Tisaiwale kuti tidakali anthu oganiza bwino, opatsidwa chikumbumtima, chikumbumtima ndi chikhalidwe. Chikhumbo chokhala ndi abwenzi ambiri, kuperekedwa kwa munthu kumalankhula za kusakhoza kukhalabe wokhulupirika. Pakhoza kukhala zifukwa zosiyana izi:
- zaka. Mnyamata, monga lamulo, ndi wotentha komanso wokonda, ndiye chifukwa chake akuyang'ana chikondi ndi zosangalatsa. Ndili ndi zaka, chilakolako cha kugonana chikhoza kuchepa;
- zochitika zamaganizo. Zomwe zimakhala zovuta kwambiri, kugonana ndi chikhalidwe cha vuto la maganizo - zonsezi "zimalimbikitsa" mwamuna kukhala ndi zibwenzi zambiri. Kwa iye, iyi ndi njira ya kudziyimira yekha;
- zochitika zamakhalidwe. Kuchuluka kwa mahomoni amphongo nthawi zina kumaphatikizapo lingaliro lakuti munthu amakhala ndi njala yokhudzana ndi kugonana nthawi zonse.
Kusintha kambiri kwa zibwenzi ndi chifukwa cha umunthu ndi zochitika, koma osati mwa chikhalidwe cha amuna ndi akazi.
Mwa njira, ku funso la akazi. Kubwerera ku lingaliro lathu, palibe lingaliro polankhula za mitala a amayi. Ndi anthu ochepa omwe akusowa amuna angapo, pano ndi wina woti apirire.
Mzimayi amayesetsa kukhala ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi yekha. Komabe, pa kusankha "mwamuna", bambo woyenera kwa ana ake am'tsogolo, amamveka bwino. Asanakwatirane, ikhoza kukhala ndi anthu okwanira. Koma muukwati, monga lamulo, amakhalabe wokhulupirika ndi kudzipereka kwa mwamuna wake.
Nchifukwa chiyani amuna amasintha nthawi zambiri kuposa akazi awo? Chodabwitsa kwambiri, chifukwa chake ndi kuthekera kusintha. Kwa kusintha kulikonse m'banja, mu ubale ndi mkazi, mkazi ndi wosavuta kugwiritsa ntchito kuposa munthu. Kuvuta kwa kusintha kwa zinthu zatsopano kumapangitsa kuti vutoli likhale yankho losavuta pa vutoli - kusintha zinthu ndi zochitika. Ndicho chifukwa chake anthu amayamba okonda, mabanja achiwiri. Mwinamwake iwo amapeza zomwe akusowa kunyumba.
Inde, njira iyi ndi yolakwika ndipo imatsogolera ku imfa. M'malo "kuthawa" muyenera kupeza mphamvu ndi kukhazikitsa ubale ndi mnzanu, kubwereranso kunyumba kwanu.