Nthawi zina m'moyo muli anthu omwe angathe nahamit kapena osalakwa. Anthu ena pa nthawi imeneyi amatha, chifukwa sakudziwa momwe angakhalire bwino. Koma kodi mungamange bwanji munthu pamalo anu kuti musakhumudwitse munthu wina ndipo musadzipangitse nokha?
Munthu amene adzipeza yekha, atha kuchitapo kanthu mwamsanga, koma nthawi zambiri wodwalayo, pozindikira kuti akulamulira "wodwala" wake, amayesa kukwiyitsa ndi kukhumudwitsa kwambiri. Zoonadi, izi sizosangalatsa, choncho munthu aliyense amene amadzipanikiza, amalingalira za momwe angaikire munthu m'malo mothandizidwa ndi maganizo - sayansi yomwe imathandiza ngakhale m'milandu yovuta kwambiri.
Momwe mungaike munthu m'malo?
Kawirikawiri, munthu wobadwa bwino komanso wosakhwima amasonyeza kufooka kwake ndipo amakhala wokhumudwa nthawi zonse chifukwa cha zochitika zoterezi, akuda nkhaŵa kwambiri za kukhala wopanda pake. Izi zikhoza kukupangitsani kuti mulowe, koma simukuyenera kutayika! Zomwe zili mkati mwa munthu aliyense zimathandizira kumutsutsa wolakwirayo, komanso kuti amulepheretse kulakalaka mkangano, ndizofunikira kuti akhale wolimba mtima ndi wofunitsitsa kupereka yankho loyenera.
Ndikoyenera kudziwa kuti munthu sangakhale wamwano kwachinyengo, chifukwa kukambirana koteroko kungasanduke msika. Mu chikhalidwe ichi, boor amamva ngati nsomba m'madzi, koma munthu wobadwa bwino nthawi zonse amakhala ovuta kwambiri ndipo mpata wogonjetsa nkhondo yosalingana idzacheperachepera. Ndi bwino kuti tithe kuchoka pambaliyi popanda kusiya mfundo za munthu, pogwiritsira ntchito ufiti, koma kuti tisamanyoze ndi kukhumudwitsa wolakwayo chifukwa cha kunyada kwake komanso osayima pamlingo wake.
Mmene mungayikitsire munthu pamalo opanda chikwama?
Kawirikawiri, okonda ndi hamam amaphatikizapo anthu omwe ali ndi zovuta zambiri , ndipo makhalidwe awo amangowaphimba. Ngati mutapeza cholakwika chomwecho mwa munthu, mutha kumvetsa zomwe mawu amika munthu pamalo pomwepo. Monga lamulo, awa ndi anthu osatetezeka, otaika, anthu achisoni kapena omwe alibe chidziwitso chochepa cholera ndipo osakayikira za kukhalapo kwodzidalira. Chifukwa cha kusowa maphunziro ndi kusakhala ndi chizoloŵezi cha khalidwe, anthu oterowo nthawi zambiri amalankhula chinyankhulo kuti chilankhulo chawo chikhale chokwiyitsa komanso chokhumudwitsa "wogwidwa". Kwa munthu wophunzitsidwa ndi wophunzira sikudzakhala kovuta kupeza mawu olondola mwachinyengo, koma kumveka kumveka kuphompho kumusiyanitsa iye ndi wolakwira. Munthu amatha kulinganitsa nzeru ndi malingaliro ndi kulingalira kuti palibe amene adzamenyana ndi wotsutsana yemwe amadziwa bwino.
Ngati palibe chilakolako cholowetsa mkangano , mungathe kupeŵa izo ponyalanyaza zovutazo. Mphindi ngati iyi: "Ngati ndifuna kukangana nanu, kapena anthu sadziwa kusiyana pakati pathu," nthawi zonse amasiyanitsa munthu ndi chikhalidwe choipa komanso chinenero choipa.